LDS missionaries???

Question

i have a "boyfriend" thats been out for a year. He's never not e-mailed me and he didn't this week. His last letter was also a little different. what does this mean?? I'm freakin out.... thanks

to answer the question of what i mean by different. His last letter was more just about the basics. he just asked how things were and said that everything was great with him pretty much. (I dunno if that helped at all, i still probably don't make sense.. sorry)

i appreciate all advice, however; i am not needy. and i am so proud that he is out serving. i know he is where he needs to be.
i'm good friends with his best friend and he got an e-mail, so its not just that he didn't have time to e-mail or anything like that....

i just want to thank everyone for the great advice and stories! Its hard to hear but its the truth thanks for helping me see it!! keep on with the great advce!! =)

Answer 1

Be patient. Chances are he still loves you and is just trying to commit himself fully to teaching the gospel. Give him time and be faithful to him. Don't stop writing him, he needs your support. I wish you the best of luck in your relationship.

Answer 2

Before my mission, I had a girlfriend. We decided that while I was serving she would date other people, but we would still write and see how things went. After about a year, I started getting really tired of all the secular things she would write about. I'm not sure it was fair of me, but it happened. I started writing less and less in my letters. There was also a lot of pressure from other missionaries who either didn't have girls waiting, or had already got dear johnned who tried to convince everyone else that it is not good to have a girl wait for you. We slowly drifted apart. When I got home, we met up, and the feelings we had were gone, and we both moved on. She was married about 4 months later to a great guy.

I am not saying this is what is happening in your situation. I'm just letting you know what happened to me. I don't think there is anything wrong with waiting for a missionary. I would suggest maybe trying to make you letters more spirtual, and maybe shorter as well. The key is to not be a distraction. I would highly suggest that you don't bring up his missed week or his "different" letter. That will just get him to thinking about relationship drama instead of spreading the gospel. If you let him focus, I'm sure he will greatly appreciate it.

Good luck,

Dane

Answer 3

I am betting he is just more dedicated now than he was before. I am surprised that he got to email you at all for the first year. In my sisters mission she is only supposed send out one email a week.
Aside from that, my experience has been that it is the missionaries who write less and less about life and more and more about the work that are the dedicated ones. I am sure he was a great missionary before, but maybe now he has stepped it up another level. If he got to listen to the priesthood session, maybe the talk by Elder Perry about exceeding the minimum inspired him to focus even more on the work.
My advice is for you not to worry too much. It sounds like he is alright, and he is out serving the Lord. When he comes home you can resume your relationship.
I know that it might be hard to accept that he is gone for that long, but is being taken care of.

Answer 4

It happens. My missionary(and we're just friends) Eh, writes about the basics, and he's not alowed to e-mail me. He's so excited, and I really respect him. I try to be short and uplifting. Maybe he was in a hurry? Don't jump to conclusions.

If you have already landed on conclusions, then just slow down, and breathe. It could be likely that he isn't interested in you anymore, and if he isn't, then there is nothing you can do. Just keep writing t him,though, and if he really is sick of hearing from you, then he'll tell you, or quit writing, hoping you'll take the hint.

I'm so sorry to hear it though. Feel better!

Answer 5

LDS missionaries are very busy helping people learn and understand God they have very little time for themselves you should be very proud that you have someone that is commited to doing good things now days there are so few young men with knowledge,compassion and faith.to go out and knock on doors to try and talk with people about the Lord never knowing if the door will be slamed in there face or worse rude ,foul remarks made to them about what they do.i have recently become a member of the LDS.one of my elders was a little bit special he had to move on i am 50 yrs but i cried and felt sad but also im so very proud of him we have been through alot i had cancer when i frist met my missionaries i really didn't think i would care to much about what they were preaching they did not preach to me they thought me about faith and our Heavenly Father with patience compassion and faith i was a hard to give myself or want to but they taught me many lessons as i them i believe in who they are and there Commitment for the choice they made being so young giving up so much and to answer my prayers. don't freak out he's giving many the spirit of the Lord and Jesus and The Holy Spirit i thank all missionaries for all they do.I Thank God For Bringing them into my life. so may be we can pray that all is well with your boyfriend may you find patience,understanding and most of all Faith,AMEN Elder Bates I Love And Miss You,GOD BLESS!

Answer 6

A mission is difficult enough without a "needy" girlfriend. The fact that you are "Freakin out" clearly indicates that you are acting needy and that can really turn a guy off. He needs to focus on his mision right now. Keep your communications more positive and uplifting and give him some space to do what he is out there to do. He's not seeing other girls, so just back off a little and I'll bet he comes back around.

Answer 7

It means that you've been anticipating a weekly email that you didn't receive as expected. A lack of evidence is not evidence, so don't jump to conclusions. A long-distance relationship is very hard to manage and sustain. (I will add that at your age, it's a waste of your youth not to explore relationships with other friends, IMHO.) Your best best, says this old guy, is to be supportive of his mission and positive in your next email... and mailing him a box of his favorite cookies wouldn't hurt your situation, either. =)

Answer 8

I would say take a deep breath and see what happens next. He might just be uber busy. But what do you mean by "different"? I don't really understand what that means.

Answer 9

Sometimes they don't have the time to do letters like they would like to. Sometimes, they might be going thru some stuff and don't want to talk about it yet. Who knows? Just pray for him.

Answer 10

you know that a mission matures a missionary, just keep being supportive and wait another year, he's half way there, help him return with honor