how do I gain more self confidence?

Question

I have low-self esteem, I know im not ugly or anything but I dont know, i guess I dont feel comfortable being myself.

Answer 1

Ask yourself, “What would be the worst outcome?” We tend to place excess importance on potential problems—a.k.a.—Worrying ahead syndrome. We have an infinite amount of energy so let’s apply it to creating extraordinary relationships, advancing our careers and meeting our goals INSTEAD of wasting that energy worrying. Take action on what you have control over and minimize risks for what you don’t. Then invest your energy wisely.

Act “As-if.” Act as-if you already have the habit/behavior you desire. If you were confident, “How would you be feeling? What would you be doing? How would you be speaking? What would you be thinking? What would you tell yourself—self-talk?” By asking yourself these questions, you compel yourself to answer them by going into a confident state. You will then be acting “As-if” you are confident. As you continue to act “As-If” you will notice you are acting less and less as your behavior becomes a habit. Within 30 to 45 days you’ll develop it into a natural habit/behavior.

Answer 2

Who would you feel comfortable being? Britney Spears?

As i have written several time now, self esteem is a mental sickness and you don't want it. What you want to do is to be able to accept your self unconditionally. Self esteem is conditional and if you do not meet that condition you think and feel badly about your self. Accepting your self as a fallible human who will never be perfect you can alway think and feel the same of your self.

I met a couple who esteemed themselves as long as they were working and making a lot of money. Then the job loss came and they lost everything. What do you think happened to their self esteem? it went down to nothing and the both ended up very depressed and on medications in therapy. I don't esteem my self but instead accept my self and all my imperfections.

A few years ago i had a accident and no insurance at the time. couldn't work and lost everything. I never got depressed never went on medication, psy meds that is, and knew that when i get my medical problems resolved i would work and get back what i lost. It is only things in the first place and can be replaced. my doctor thinks there is something wrong with me because i don't get depressed but then she is on anti depressants. How could i lose everything and not care. Well i do care i just don't esteem myself, place a value on myself because of what i have or don't have. And self esteem is valuing your self based on some arbitrary belief. I esteem my self because i help people. then the day comes that you need help and down to depression you go since you can't esteem yourself.

Confidence comes with practice. Any athlete will tell you that. anyone that is honestly confident know it take practice practice, and more practice at what ever it is you desire the confidence in. You may say you have seen people that are just confident. i say that they have been practicing all for most all their life an it. And if you question theses people you will find that what i write is true.

Good luck

Answer 3

Learn to love yourself as your are and don't allow others to define what they think you should be.
To a certain extent a large percentage of the world has a low self - esteem thus an equally substantial number of people with no self confidence.
Growing up many of us learn, if you go to school and study hard you will be successful, if you are nice people will be nice to you; it is false messages like that provide the foundation of who we are. When for whatever reason we don't do what society consider good, we lose the ability to believe in ourselves.

Answer 4

positive language (instead of saying, i am not ugly, you have to say 'i am beautiful, pretty or attractive)

and you have to also know that being inconfident is ok...you have to find positive in this...it means that you are smart (only smart people question themselves, stupid people are always happy) and you are also going to learn a lot from this.
then google quotes on self-confidence..trust me you will find a lot of motivation
all i can tell is everyone goes through this...
another thing, whenever you hear people talking badly about you, try to remember that they want to be you but they simply don't know how
good luck!

Answer 5

self esteem is confusing to attain and it takes time, i changed into truly shy and couldnt talk with all of us yet i made associates that were sturdy to loiter round with and that i saved effective and now i can talk with exceptionally a lot everyone. it actual relies upon on your surroundings and how you experience about your self. i understand it sounds lame yet attempt telling your self that you look sturdy contained in the reflect and in case you dont trust it without delay save engaged on it untill you do. oh and arising an ingesting disease isn't a thanks to attain self esteem in reality the precise opposite depriving your body of nutritition may reason many psychological complications consisting of varieties of melancholy it quite is oftentimes acompanied by using paranoia which also fuels self conciousness. Im speaking from years of journey. i am hoping i helped

Answer 6

Read the article on the site below and you will have more self-confidence. It is all about you and how wonderful you really are. You have to learn all about yourself. It has info from top psychologists including Freud.

Answer 7

I can empathize with you; I'll watch the answers with interest but unfortunately I cannot yet provide one.

Answer 8

the best medicine is meditation..it really helps u

Answer 9

try pretending you're someone else for a day.