im pregnant with my exs baby, i was 6 months pregnant when we broke up because he found out that i cheated on him, the first night we started dating. it was a mistake and i regret it. but he also cheated while i was pregnant, im willing to forgive him, but he wont forgive me. but every guy i try to get involved with he wants to beat there "***". and says he doesnt want my daughter around him. and always trys to find an excuse why, yet hes with another girl. We talk everyday. and we usually fight everyday as well. he calls me if i dont call him. so i dont understand. Do you think that theres hope for this relationship or should i just stop trying. im in love with him, but part of me feels like he doesnt love me. i lived with him for a year. and i went recently to get my things as well, and he was all upset about something. when i ask him how he feels about everything, he ignores the questions and changes the subject. is he just scared, or whats up? what do you guys think?
2007-10-13 16:00:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i'd just lay it on the line for him like this: "i really don't want to beat around the bush about this any longer. we are having a child and i want him/her to have their mommy and daddy together. i want to be with you. i think it's the right thing to do for everyone. i can't change what's happened in the past, although i wish i could. but i know what i don't want to happen in our future. please make a decision about this, as i think it's really important for us to be a family for the baby. i love you, you love me, so let's just move forward. why don't you think about what i've said and call me on (monday, tues, etc..._) and tell me your answer. there's no point in vascilating about this. you're either in or out. OK? and i really hope you are in." now, at this point don't mention anything about his indescretion, because you don't want him to get defensive about anything. you want to sound like a girl who knows what she wants, is confident, and is done flip flopping around with these issues. plus you put the ball in his court for him to make a decision, and it's going to be his decision. so let him decide. it will be hard for him to walk away i think but do this and see. good luck.
2007-10-13 16:19:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not going to work.Even though he may still have feelings for you, YOU completely and TOTALLY destroyed his trust and he will NEVER trust you again.Now you SAY you "love him" YET you were doing another guy.That is NOT love hon.
Your ex is hurting right now and it hurts him to see you with anyone else and I dont know what kind of guys you have been dating that he wants to beat up, but if they have the same lack of morals you suffer from I can understand WHY he doesnt want his kid around them
This is yet another example of WHY it is wrong to have sex and make babies BEFORE you really get to know someone.
You both need to work on being parents.
2007-10-13 16:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is important in a relationship, once its gone its hard to get back no matter how hard you try.. Unless your both willing to get councelling and truely work things out... Your better off, getting support from friends and family and moving on..
having a baby together doesnt mean you should stay together, cause 2 unhappy parents normally makes their child unhappy as well.. And thats what you have to think about, is your child and yourself.
Good Luck
2007-10-13 16:20:39 · answer #3 · answered by Inquiring Mind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is very scared about the pregnancy, does love you, but has alot of growing up to do. You are fixing to bring a baby into this world, this is no time for immaturity. You have to tell him to either either get on the boat, or jump ship, so you can smooth out your life for the babies sake.
2007-10-13 16:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by hotshotnm80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a self centered jack a**, and believe me I know cause I use to be one and I sounded exactly the same.I didn't even see my son until he was six months old and that's my biggest regret I say tell him to take a flying leap.Good luck
2007-10-13 16:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. Get support from your friends and family for you and your baby. If you don't want the baby now that he doesn't want be with you, let someone adopt the baby. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-10-13 16:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by shellybgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 07:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a chance to make your relationship work if the guy is willing to change for you and for your baby,if he can't it means she doesn't love you so give as early as you can so you won't be hurt that much
2007-10-13 16:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by KRISTINE MAE N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like the person said before me forget him
2007-10-13 16:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by christine ann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋