He wants to buy my purchase areement on a house I made an offer on! how should i feel? Im quite numb!.......
2007-10-13 15:58:47 · 9 answers · asked by toenail 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Renting & Real Estate
He was helping me look for a cottage for me alone! and then we stumbled on this big white house! good offer but then I realized with the taxes and heat it is just too much for me and now Im in the middle of renegotiating the offer and now this boyfriend decides he Wants to buy this house but for himself! should my feelings be hurts? He says he will pay me all that i put into it that is 500 bucks! I know he wont ask me to live with him. This is so strange to me. I feel so numb and well, really hurt!! but if I have to get my money back this way then I have to get it back! gheeez! live and learn! never again!! will I house look with a bf!!
2007-10-13 16:12:28 · update #1
But I was going to back out on the inspection but he told me to go through with it! and now that I look back I think he may have done that to find out for maybe his own good! He too was interested in the house! I feel if he was a true boyfriend he would pay for half of it since he couched me into a deal! but Now he wants the house! He one time asked me how can get out of it? And no really I can afford this house! It just confusing as all get out having a bf trying trying to get it too! gheeeeeezoo! what a mess! its so much easier on your own of if he had other intenstions but he doesnt! this really hurts big time I should be cold as a fish and think only buisness here! PS Im disabled! too! and he is NOT!
2007-10-14 07:02:59 · update #2
Time for me think cold as a fish and ONLY buisness!! setting all my feelings aside!
2007-10-14 07:04:46 · update #3
He may WANT to buy your purchase agreement -- but you don't HAVE to sell it to him!! I'd be very annoyed with the guy. Tell him to wait his turn, and wait until you've concluded your bid for the house and see how it turns out. If he knows what's good for him, he'll BACK OFF. Of course, if he cares more about the house than your feelings, then that tells you a lot about the guy you are dating . . .
2007-10-13 16:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already said you can't afford it. It doesn't matter how much less they sell you the house for it won't change the taxes, nor the heating bill. Not to mention insurance, upkeep, maintenance, electricity, appliances, the list goes on and on.
Why would you be hurt when it looks like you can't have it anyway? It is not as if he went and put a higher offer in when you were actually going to buy it.
I might be a little hurt that I couldn't afford it, but not at my boyfriend, at myself for not making enough money.
Kinda seems to me like you are looking for a reason to break up with him anyway.
Just my 2 cents worth.
2007-10-13 18:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by Gem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah not much to know just look at the car you wanna buy. dont go for the one they are trying to sell you cause chances are that the car is gonna mess up if its a used one. (the one they are selling you ) chose the one you want cause your gonna pay for it, and you dont want something that someone else tryed to sell you. and ask about it mantinence, look at the tires, take it for a test drive get it up to highway speeds, see if it over heats or has any vibrations. check the oil see what it looks like. then just be casual and not to excited bout it, cause then if they see you want the car they are gonna sell it to you top dollar. just use some jugement on it, and keep looking around till you find it, thats not the only car out there. good luck. and happy motoring
2016-05-22 07:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be hurt, you said you could not afford it anyway and you needed to get your money back. Tell him $700 and its his because of the time invested. Remember Bf come and go.
2007-10-14 05:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by Leo F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how did that happen? did you talk to him about the house you were buying before he decided to do that?
does he want you both to live together or something? seems like that's his motivation maybe.
i can't understand why he would want to do that to someone he's dating. find some other home and later on another guy. he sounds like a competitive jerk to me.
2007-10-13 16:03:41 · answer #5 · answered by WHOISTHEPUPPETMASTER? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need the money from him... If you can't afford the house (meaning get financing) then you get the money back anyway.
2007-10-13 16:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by chris g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did the purchase agreement, and it was accepted, then he has no standing. Tell him to buzz off.
2007-10-13 16:14:58 · answer #7 · answered by hottotrot1_usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he wants to make a gift of it to you, I wouldn't be happy. Exactly how do you feel about it?
2007-10-13 16:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all's fair in love and war
2007-10-14 14:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by 6billionfriends 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋