my son is 17 years old and her girl friend is 18 years she's afraid of the reaction of he'r parents and thats why she is scare to tell them.
2007-10-13 15:58:40 · 19 answers · asked by guilleminona1954 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well NOT telling them isn't the answer. They will find out soon enough anyway. It would be better in a calm supportive setting as in you there with them than if they were to find out by other means.
If not you, then ditto prior advice, encourage her to tell them, but they need to be told because they WILL find out.
2007-10-13 16:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by LDBK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are going to find out eventually. It is better than she tell them instead of them finding out when she's starting to show!
I think that your son, his girlfriend, and you should go as well. Just sit down and tell them. They may have a negative reaction, but what's done is done. She is pregnant (and hopefully, plans on keeping her baby) and there is no taking it back.
I was 18 when I got pregnant and petrified to tell my parents. I told them straight out, not trying to skirt around the issue. I told them "I'm pregnant." Of course, they reacted in the way I expected, with plenty of tears, yelling, swearing.
Now, my daughter is 6 and my parents love her. In fact, she is spending the night with them right now.
Initially, they may be shocked. They may say things that will hurt your son's girlfriend. Please be there for her, and help her to understand that people say things out of shock and anger that they don't really mean. Be supportive of them. There is no sense in anyone being mad or unsupportive at this point. This girl is having a baby at a young age....she's going to need all of the emotional support she can get!
Hopefully, everything works out for all of you. I think that if the parents are mad at first, eventually, they will get over it. There is a baby being born, and while I am sure this is how none of you planned, it is a wonderful thing. Good luck!
2007-10-13 16:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My son was 17 when his 23 year old girlfriend got pregnant. They were very afraid to tell me because they knew I didn't approve of the realationship and she was even crying, but once I got used to the idea and there was nothing I could do it all worked out. I have a beautiful granddaughter that I love.
2007-10-17 14:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Godsgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent of 2 teenagers I would definitely want to know if my child was going to be a parent. I would encourage the girl to go and tell her parents. Then, Everyone needs to sit down and talk about how to take care of her and the child. I was a teenage mom and was scared to tell my parents and they never knew anything until I had her. I now wish I had told them so they could have helped me through it all. No one knew anything. I was so depressed and didn't go anywhere. Help her to realize that she needs all the support that she can get to relieve the stress.
2007-10-13 16:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think of that she might prefer to renowned and you may constantly use the guise of desiring to renowned her relatives ailment background as a protection internet for the toddler, reason at last the scientific medical doctors are going to request that information besides. i might additionally circumvent any drama approximately her son or what he's achieved to you or anybody else contained in the previous. it is extremely not the main factor and if he needs to be an grownup he will end blaming "evil women human beings" and account for his strikes. the two one among you have yet somebody else to evaluate first from right here on out. i think of that the paternity try is likewise some thing sturdy to extend. yet i might additionally make it sparkling that it's not for chaining him down with toddler help or any of that, i may be genuine trustworthy and say you prefer to be rather a hundred% sparkling that as quickly as you fill out her delivery certificates that there are no blunders made and that for her sake she will sooner or later understand her father and pursue a dating with him. Take the moral extreme floor as much as plausible. Be civil and trustworthy together with her, yet by no skill communicate approximately her son and what he did to others or perhaps to you contained in the previous. she will take his area, reason that's what mothers do, yet whilst she needs something to do together with her grandchild she will additionally take you heavily mom-to-mom. yet, i think of which you've got sensible expectancies of her, besides. She's not likely to be your buddy. not in the beginning up. And if in any respect, it is going to make the effort. So, i might lay off calling her son and when you tell her i might enable her make the 1st flow. sturdy luck to you and yours!!!!
2016-10-06 21:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by osazuwa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would take your son and his girlfriend to her parents house. Let them tell her parents the news, while you wait outside, if they need an escape(if the situation is abusive) you will be outside. If her parents want to talk to you about the situation you are being a stand up supportive parent, which can be good.
IF you want to be there with your son be prepared for her parents to put him and you down for raising him "wrong".
Try not to take anything they say personally that day.
2007-10-13 16:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should push the idea of her telling them...tell her to make sure she is alone with them and maybe it would be easier for her to tell one at a time. But if i were in your situation i would not tell her parents. But they do have to know before it becomes too obvious and she starts to show. Just tell her that you will be there for her no matter what the outcome with her parents. Then after they do become aware, i would make sure to all sit down together including all the parents, and figure out the situation, how everything is going to be handled with the baby. Good luck to you and them with the baby!
2007-10-13 16:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
As a parent, I would want to know. She is 18, though. Is the girlfriend still living at home and being supported by her parents? In that case, they should definitely be told. If she is self-supporting, then it's her business.
2007-10-13 16:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your sons girlfriend is pregnant and she is legally an adult at the age of eighteen you can encourage her to talk to her parents, but it is really not appropriate for you and you husband to break the news to her parents.
She is an adult, and it is up to her and also your son who they are going to inform.
Congratulations on the baby, children can be such a blessing for everyone.
I wish your son and his family the best.
2007-10-13 16:07:41 · answer #9 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm pretty sure they'll figure it out sooner or later... so yes, she needs to tell them.
She's 18 so if they are nasty they could kick her out but not many parents would do that. Go with her if she's scared.
2007-10-13 17:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by pinkpiglet126 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋