My wife died when I was 25, nine years ago. In those nine years, I have never dated anyone, never felt attracted to anyone, and have lived celibate, sharing my home with no-one but our daughter.
The simple fact is this is how I want to live now.
I have loved, lost, and remain devoted to my late wife. I believe we will meet again someday and from a relationship standpoint am waiting for her. I no longer consider myself a "sexual person".
I would be interested to know whether you feel this is "normal" or "weird", just out of curiosity.
2007-10-13 15:06:21 · 11 answers · asked by Frog Eyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should watch the movie "Papillon" and then get back to me.
2007-10-13 15:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong in not wanting to get married again or not wanting anyone else in your life. Sometimes when a person passes on the person who is left has no desire to marry again. Sometimes there is only one person that you have ever truly loved. I don't see that what you are doing is considered weird. You may never feel the same way that you did and still do for your late wife. If people don't like what you have decided then that is their problem.
2007-10-13 22:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a lucky woman your late wife was. If that is the way you choose to live the rest of your life, i think its amazing. You guys must have had a love so strong and full of loyalty and devotion. If you a half as good dad and you were husband, your daughter will have a fantastic life. I admire you and your beliefs and wish you and your resolve all the very best of luck. You deserve it.
2007-10-14 02:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by begirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married at 17. And from my experience I think that 25 is still a tender age...and what you have been through losing the love of your life must be very difficult...I can't imagine life without my mate...but I believe that if anything ever happend to him he loves me so much that he would want me to find someone and carry on and be happy and I feel the same way. Best of luck
2007-10-13 23:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by only1sol2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I respect you for still remaining so devoted to your wife after all these years and keeping her alive in your heart. You are still young, if you ever consider a second marriage don't feel guilty about it at all! I'm sure your wife would want you and your daughter to be happy. I'm so sorry about your loss.
2007-10-13 22:11:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. DiCaprio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your story is identical to a good friend of mine. He was messed up for years. didnt want to be close to anyone. He had a son with his wife. After getting help, he regained himself and is happily married again. I think that seeking professional help wouldnt hurt. You obviously dont want to let go of your wife. No one said that you have to cause evertime u look at your daughter, you see her. You will always love your late wife. I dont think that she would want you and your daughter to go on with out finding someone else.
2007-10-13 22:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by pumper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been widowed for almost 5 years but I had to move on for my own sanity, but do what you think is best for you. I am sure your daughter is number 1 in your life, and my son is #1 in mine. Enjoy life however you feel comfortable
2007-10-13 22:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by iseemen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal but your to young to live the rest of your life alone i think she would want you to find someone so you can be happy
2007-10-13 22:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by Andrea W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine. If you really loved ur wife, you have a reason.
2007-10-13 22:10:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not normal or wierd
its just better to move on
you dont wanna be alone for the rest of your life do you?
2007-10-13 22:10:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋