Im scaried already and my due date is not for 16 more weeks!!!!?

Question

I know this is gonna sound like something i should of thought of before i got pregnant, but i am one of those people who are afraid of the doctors and i am really afraid already and it is not even time for me to have the baby yet i am already in the first stage of depression and i dont know what to do, im 21 years old and this is gonna be my first baby, i dont see why i am afraid of the doctors i have 4 tattoos and i wasnt afraid to get them at all i dont know is it just my mind playing tricks, can some one please explain to me how labor feels and what it feels like after you have the baby vaginal or c-section please help me thank you.

Answer 1

Take it easy girl, it's not that bad. Don't let people worry you. I have had 3 children, vaginally with no pain meds. And I have a tattoo on my lower back that took 3 hours to put on......And

I WOULD RATHER GIVE BIRTH. HONEST.

Now for what labor feels like. The muscles on the sides and lower part of your tummy start to tighten. It feels alot like gas as far as the pain. It is tolerable and well worth the prize.
You said you have 4 tattoos, well like I said the one I have on my lower back was worse than giving birth. And also when you start pushing it seems to not hurt as bad.
Relax and enjoy your pregnancy.
Congrats.

Answer 2

Everyone is scared, whether it's their first pregnancy or their fourth, there's a lot going on with your body and this new life growing inside you, and it's just part of the experience. Taking childbirth classes definitely eased my fears and made me a lot better prepared. No one can really tell you what labor will be like for you, it's different for everyone. And don't be afraid of the doctors, they're only there to help, and anyway by the time you hit transition labor (right before pushing) you won't care about the doctors or anyone else, you'll just want that baby OUT!! LoL. It's probably the hardest thing you'll ever go through, but also the most worthwhile. You won't even remember all the fear and pain of the past nine months when you hold that little blessing from God in your arms, and you'll know without a doubt that you'd do it all over again in a heartbeat.
Have you considered getting a doula? A doula is a birthing partner, I had one and it was one of the best decisions I made. I had kind of a difficult labor, and if it wasn't for her I probably would have lost it. A doula can help you a great deal, it's been proven that women who use doulas during childbirth experience less physical pain and have shorter labor. Doulas have wonderful techniques for getting past the pain. Try this website:
http://www.doulafoundation.com/
Congratulations!! This is one of the best periods of your life, and you deserve to enjoy it! Don't let fear stand in your way!

Answer 3

First off you need to breathe and try and relax. Second, please speak to your doctor about what you are feeling, after all he/she is the one that is treating you. I understand that you are scared, it is natural. Becomming a new mom is a little scary and alot to take in. In a couple of months you will be holding a brand new little life in your arms. That baby will need you to be strong for her/him. Once you hold your baby for the first time you will forget all about how you were worried about the doctors/hospital/needles.ect. I'm not sure about having a vaginal delivery, because all I ever had was c-sections. I had my first baby at 19 and second at 21 and third at 28. I was scared when I first got to the hospital(mine was a planned c-section, baby was breech) because I didn't know what to expect. I was admitted, taking to a room were I was told to undress and put a gown on. Then a nurse came in and put the monitors on my belly to listen for the heartbeat, my dr. also done an ultrasound just to make sure the baby didn't move(still breech). Next I was given my epidorial, which for me hurt a little, I guess because I wasn't having any contractions(never did through whole pregnancy) And I was also very nervous. Once that was done the numbness started and I couldn't feel a thing in my legs up until under my breast. By then I was numb. A nurse came and inserted a cathider and then I was on my way to the operating room. My baby was born about 6 minutes later. I did get a little sick from the anasthesia, but it wasn't too bad. The recovery was hard though. You really have to take it easy and rest as much as possible. I was lucky enough to have my husband and family their for me. I hope that you will have a lot of support for you and baby after delivery. Congratulations on your baby. Everything will be fine just have faith.

Answer 4

Well, if it makes you feel better, by the time the baby is ready to come, you will be ready for the baby to come. You will probably be so uncomfortable that you wont care who delivers your baby as long as they get the baby out. Are you going to get the epidural? That will make your experience so much better. And it might also make you feel better to know that labor is a gradual process. It's not going to come on all of a sudden. I used to think that labor was like a ticking time bomb and !BOOM! all of a sudden, you were contracting and keeled over in pain. It's not like that at all...especially if this is your first one.

Also it sounds like you are worried about post-pardom depression..it that right? I was too because I was to be a stay at home mom with no one around and I thought I would be so depressed. But once that baby was here, I was soooo happy! I couldn't believe I was actually worried about being depressed.

Its normal to be nervous...Just try not to think about it. That's what I did and then before I knew it, I was two weeks overdue and PRAYING to go into labor...you will be just fine.

I had a vaginal birth and it was litterally pain free once the epidural was in. My pain came many weeks later in the form of hemmroids and "granulated tissue".

Hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 5

oh, Denina, we are all of us scared about childbirth beforehand! it's scary because it's unknown territory and because every blessed person seems to feel an irrepressible need to tell you a labor horror story.

Nobody can really tell you how it will feel; but if you are anticipating great pain it will be just that much worse-Anticipation of pain is often worse than the pain itself. During birthing you are really focusing on the birthing process itself and the discomforts are sort of secondary. What will help you the most are birthing classes, and it is time to sign up for them.

If you really have a serious problem with doctors, you might want to consider seeing a certified nurse midwife, these are registered nurses with much additional training in labor and delivery, and they stay with the mother all during her labor and are excellent with alleviating the pain, as well as trained to know when and if the mother needs more advanced medical help. Many times they can avoid the need for unnecessary painful procedures. But make sure they have the official certification, there are also medically untrained midwives.

Many blessings to you and your baby!
aunt cryllie

Answer 6

I had two children vaginal... First one I had an epidural and felt nothing.... Second child was 100 percent natural.. contractions feel like really bad menstrual cramps times 10 these can go on for hours and get closer together you may or may not need to be cut... this is painless they give you a numbing shot before they do cut so you dont tear (not everyone needs to be cut or tears). When you push the baby out it burns really bad and feels like you need to take a big crap. Once the baby is out you deliver the afterbirth... which is nothing really. Then they clean and stitch the area up if needed.. If you get stitches the area will be sore, itchy, and swollen for a week after wards.

P.S its not as bad as it sounds or some of us wouldnt have gotten pregnant 2,3 or 5 times.

Answer 7

Labor will be the most and hardest work you've ever done in your life. its painful but its def barable pain. i swear right after its like all the pain just suddenly disappears and you're so happy and excited. i had some stiches but i didnt bother me and i was walking around everywhere within an hour after birth. staying at teh hospital was teh worst part because it seem liek the nurses never let you get any sleep. they constantly come in and check your belly and your vitals. it wouldnt be normal if you werent nervous. you'll be fine:) Actually birth was the best and most amazing experience of my life

To the person above who said if you have a lower back tatoo you cant have an epidural thats a lie my sister did and she hsa one- thats a total DUMB myth- there is not reason a tattoo would have anything to do with an epidural

Answer 8

I was once 28 weeks whilst my son was once expected at four lb 15 ounces.. nearly five kilos. I ended up being precipitated on my due date due to the fact that of his significant measurement and my small body.. he was once eight kilos five oz, (i driven for three hours) however I suppose actually if I could have simply waited and permit him come on his possess then he would had been higher but it surely could had been simpler due to the fact that he could had been able. I may not opt for induction once more.. 28 hours that I do not desire to do once more. Also desired so as to add I was once precipitated after my due date, I was once forty weeks a million day, and my loved ones had a historical past of infants over 10 kilos (my husband was once 12.) Which was once the intent for my induction.

Answer 9

well i can only tell you every pregnancy is different i am having baby #2 due now on oct 31 yes halloween and well even though its my second you always have a lil bit of nerves after all your body is going through all these changes and you r mind too with all the planning for after the baby etc thinking what to name it, how it will look like hoping its healthy etc.....it doesnt get easier but all I can tel you if you want to be a good mom try and be a string as you can be after all soon you will have a lil bundle of joy that will towards you for support .....Also there are many places to look for support for depression confusion etc there are many mommy forums about pregnancy etc to help answer all those questions you may have now and after having the baby....IT wont solve all your problems. Its like with all things in life you just kinda have to wait and see and do whats best for YOU and your baby......but talking to other moms who have been there or are going through the same things as you helps ALOT ...some sites I would recommend are www.baby-gaga.com, www.i-am-pregnant.com, www.babycenter.com, www.cafemom.com and maybe many others but I have always loved those they are my fav's ...best of luck and CONGRATS ON YOUR PREGNANCY...you'll see everything will be ok you and your beautiful baby will be healthy now and after

Answer 10

I'm due between Feb 17th and 24th with my first baby and i am SCARED TO DEATH already... i've told several people i don't want it to come out and everything i think everyone goes through it... i'm also on the depressed side since my husband has left for basic training @ Ft. Knox...