My girlfriends ex always calls or texts her when he is drunk. I love my girlfriend dearly and she tells me the same =). Nearly every thursday he calls and texts her. I'm not so worried because she always tells me when he does it. But she always deletes her messages when she gets them from him and when she sends them back. She always reassures me he's just a friend but it does annoy me because i know that he is asking her things he shouldn't because she has me. Am i too protective of her or should i have a chat and ask her to ignore his calls and texts?
2007-10-13 14:30:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh and she reminds him shes taken when he asks her things he shouldn't but its annoying because she still talks to him and tells me he's a friend.
2007-10-13 14:33:46 · update #1
thanks for the help guys. She never does see him but once he walked from a nearby pub to her grans where she was staying that night and woke her gran up and everything! she told him where to go. To be honest i just want to kick his *** but hes like 2 yrs older than me. And yes that is all he wants, i'll have that chat with her tommorrow guys, thanks for the help
2007-10-13 14:39:45 · update #2
To DP - She knows i'm a jelous type of guy, a hate being like that but cant help it, i trust her 100% and i just think she deletes them so i dont get paranoid. I'm just scared incase we have this talk and she thinks i dont trust her.
2007-10-13 14:45:34 · update #3
I would ask to see the text 1 time.... if she is really secretive about it then you might wanna have a talk about it....BUT, if she lets you see it and always tells you about it then it seems as if you have a pretty honest person in your life
2007-10-13 14:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by JJ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So she's supposed to ditch everything that annoys you? If you love her, you'd trust her. I routinely delete new messages in my inbox and outbox (unless I deem them important) because my phone is nearly full of messages that I don't want to delete from the past year.
I speak to my ex but that's because I truly value him as a friend. I have known him for about 5 years; I can't and wouldn't want to just cut him out because I have a boyfriend.
2007-10-13 14:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think she is erasing the messages? Hiding something? Come on, open your eyes. Maybe she stringing him along just in case it doesn't work with you. Why can't you see what the text messages say, if theres nothing to hide why not let you see? If she shows you from time to time then theres nothing to worry about. I don't think so based on the info. Not trying to make you paranoid but somethings going on here thats shady.
2007-10-13 14:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by DP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with one of the answer up from JJ ....really good point ......see if she saying the truth (sorry am not sure) why she delete the massages before u seen it u know about the whole story if i understand Ur situation right .... and i dont believe that he keeping calling and she ignoree him ..... he can do it one two but if she ignor him he well get bored and he well leave her Alon.... i feel not comfortable ....and u have good reason to be worry ...u should be .... and u must talk with that idiot by the way...
2007-10-13 15:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by no english speak :o) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of call blocking? If she is sending messages back, she's not just friends with him.
You can ask her to ignore them, but how will you verify whether she actually is ignoring them?
I say this is a trust issue...It's a dealbreaker.
TX Mom
2007-10-13 14:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine he's in basic terms attempting to instruct off he's were given a sparkling lady friend, doing immature such issues as adult adult males do each and every of the time. in basic terms ignore about it. attempt to provide up talking to him and discover some different person to 'like' except him. i comprehend its confusing to pass via something like this yet talking to him, rather with a sparkling lady friend round will in basic terms complicate issues even more suitable. pass on. wish this helps, -Katie possibly you may help me with my question, examine it out :) thanks.
2016-10-21 03:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by mayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's unreasonable to ask her to do this for you, esp. since we all know that remaining "friends" with an Ex is never really because we just enjoy their company. It's annoying when you're involved with someone who has an Ex in the background... Unless you're friends with him too (which would be weird), then I would ask her to be respectful of your wishes . Look, if she doesn't, she likes his attention just as much as she likes yours. In all of my years of dating, I've never had a relationship that worked for me while they were "friends" with the Ex. You can't have your cake and eat it too
2007-10-13 14:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by L.A. Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are doing more than texting back and forth. Don't be so naive... He is not calling and sending messages to her for no reason. He would simply move on and go on with his life is she were not giving him a reason to feel there is something worth calling/texting for.... God bless****
2007-10-13 14:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not too protective at all. thats a good idea, get him out of your lives completley. he could get mad, and drunk and do somthing. but then again he may be atached to her. if so you should try and help him find somone else.
2007-10-13 14:34:47 · answer #9 · answered by Charley C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is telling you about them then i wouldnt worry about it. do you want her to tell you what she is talking about with her g/f? i didnt think so. she isnt giving you any reason to not trust her. if she ignores it he might keep persisting, i wouldnt let it bother you, unlss things start getting wierd like if she starts hanging out with him or calling him
2007-10-13 14:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by Megan M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋