If your parents or family did not approve of the person you love and want to marry what would you do?
2007-10-13 14:10:06 · 13 answers · asked by Rayray 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i hope i never get into this situation i dont know what i'd do. Atleast my mom likes my bf now and his dad likes me
2007-10-13 14:10:44 · update #1
Do you think if they dont like the person that you love that later in time they can grow to love them since they have to deal with them?
2007-10-13 14:16:21 · update #2
If you are no longer dependent on your parents' support, it should not matter if they like your future mate or not. However, do not expect any support from them. If you can do it on your own - go for it.
2007-10-13 14:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by Ti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we got married 41 yrs ago, neither set of parents approved. We saw no big problem (same race, religion, education, core values, and were 26 yr old) but they just didn't approve. My family has not had any contact with us since. Hers bitched and crabbed at us until they died. If we had it to do all over again, we would have had the ceremony we wanted instead of giving into their wishes, but we would still get married. 41 wonderful (mostly) years have been great. My family missed out on 2 wonderful grandkids and now 4 darling great grandkids. But if you go against parents wishes, be prepared for desertion.
2007-10-13 14:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hun, they most likely will never approve. Just try to do without their approval... except for maybe dress, you might want to listen to them a little (not too much... my mom thinks clothes from the 90's are "in"). Most of our lives we're looking for someone who "gets" us so don't be surprised if you parents don't "get" you. You'd be lucky if you parents were very approving. The best way for them to, at the very least, respect your decisions is to talk to them like an adult (no emotion, calmly). This might not work though (my mom is especially stubborn, even though I'm 20!... my mom still thinks I'm an idiot though I take responsibility and do nothing that shortens my life or anything... annoying.). If not then experiment a little. People are different.
2016-05-22 07:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in this situation right now. and ill tell you how i feel. my parents are just going to have to get over it. they dont have to live with my boyfriend. i do. and i am not seeking their approval. i love my boyfriend with all my heart and i know it would make both of us happier if my family loved him too but they dont. and they really have no reason. but i want a happy life and with him i will have one. so hopefully one day my family will come around
2007-10-13 14:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by Smilllllleeeee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooo thats a tough one. umm i think you just need to think and rationalize. be honest with yourself. if you know that youre going to marry this person...like its not a maybe thing, then go for it and give it time. you never know...your parents might have a change of heart. give it a shot. but if the marriage is a maybe, then think whats more important, risking your family relationship for a possible marriage, or obeying your parents' advice. thats a hard situation tho!
2007-10-15 14:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by Viv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to weigh out the situation. Are they unfairly judging your boyfriend or girlfriend? Or do they have a valid reason for not approving of him or her. Listen to their complaints.Try to see it from their point of view, while not being too defensive. Then try to show them the qualities you love about him or her. They will eventually realize they raised a smart person, and will hopefully know that you have a good sense of yourself enought to know who you want to be with.
2007-10-13 14:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by jenetterose85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married the guy my parents hated, and I should have listened to them, he's been an SOB to me and our two kids for the past 25 years......turns out that Mom DID know best.
(my Dad didn't even come to my wedding, my brother had to give me away.)
2007-10-13 14:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by serialmom12 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well its very simple for me if u love each other and ur parent are not like ur bf/gf well u need to fight to each other for the sake of ur love and u need to prove to ur parents that the one u love is deserves to u prove them that they dont need to think that u will not have a beautiful life to them just fight and prove that u make a good decision infact they cant give the happiness that the person u love can give to u........
2007-10-14 03:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by mariannebenosa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should only listen to your parents if u are underage......if u are over 21 then it should be your decision on what u want to do.....if it's the wrong thing then they really can't say anything u are grown if u are over 21.....i'm 23 and i'm planning to get married next year and i have family members complaining i'm not trying to disrespect my family members but they can't choose who i want to spend the rest of my life with........just follow your heart
2007-10-13 14:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by mrs. MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough question. I married mine anyway. In the end, my parents were right, though.
2007-10-13 14:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋