-♥-Why do people only look at the bad things that people do?

Question

Am I the only one who thinks this.
I get good grades and stuff and I only get reminded of how bad I am in math.

I USED to take long to shower and get dressed, but I don't anymore. Anyhow, ppl still reflect on that and don't notice that I 've changed.

Answer 1

this is a great question, i've alredy marked it as intresting.
sometimes i have the same feeling too.
i'me very good in 3D modeling and i love 3D modeling, i'm good in matha but i don't like it. ppl around me are keep telling me that i should continue my maths be cause i'm good at it but i don't like it. when i get good grades no one says anything, but when i don't everyone is like: e told you you need to practice more.

i don't usually check my e-mail, but leave me an off line message if you need a 3D model or animation. you can also leave an off lien message if you need to talk to some one.

mr_baltazar2000

Answer 2

It's a very good question and it doesn't have a simple answer. There's no question that it is true. I don't know why but, I do know that it takes a lot of concentration and listening and keeping our eyes wise open to be able to really see the changes going on. We get stuck in our judgement of others. We only see what we want to see and perhaps we are also best at seeing what we're used to seeing. If my kid leaves his shoes in the hallway every night and I tell him over and over to move them, I will certainly notice the first few times he doesn't leave them in the hallway and HOPEFULLY I will tell him that he's doing a really good job of putting his shoes where they belong. But after just a few days, I will get really used to it and will stop saying anything to him about it. Then he will go back to leaving his shoes in the hallway and I'll get irritated with him about it all over again.

Answer 3

Once people form opinions about you, they get comfortable with those opinions and that gets to be their truth. Changing that takes time or a major awakening on their part. You might time yourself about showering and dressing and make a point of telling the family you can now do it in 20 min -- or however long it takes. Then do it to prove the change to them.

Answer 4

*True enough; people always seem to notice only the negatives in others.This comes out of our upbringings; If you recall the times you were growing up,nobody ever gave you a pat on the back for all the good things that you did around the home But you will recall that not a single wrong doing went unnoticed and to some extent all of them resulted in some kind of punishment or reprimand.
*So you see,it is human nature to highlight only the bad side and to down play the good that others do.
*My consolation usually comes in the knowledge that I am not what others make me out to be.Try it and you will feel very good about yourself.

Answer 5

No, you aren't the only one who thinks this. Maybe it makes them feel better about themselves when they are really envious of you and wish they could be more like you. All I can say is never doubt yourself. You have to listen to your parents and mind the rules. Work hard in school, do your best, keep a positive attitude regardless of how hard people try to bring you down. Be proud of yourself. Kill them with kindness.

Answer 6

Simply because it takes a greater effort for most people to look for "the good stuff" in others as opposed to instantly finding a flaw or two?

Answer 7

So sound pretty normal to me. Don't take much notice of other people's opinions; everybody has their faults, including those who are pointing out yours. If they knew any better, I suppose they wouldn't be hurting your feelings so much. That's why you shouldn't be taking it to heart so much. Tell them to have a good look at their own lives, before they start commenting on yours.

Answer 8

people look at the bad things and point them out just to take the focus off of them, don't worry about it you know what you are and who you are just study hard to bring your math grades up, and though it is good to be praised for the good things let the bad things help you grow and improve and who cares if nobody notices are you doing it for them or yourself

Answer 9

Is that picture of you! I doubt you look that good. Anyway we do this because of our human Nature. Thomas Hobbes believe we are self-centered and only care about whats good for us. So by focusing on bad we feel good about our selves. Example- that guy is bleeding to death thank god thats not me.

Answer 10

well, sometimes people only do that 2 put u down cause of their insecurities. other times they just dont notice that u r tryin 2 work on things.