I'm a eleven year old girl. I have started my period. I don't live with my dad and i have two little sisters. I don't get along with my mom very much and none of my friends have started their period so i can't talk to them about it. i would really like to get some advice on what to do.
2007-10-13 13:18:08 · 22 answers · asked by little miss perfect 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Honey...I think you should get your mother in an alone moment.
It doesn't matter if you guys don't bond much, but you need to let her know!
Try with a, "Mom...I have my period." She will reply with advice and tips. Or try...
Method #1-Tell your Mom Upfront and in Person
Get your mom alone. It could be while she's folding the laundry or putting earrings in. Try not to do it when she's trying a new recipe or attempting to get your screaming little brother in the car. Pick a time when she's calm and relaxed.
Tell her that you have important news to share with her. Say, "Mom, I started my period" and smile to let her know your happy by the news. Most moms will be calm and congatulate you!
Method #2-Write a Note
Leave your mom a note. It can read something like, "Mom, today I got my period!! Maybe we can get supplies at the drugstore later? I love you."
Put the note somewhere she (and only she) can find it. A good place would be in her makeup drawer or under her pillow.
Method #3-Send a Text Message
If you have a cellphone with text messaging capabilities, and your mom is out, you could send her a text message such as "I got my period. Could you please bring home some pads or tampons? Thanks. I love you."
Try to be calm though . When I first got my period, I was a nervous wreck and my mom thought that I was dying or something at first, so it didn't turn out very good. Before you tell her, calm down. Take a shower, read a book, or just breathe! Also, make sure you really have it. If you're sure, go ahead. If you're not, wait a day or two. If you see it again, then congrats! Also remember though that maybe it's a good idea to show your mom so that she can make sure. Also, webisites like beinggirl.com are very good with handling periods and making sure you have it.
TipsDon't be embarrassed! All girls go through it. It is a natural thing.
Know that all moms have gone through the same thing!
Remember to breathe and stay calm. Maybe rehearsing it in front of the mirror will help.
Here are tips for your period:
Take an over-the-counter medication that relieves cramps or pain. It may take a while to kick in but it will really help.
Get out a heating pad. You can either get one of those heat blanket that you plug in, or you can purchase disposable, one time use, heating pads, such as the Playtex Heat Therapy Heat Patch.
Sip hot tea. Look at Tip #1.
Take a hot bath. This works just like #3.
Stretch. Warming up those muscles and stretching them out can reduce some pain. Yoga is great for relieving cramps.
Exercise. Aerobic exercise is especially good because it brings oxygen to the tissues, calming down the action of prostaglandins.
2007-10-13 13:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by Nutgobbler 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you must feel. I was very shy about that to my mother too. I started when I was 10 and I was not very used to talking to her as she was always out somewhere or away.
It does not get any easier than going over to her and telling her u got it and how u dealt with it the first time and ask her for advice on how to do stuff like put on your pad and choosing the kind of pad and pills for cramps if you have them. You should definitely try to talk to her if even only about this. This may help to bring you closer to her as a family.
If you have tried and you cannot talk to her you can check a counsellor at school but I am sure your mom will listen. MUCH LOVE
2007-10-13 13:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by ◄☯♫ vanitee of vanitees ♫☯► 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not like having your period is something your mother has not been through is still going through. Becoming a woman is nothing that should be an argument or problem, so tell her just that. Tell her that you came on your period.Even if she panics, thinking that you are now going to get into adult-like activities, you have to have someone to supply your sanitary pads you are only 11-years old! It's nothing unusual to have your period at 11. In my family it's normal to be on by 10 or even 9! So it's not odd.you are becoming a woman and if your mother cant handle that (which Im sure that she can), then that's something for her to grasp personally.
Nevertheless, you need to be taken care of. you are still a kid and you have no choice quite frankly! :)
2007-10-13 13:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by eager2know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach your mom in a mature and calm way. Tell her that you started your period and would like her advice about how to handle it. She went through it too and yours will likely be a lot like hers so she can help you more than you realize. Not getting along is one thing but she is still your mother and will help you. Us giving you advice wont do as much good as your mom can. I started at 11 too, before the menstrual ed classes they gave. It was confusing and really scary when I didn't know what to do. Talking to my mom was the best thing, she knew how to answer my questions and understood what I was going through. Talk to her, it will be best. Welcome to being a woman!
2007-10-13 13:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by ~Les~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I am a mom of 4 and thru all my years of experience I have learned 1 thing.No matter how me and my kids are getting along when they need me I am there open arms.I have a feeling if you goto your mom and tell her you started and have questions she will be so happy you came to her.Parents arent aliens from another world we were young once and going thru the samething you are.Give her a chance and you might be suprise.Keep comunication open dont be scared.
If I am wrong you can always talk to your school nurse.
2007-10-13 13:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a friend who you really get along with/or trust their mom enough to talk to them about it. Or what about a female teacher at school (health teacher). Just try to think of someone that you feel comfortable talking to about other things and this will feel a bit uncomfortable for you but whoever you do decide to talk to about it will understand and help you with what ever questions you do have.
2007-10-13 13:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by ventity325 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to wait until it's just you and your mom and then tell her what you told the WORLDWIDE WEB. No matter what your differences are, she should offer you support and counsel. If not, go to the school nurse or a community health clinic. Sadly, some mothers totally ditch their duties as moms for reasons unknown to me. If you have a close friend, they or their mom may be of help too.
2007-10-13 13:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by Jeannie Welsch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off all relax, im sure she will be more than happy to talk to you shes been through it all before and she knows it all!! if you find it hard then try and bring up a question cluelessly for example stomache cramps say, mum ive got a really crammpy stomache why is this? that might start something off.trust me im only slightly older than u but i was there not long ago once you bring it up once its so much easier !!
ps.if you would like please email me, i could allways help you some more!! i wish you the best of luck xx
2007-10-13 13:26:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how well you get along with your mom, but maybe this is a chance to get closer? Be honest with her tell her what is going on and that you would really like some help from her
2007-10-13 13:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by Knowitall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have an aunt that you are close to or grandma? I know it is embarresing to talk to anyone about these things, but you should talk to someone. Even though you might not get along that well with mom, she will want to talk to you about this. She will have great advice for you
2007-10-13 13:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by Mary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋