My co-workers are being really mean and unbending. It's like every idea that I come up with, gets shot down. When I perform well in a job, it doesn’t get notice or is covered up. When I make the slightest mistake, it gets blown up and the whole group frowns on it.
To me, this is really petty but the question has to be asked. Are women intimidated by a competent and confident man?
Please answer honestly so that I can find a common ground in my workplace.
Please list some behaviors that engage in when they are intimidated.
1. Do they talk down to you?
2. Get mad when you out perform the group?
3. Get angry when you find a better way of doing things?
Please help. I'm new to the corporate world and I think it's time for me to be schooled in the field of office politics.
2007-10-13 13:13:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I adore confident men but there is a difference between confidence and playing the big shot with all the answers. If you are new to this arena you should be stepping back a bit and see who everyone is, how they act and interact. You can't understand the office politics of the particular place you work until you spend some time asking questions, seeking others opinions and maybe being in the background for awhile. Then when you know these people and they are comfortable with you, you can begin offering more of your ideas and expertise. You just can't storm into an environment. People will resent the new "upstart". So hang in there but hang back. Relationships take time.
2007-10-13 13:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you got confident and being a jerk mixed up. The way you described your co-worker is no where close to confident. Are those listed characters of his? Talk you down, get mad, and angry. No, that is not confident at all. I am not sure what common ground you are looking for. But I hope you are not going to become like your co-worker.
But no, I am not intimidated by a true confident man. I actually think they are attractive.
2007-10-13 20:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the kid. They aren't going to listen to a thing you say until you have been there a long time. And if you are acting like a cocky know it all instead of confident and competent, you are digging yourself a very large hole. Be content to listen once in a while, and make your contributions to the team in a non-confrontational way.
2007-10-13 20:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that they are necessarily intimidated as much as they see you as competition and are simply trying to make themselves look better.
Always, always, ALWAYS take the high road. Don't get drawn into petty office crap. It has nothing to do with just women either; men do this in the office place just as much. Women sometimes feel like they have something to prove.
2007-10-13 20:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by Yogi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly most women I know, like confident men, because they aren't swayed by which way the wind blows. Because confident men stand for what they believe in, instead of giving in and caving to pressure.
2007-10-13 20:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess they believe "This is a man's world" But keep up the good work..rest assured some one is looking and your reward is on the way.
Do let them drug you down with them
2007-10-13 20:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by ME 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you work with a majority of women, get out now. they don't want you there. they will screw you over if given chance.
2007-10-13 20:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by mike r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋