My friend told me that he suffers from depression, he told me that it runs through the family, he also told me that I can't tell my best friend (his sister) bcuz he afraid that she will blurt it out to everyone. I have trusted her with my deepest darkest secrets and she has never told anyone. After he told me I noticed that he was getting a little angry and sad about little things and he shut himself in his room and didn't come out for an hour. I am starting to get a little worried about him.
2007-10-13 13:01:30 · 34 answers · asked by lindsay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
HIS PARENTS KNOW!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-13 14:37:35 · update #1
Tell its for his best interest
2007-10-13 13:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Some things are "TELLING" and some are not. I personally believe that if you tell his sister she is not going to blurt it out to everyone especially if YOU tell her not to. If she respects your friendship at all she will not BLURT it to anyone. Maybe the two of you together can QUIETLY get him some help. Also he is just going to have to deal with the fact that his friends are going to try and look out for his best interests. And that SOMEONE is going to have to know about it to help him. He obviously cant get over this by himself or he wouldnt have mentioned it in the first place. It may be a cry for help so do it with respect for him but do it to help him. I hope this makes sense because I am not going to re type it. WHEW!!!!that was alot of typing for me.
2007-10-13 13:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by shootit247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all I can say is that if you really care about him then you should tell a responsible adult right away. He will get mad at you, no question about that, but hopefully after he gets the help that he needs to overcome the depression, then he will understand that you told on him out of concern and that you were afraid for him, and for his life. It will be hard but if you stick by his side then everything will turn out ok. So I guess that Im saying that you should tell on him.
Hope that all goes well with you.
2007-10-13 13:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mom_of_2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If his parents are approachable people, I would take his mom aside without him knowing and talk to her expressing that it was out of worry that you were telling her. Maybe she will talk to him, WITHOUT LETTING HIM KNOW YOU TOLD, and work things out. I have a 16 and 19 year old so I know that she can approach him by simply saying you seem down lately, is something wrong, do you want to talk about something? Without accusing or prying but with genuine concern letting him know she loves him and it worries her to know something is bothering him and also that she/they can only help him if they know what's wrong. Telling the sister could embarrass him if she really is a blabbermouth and if she tells people and people push him he will withdraw more. You may even try getting him to tell you whats wrong, it may be a girlfriend thing or something simple
2007-10-13 13:06:53 · answer #4 · answered by betterthanhers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you should be a good girl and keep his secret, unless he was suicidal or homicidal. I wouldn't get out of hand just because he's depressed or moody or isolating. *He said it runs in his family, so his family lives with him and would obviously have somewhat of a clue.
I think you might have trouble keeping a secret. He might have had better luck trusting his sister and confiding to her instead. But who knows, do what you think is best in the end.
2007-10-13 13:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by Lil Blousou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this girl is that trustworthy then yes you should tell her. Perhaps, you can tell her that maybe she should confront her parents on it. Not like come out and say that she knows, but possibly just mention she sometimes notices odd behavior's in the family, and ask if there is anything wrong. Hope this helps and everything turns out alright, good luck :)
2007-10-13 13:10:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are some things to tell your friends but don't gossip if a friend can trust you to say something like this then it would be best kept between you two, where the trust is with the person who told it to you in the first place. there the trust is in his heart, and not his sisters'.
2007-10-13 13:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he asked you not to tell your best friend (his sister) and you promised you wouldn't, then you shouldn't. However, if you are worried about him possibly hurting himself (or others), and you have done everything you can for him, which doesn't seem to be helping, then I feel you should tell someone....his parents, your parents (don't know what age you are), or someone in a position of responsibility who could and would tactfully and appropriately counsel him.
2007-10-13 13:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by transplanted_fireweed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a brother that suffers from deppresion you cant do anything but encourage them with simple thing. You cant do anything negative around them and if he locks himself in his room offer to do something he likes or cook or bake him something.Dont tell your sister bcuz if he finds out your friendship with him might end.
2007-10-13 13:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by Skippsduhr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is in a suicidal state he should need help. Tell his parents if they dont no. Thats suicidal. Now if he is just a little depressed and seems like he might be able to get pass it let him be. But if he seems to look like he isnt goin to make it out then have him get help.
2007-10-13 13:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't tell. You need to stick with your promise. If he gets to be dangerous to himself or to others, then you need to help him (by calling a local crisis line and giving the phone to him, or talking with them yourself). Otherwise, talk with him yourself no matter what it takes....you may be saving this person's life. It's a hard choice but do you want him to ever trust you again? You need to weigh this decision for yourself, I guess. Keep writing. I'm sure you'll get some answers....after all, this IS answers! Take care.
2007-10-13 13:06:31 · answer #11 · answered by bazimme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋