when problems arise in a marriage , why do people always thing that DIVORCE is the answer? we did marry for better or worse and in sickness and in health right? is marriage not a sacred thing anymore or is DIVORCE just the easy way out???
2007-10-13 12:56:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its a sad thing. Being a kid I don't really know. But i think it is because adults rush things when they are young and don't realize what they are getting into. They think it will be great and easy and then they realize how hard it is. Before you know it they find out that they don't have much in common and it was silly for them to get married. Most of the time its one person realizing it before the other so that makes them want the divorce. Its sad. But that's life.
2007-10-13 13:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I agree with you to a point. The divorce rate is way too high.
But no one really know what is going on in a marriage but the married couple.
When I divorced, it may have seemed to everyone else that it was just because we started to have problems in our marriage. But the reality was that it was some long term problems that I did not choose to share with everyone.
I'm glad to be divorced, and I will not rush into marriage unless I am really sure that the relationship has a chance to last through sickness and health.
2007-10-13 20:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by Rocky Raccoon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I think many persons don't take marriage serious either. Many persons don't marry for the right reasons. And a relationship is something very complicated and any kind of trouble that comes along the way will be like land mines for it unless there is true commitment and love.
But of course I do believe divorce is a better solution than hanging in a rotten marriage. it is better to be alone than living with the enemy. some marriages are so bad and full of aggressions and negative sides that leaving is the best way to end it.
On the other hand there are many relationships that can be saved with the right attitude and counseling, if a way can be found to protect the interests of both partners.
2007-10-13 20:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by GreenEyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's because people don't want to have to WORK at it. We have become lazy, and don't want to put any effort into it. To make a marriage work, it takes both people putting effort and hard work into it. Also when conflict comes up, work to resolve it, not run from it. I find it incredibly sad that people would rather give up and take what they think the easy way out, and be selfish and think ONLY of themselves by divorcing, instead of working at it.
We live in a throw away society today, and society treats marriage the same way. It's really sad. Personally I believe that Marriage STILL is a sacred instituion created by GOD.
2007-10-13 20:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only time people should really get divorced is if being divorced is going to be better than being still married. Sometimes that is just the case.
2007-10-13 20:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by Settelbanat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because nowadays, people are living for the NOW! They all want instant gratification. I have been married for 4 years, and am in it for the long haul.
People are not thinking things through anymore. It's that way with everything. Look at Britney Spears' outstanding "mommy" skills. She doesn't even know how to HOLD a baby!
People need to grow up! Everyone is just so Lackadaisical!
2007-10-13 20:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by SARswimmer95 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that sometimes staying in a marriage when both of you is miserable is just unnecessary. If you're having problems because you're both selfish and immature, that's a different story. But this is not 1950 anymore. People are more open-minded now and I don't see any reason to stay in relationships that are harmful both emotionally, and physically (in some cases). But then again I may be too liberal, so that's just my opinion.
2007-10-13 20:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that divorce is being over-used as some "easy button" device these days. It's like people marry just to see what it's like, and quickly end up divorcing over minor and very fixable (but you have to work) issues.
2007-10-13 19:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do agree with you which is why I still haven't left mine yet. I found personal ads online from him after we were married. He is never home. We never do anything together. He sees very little of me or our daughter (working he says hope its true). I talk more to my ex then him. We live with his mother and neither will move on. He yells all the time. Talks down to me. No physical attention anymore either.
ALL OF THIS AND I STAY WITH HIM!
2007-10-13 20:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by Just Want To B Me 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's the easy way out. That is how humans deal with everything nowadays.
2007-10-13 20:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋