he is married to her aunt and he is dying to be with my friend and not her aunt.... they been together for 3 months... is that right.... what shold they do....n they are good friends...too
2007-10-13 11:24:49 · 8 answers · asked by bamschick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is married to her aunt and he is dying to be with my friend and not her aunt.... they been together for 3 months... is that right.... what shold they do....n they are good friends...too... BUT HIS ONLY BEEN MARRIED NOT TO LONG.... AND WELL HE LOVES HER SINCE 5YRS AGO...
2007-10-13 11:43:29 · update #1
BUT HIS ONLY BEEN MARRIED NOT TO LONG.... AND WELL HE LOVES HER SINCE 5YRS AGO...
2007-10-13 11:43:59 · update #2
That's Incest!!!, You don't mess around with relatives, whether they're married into the family or otherwise. Taboo!!!
Get A Shrink, Do Something! Jump off a cliff if you can't deal with it.
Now, Tell Him To Go Take Care of His Wife!!!
2007-10-13 11:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by De-Activated Bad Profile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the man is married to her aunt, that makes him her uncle. Your friend should have tried to avoid him at the first hint of romantic interest in either direction. This situation has the potential to rip apart more than the aunt and uncle. If your friend isn't completely selfish, she will stay away from him, for she had no right to allow those types of feelings to develop, knowing he was married, and on top of that to a family member. There will be no way to justify her behavior. Boo
2007-10-13 11:37:44 · answer #2 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love is a complicated mix of feelings and commitment. You say they loved each other 5 years ago. She should ask herself, if he really loved her, why did he chose to honor this other woman (her aunt) with marriage. And, if he chose to be married, why is it that he cannot honor his promise to his wife? Feelings can be deceptive. The romance - the desired to be wanted/needed and the ability to make him feel good may be very alluring but as others have said - nothing good can come of this tryst. She has got to be strong enough, love herself enough to not become his excuse. A good friend will encourage their friends to love their mates and make good decisions. He is using her emotionally and not investing in his new marriage. (By the way, new marriages are tough. If they're to succeed, they need time to adjust). I'd advise your friend to pull away for a long while and allow their marriage to become whatever it will become absent her participation.
2007-10-13 11:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by L G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They need to leave each other alone. First, he’s married. Second, he’s married to one of her relatives, for God sake.
She needs to find a single man who's *not a member of her family* to fall in love with.
2007-10-13 11:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by kp 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He is a married man, your friend needs to back off.
2007-10-13 11:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is a s*** and he knows it. Your friend is hurting not only herself and her dignity but it will have an enormous effect on the entire family.
Tell her to get rid of him before all hell breaks loose.
2007-10-13 11:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No matter what, you'd better keep your nose out of it.
Nothing but bad is going to come out of this. No sense in getting any on you.
2007-10-13 11:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's NOT RIGHT.
Your friend needs to end it now.
2007-10-13 11:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋