i understand some people miscarry at home, but if you miscarry but the remains are still in you, and the doctor cleans you out, y do u not get the remains to bury?
2007-10-13 11:17:41 · 6 answers · asked by jashaunte 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Even if you miscarry and "remains" are still in you, some of it should have leaked out. If it's early, honestly there aren't much remains, it's very small and chances are with the way they clean you out it's not something that's really able to be spotted in everything that will be cleaned out of you. If you are farther along they usually do give you the remains to bury and have a funeral with. However, some people that do have the funeral do not have the remains at all, but because of social customs decide that they should have a funeral, and even a grave site, anyway. Just remember no matter what the size of the fetus, it was your baby, and if you feel the need to have a place to go (such as a grave) to grieve, just as if your child would have been fully grown, than do that, it's your right.
2007-10-13 11:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Miscarriages are deemed so, because the fetus is not yet developed enough in most cases, that you would be able to make out anything. And especially of you have a D&C to remove remains of the pregnancy it would all ba a big mix of everything.
Personally I said a prayer from the moment I knew I was miscarrying and tried to say goodbye in the process.
almost bled to death, so when I came to after fainting the procedure was done and there was no time to ask for remains.
2007-10-13 19:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sickofmyjob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some women r not far enough along for there to be anything to burry. most times they will probably give u the remains of a older fetus. no matter what, if the person wants to they can still have a funeral and a grave site to visit. it is not wrong to do that, that was there baby and they have the right to. even if that baby was 2 weeks in gestation, its still a baby, someones child. good luck to all who have miscarried. im so so sorry for u all. god bless u. u r all n my prayers and u the asker u r n my prayers 2, and if u lost a baby, im so so so so so sorry for u. god has plans dont worry he knows what he is doing, its all in good time.
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2007-10-13 18:40:46 · answer #3 · answered by BestFriendsForever1988 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I asked my hospital about this after they did a D&C on me. They told me its because the fetus is so small it is impossible for them to find it amoungst the other things, such as the pregnancy sac etc, even if they did there wouldn't be enough to bury or cremate. I was 9 weeks. It is very sad.
2007-10-13 19:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by katiekatjas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good question, when i miscarried i didn't get a chance to ask. I was so out of it at the hospital (from pain And exhaustion) That i don't know what happened afterwards. Its a shame that they don't always do that.
2007-10-13 18:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Kristen♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can if you ask. I know several religious women, different times of miscarriage, who asked for and received the remains. State law may regulate it though (in other words, you have to show that you have a burial place.
2007-10-13 18:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by TotalRecipeHound 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋