who have no life of there own mine mother in law calls my husband 400times a day and is always in our business oh by the way she has no husband and my husband always try's he's best for her even if it mean's him and i get into a arguement then that is what it is
2007-10-13 10:33:13 · 12 answers · asked by monalisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I has a lot to do with the "man of the house" thing, especially considering that she doesn't have a spouse.
She's in your guy's business because HE lets her be...and you don't speak up for yourself when she starts running all over your life.
I hate to say it, but it's time to tell your husband how irritating you find this to really be, and then consider setting some ultimatums...limits are GOOD. Maybe a little personal and/or couples counseling would help you two to shut Mom out of the picture just a little. Until you are ready to tell your husband to cut those apron strings, Mom is as good as sleeping in your bed.
2007-10-13 10:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
400 times a day is excessive.. Men protect their mothers b/c they were ther to nurture them, cook for them, and tend to them. She has no right nosing into your affairs. You have your own life, she needs to respect that. So does your husband. "Accidentally" unplug the phone line, if he says nothing about her not calling, after he leaves, call your mother in law and ask her how things are. Play a little game but don`t get caught. My wife is the master of these types of things. You need to reposition yourself, a good way to start is to call her alot,on your own , and talk about nothing. When your husband comes in , and asks who your speaking with , tell him.Then hand him the phone. Make her realize that you are the woman he married, not her, without getting rude. This is a tough situation, use your imagination, you can do it!!
2007-10-13 17:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No man completely cuts the apron strings that tie them to their mother.
You need to either deal with it or get out of the situation all together. Don't try getting into arguements about it with your husband or you may find yourself on the losing end.
Your MIL is lonely and needs to find some hobbies to help her pass the time, perhaps this is where you could come in and talk (nicely) to her about what she would like to do with her life.
2007-10-13 17:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I don't know why I am answering this because I am actually in the same boat. Mine might be a little worse though. I have to live with mine (mother in law that is). He wanted me to move in with them. Thought it would only be until she got on her feet and she realized that we were going to get married, have children, etc. NOT!! She won't leave, can't afford it and he always ends up sticking up for her in the end. She took over everything, house, my daughter, etc. If you can find help, please send it on to me.Sorry I couldn't help.
2007-10-13 18:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by Just Want To B Me 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know, I think it might be the fact that they gave us life and we bonded with them as infants. Could that be it? It has to be. (not being sarcastic, but it sounds that way, sorry)
The only men that don't love their mothers are the ones who were abused by their mothers as children. My friend Dave (not his real name) HATES his mother, but its because she sexually and physically abused him for his first 7 years of life.
In my eyes, my mother is PERFECT, but my boyfriend doesn't see it that way. I don't know why. Yet, at the same time, I think my boyfriend's mother is a wack job who needs gastric bypass and smart pills cuz she's fat and stupid. My boyfriend says that, yes, she has some weird ideas, but she is his life, and I would never tell him what I really think about her.
NEVER TALK SMACK ON A MAN'S MOTHER. She is the number one woman in his life.
2007-10-13 17:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by Barney Blake 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well if you are counting her phone calls enough to know it's 400 times a day then you have no live of your own either. The two of you should get along quite well then.
2007-10-13 18:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Because men just want a woman like their mama and thats why they protect them.....I call my daughter like 20 to 30 times a day and im a woman.Just because the kids grow up mamas dont think so...Be glad he has a mama that loves him.Are you jelious ?
2007-10-13 18:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by lady bug 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Monalisa, we look like twins.LOL
His mom looked after him when he was young, now he is only returning the favor. Men have a natural instinct to protect. I am sure it it was your mom you would probably be different.
2007-10-13 17:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
his mother brought him into this world... Dont you think you could let him help her whenever she needed him before its too late? If my boys didnt bother w/me..i'd be heartbroken..not that i'd call them so often but... if he is all she has...you have to be compassionate... and not let it bother u, after all he is with you, in your bed, supporting you... works both ways does it not?
2007-10-13 17:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by momof3 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I dunno.
Maybe it's because without their mothers, guys would have lives period!
2007-10-13 17:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋