My parents are planning to divorce in two years, I'm 14 at the moment and am considering whether it would be a good idea to leave home then. I have a reasonable amount of money in my bank, which would get me set up in a flat, and I have an apprenticeship at the moment which will become a fully paid job at 16, so I could finance myself, although I wouldn't have many luxuries. Are there any legal reasons for me not to move out?
2007-10-13 10:22:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My parents are definetly going through with it - they can't stand each other and the only reason they are not divorcing immediately is so that we can stay in a nice house and there will be as little disruption as possible to my GCSEs. When they do divorce, neither will have much money so I won't get luxuries anyway. I'm not going to bury my head in the sand and pretend its not happening - it will happen and at least they have been considerate enough to consider my grades. So waiting to see whether it will happen is not an option.
2007-10-13 10:31:29 · update #1
Just to clarify - I can't argue a case entirely on terms of abuse - but I could argue against my dad with neglect and being an irresponsible drunkard... I won't go into details though!
2007-10-13 10:36:57 · update #2
"I don't want to accuse of you being naive, especially since I've never met you. However, do you have any idea of what it costs to live on your own? Rent ? heat? electric ? car ? insurance ? food ? phone ? etc, etc, etc."
I already said, the money that I have will get me set up renting a flat, but it won't cover anything else. The rest of the things I could pay for with the pay from my job - although I did say already that I can't have anything that's not necessary.
You're right, you don't know me and can't call me naive. I have thought everything out and I think it could work, and providing that I get good GCSEs, I could continue my education later, once I've gotten through these two years.
2007-10-13 11:07:24 · update #3
there is no law in Britain that will stop you from leaving home, your parents could try to stop you but even the police do not make a 16 year old return home if they are safe and have a place to stay, if you still feel like this in two years time then make sure you still have a job to support yourself and a safe place to go to please do not consider one of these bed sits as i do not think these are always safe places for young girls on their own, you seem to have thought about it alot, and seem to have a very old head on your shoulders, the only advice i can't give you is carry on saving, start collecting all the things you will need for your own home, i.e bedding, kettle cups,plates, put the in a chest or something so that when you feel ready to leave you have some things to get you going, i do not think you are naive and i think you have put a lot of thought into this, i hope that things do work out for you and remember to always put your personal safety first, good luck for the next two years and in life i hope you get everything you wish for and your life is a success. x
2007-10-14 01:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by fruitcake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you cant. Your parents are legally responsible for you until you are 18, and in some states tell you are 19.Dont rush things. As I told my son- be a kid while you can because once you cross that line into being an adult-theres no turning back. Life is not always better on the other side of that fence. It is a hard tough world out there and things cost alot more then you know. And this world is also based on having good credit. If you dont it is more tougher and more expensive. People dont always get bad credit intentionally. Lots of reasons causes it and it make things more difficult in life.Just take things slowly. Dont rush them. Finish your education and go from there.
2007-10-13 19:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by MG425 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a "reasonable amount of money"? What does that mean?
I don't want to accuse of you being naive, especially since I've never met you. However, do you have any idea of what it costs to live on your own? Rent ? heat? electric ? car ? insurance ? food ? phone ? etc, etc, etc.
I'm sorry that you are not in a good place with your parents, but trying to go it on your own at your age is a mistake. Make the best of a bad situation with your parents, enjoy your youth as much as you can, and you'll be on your own soon enough. Your teen years don't last forever.
2007-10-13 17:57:30 · answer #3 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess its legal..but do you really want to?
think about it...finances wont last long when you are paying rent and you have to hold down a full time job..how will you finish shcool? on top of that..what about your social life? you wouldnt be able to "hang out" with your friends and do the things you use to because you will have to get up and work the next morning..i know it hurts when parents divorce but dont you think that you can work through this? i did..my parents divorced when i was 15..i was sooooo mad at them..i thought that my world was coming to an end..but in reality it was for the best..my mom is so much happier and my dad is a better parent..think things through before you make a decision
good luck to you
2007-10-13 17:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by Joey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen if your parents are making plans to wait for two whole years to divorce, there is still a big chance that they will not go through with it. Why wait? There must still be some sort of sparks there. Don't give up on them!
And no 16 years of age: I do not believe you can leave home and it be legal. You will still be way to under age. Why don't you just stay home and have those luxuries, because it may or may not happen with your folks.
2007-10-13 17:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by emison21754 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I left home at 16, but turned 17 within about 2 weeks! However, I moved in with my older boyfriend, who then technically became my guardian for a year. However, I was advised at the time that with parent's permission, or their refusal to take me back, then I would be OK on my own.
2007-10-14 13:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can legally divorce your own parents, but there usually has to be some form of neglect or abuse for the courts to grant you an emancipated minor
2007-10-13 17:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on your country's laws of when children become adults. Some countries allow 16 year olds to file emancipation papers if you can support yourself.
2007-10-13 17:37:13 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can leave home at 16 with your parents permission - 18 without xxx
2007-10-13 17:32:27 · answer #9 · answered by starlet108 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no,but i would discuss it with both of your parents first for their input if your able so they know your feelings and intentions.as well it would allow them to adjust their own plans for your future and theirs.don't forget custodianship,support and schooling.there is more to it than just moving out.find out what they planned for your future than make your decision with your best interests at heart.
2007-10-13 17:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by Kirk K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋