sometimes he acts like a spoilt brat, i mean he is older than me (12 years older) but if he is doing a chore and the kids get in the way he moans. he moans about every mortal thing it really p***** me of sometimes i wonder what i have actually married my eldest son acts more mature than he does. if i say something to him about his moaning he tells me to shut up and if i dont he goes very mardy and it causes a huge row.
has anyone else got a husband like this and how do you cope.
2007-10-13 10:18:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi yep, the only thing is he was like this before I married him lol, sometimes I think he has a time of the month, he is loads worse than I am, and worse that a little kid, the thing is he probably doesnt even know he is doing it. When my husband does it I ask him why and he stops it for a while. I winds me up beacuse the things that matter to me that are important things I get upset about he doesnt and then all he gets in a faf about is bringing his work clothes down which I ask him politey to get he pulls a right face and storms up the stairs to get them.
Tell you something though I bet your husband doesnt do it in front of his own mother, I went over to his mums with him and her cat was sick, she got him to clean it up and he did, I was shocked, there was no pull of face or not stroppy ness, he just did it, I said next time our dog is sick you are deffiantly cleaning it up.
Were to soft with them thats what it is, one of these days im going to let him to everything and ill sit there and winge if im asked to do something, they wont like it when the table has turned.
How do I cope ? I dont I loose my rag and tell him what I think of his pathtic moods and tell him if he carries on, he can do things for himself from now on then nothing will get done because I am certainly not doing it.
2007-10-13 10:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
sounds like he is not happy with his life, or better say not contended with his present situation. Is there a job problem? or some intimate issues between you two? did you upset him but you didn't realise?
he seems to use moaning to express his dissatisfaction, whatever that is. It may be the only way he can express himself? is he a natural communicator? some men don't know how to express their feelings. My dad moans a lot to get attention. The way he was brought up made him criticise so he gets better service in the house. My mum never satisfies his appetite so he is constantly moaning.
Talk to him to find out his source of unhappiness (bitterness?). Fina a church pastor who may be able to help digging out the root of the problem.
Make your home a safe and secure place for him to express his feelings, rather than criticise.
Take care.
2007-10-14 11:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by Ruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CC has to have best answer to this post--best answer by far!! And the rest of you i gave the thumbs down to? Men are not 'objects' as portrayed in some of the answers you know, just as women are not objects either,so don't go throwing hissy fits,or your toy's out of your pram's because YOU ''possibly'' made the wrong decision in your choice of man-as CC say's--its ''trivial''! You have made your choices-so deal with them,and if you can't take the heat ladies.....you know what to do then!
2007-10-13 18:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
people that act younger than they should perceive you are being critical of them like a parent and so they act out
sit him down and have an adult conversation stating how you feel and how his behaviour affects you adversely and suggest he finds a solution
discuss it sensitively and dont get into anargument
if he feels threatened he will act out
then just hold you hand up and say we will resume when you feel you are centred and able to approach this logically and in an adult fashion
2007-10-14 05:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, don't let anyone tell you to shut up. It's disrespectful. You can be childish and try treating him the same way he treats you, or you can be the bigger person and treat him the way you WANT him to treat you. If all else fails, suggest counseling. If he won't go - consider a new life partner.
2007-10-13 17:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by Angela D 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Hey, He's married to you! ,a bunch of annoying kids, a huge stack of bills and on top of that he has the list of "honey do's"
every goddamn weekend. If he's doing them be grateful, but don't expect him to be happy and whistling Walt Disney songs while doing the grunt work.
Be happy he doesn't shoot himself or the rest of you, I think I would.
2007-10-13 18:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
So, let him moan. I don't understand what the big deal is. At least he's cleaning. Many women have husbands who don't do anything at all. This is trivial. Sorry.
2007-10-13 17:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by CC 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
oh gawd... who wants to put up with a moany old fart?
You can either learn to ignore it and live with it, or follow that little voice in your head that says "what have I actually married"
2007-10-13 21:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL sorry are you sure you arnt married to my husband..I think they are all big spoilt brats....my way to deal with it....smile and ignore :)
2007-10-13 17:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by wendy j 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
you should read "how to be good" by Nick Hornby, sounds just like it
2007-10-13 17:58:52 · answer #10 · answered by SuperChris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋