I new this women for 13 years now. When I meet her we both were in a realtionship so we never got together...We both liked each other more then friends. I got married, divorsed and now am single. Years later she gets married, (year and a half now )contacts me to hang out with her and her friends at a club.I go with my a friend of mine. We meet up and dance all night long. Great time we had. more plans of getting together have been made. She tells me that she still has feelings for me even though she is married. I to have feelings for her but I dont want to be "that guy" who breaks up a marriage. on the other hand I want her for myself...I am banging my head over here. Any Ideas or comments would be great.
Let me add that we didnt do a thing. Kiss, sex, nothing but dancing
2007-10-13 10:11:16 · 14 answers · asked by adam J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go for it...she likes you and life is short
2007-10-13 10:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by Billie 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are going to get hurt here. You must tell her that you have feelings for her and that you want to know how happy she is in her marriage. You do not want to be the other man in her life. If you go any further you are signing yourself up for alot of pain. Why is she out clubbing it when she is married anyways? What kind of marriage does she have? It sounds like she cannot settle in her life and do you really want a woman like that. She obviously isnt taking her marriage too seriously or she wouldnt be out with her friends and dancing with you. Where is this womans poor husband. I would think twice about this.
2007-10-13 11:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's better that way. At least, you gave her food for thought and let her make her own decision.
I know it is easy to judge and say, leave her alone.
Well, you are going at it the right way.
She can decide exactly what she wants, and she knows she's free to walk away or take the plunge.
Still, she might be going through a crisis in her marriage for having spend the whole night with you, even though nothing happened.
Well, I find it difficult to say good luck, as I wouldn't wish her marriage to fail just so that she could be with you, however, who knows, things happen for a reason and who knows what the future holds.
xx
2007-10-13 10:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is spending time with you for a reason. She obviously settled and is already not happy in her marriage. People are going to do what they are going to do so what makes you think that you're "that guy"?
Then again, she might just feel safe that you will not take the next step. Personally, I'd take the chance unless her husband was my brother or something. Then, I'd be on Jerry Springer.. LOL
Good Luck!
2007-10-13 10:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by Chuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you need to run she marries you and GOD knows who she will be dancing all night with the woman is a jokes when you get married you dont invite other mens out to dance are what ever a decent woman would have had her husband there to dance and left her past in the past what would hubby think if he knew you could be the next husband at home while the wife is out playing
2007-10-13 10:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it...you don't want to be that guy who breaks up a marriage. You need to cut off all contact with her, no phone calls, no emails, no text messages, nothing. You are tempting fate. Tell her you wish her well and move on. There are plenty of other fishes in the sea to fry.
2007-10-13 12:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is sacred!
Above all other feelings or desires, that remains true. Respect the sanctity of marriage.
You can't control her or what she does, but you can control your actions. Love is a choice. Make her choice easier by leaving her alone, not allowing you to hang out with her.
It's not easy for you, but she made a commitment to a man, and he made it to her, both before God, for a lifetime. Respect that.
Don't be apart of destroying her marriage.
2007-10-13 10:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by *BabyMama* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you said that you are not the guy who breaks up a marriage, then just be that guy. no complications. You should stop seeing her. you are playing with fire. firstly you dont know the husband and what he can do. yes, life is short enjoy it while you can. dont waste your time when you fully know that you two cannot be together. get someone free of trouble and free of headaches. i guess you should bang your head harder to get you back to your senses.
2007-10-13 10:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by johnmonroe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do her a favor - stay out of her life til she decides what she really wants. You are not there for the daily life routines that naturally stress a marriage. If you really care about this woman, you will leave her alone and let her figure out what she wants.
2007-10-13 10:15:29 · answer #9 · answered by Angela D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop going to the club..
and find out if she is willing to walk away from the marriage on her own?? if not.. then u are beating ur head against a brick wall.. and being used..
so don't play that game .. u are too
old for this in life....
U may want her.. but just how bad does he want u..????
unless u can get ur head right.. and realize it is all just for fun..
then chances r u are going to get hurt...
2007-10-13 10:19:18 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run far away from this woman, lest you commit adultery. She will just cheat on you, like she is cheating on her husband with you now. Find a single gal with no baggage.
2007-10-13 10:16:14 · answer #11 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋