My boyfriends ex wife of about 7 years has recently started coming over to his house and bringing the 9 year old daughter that he signed rights away to 7 years ago. She never wanted him to see the child until now for some reason. He tells me that she just comes over to let him see his daughter because this is what the child wants, but I feel there is more to the story. She is also having problems with her husband. She even stayed at my boyfriends house. He swears that nothing is going on. He tells me he loves me and that he wants to be with me. What do you think this woman is up to?? SHe is not going to get anything from my bf beccause he has no job, no money and no transportation. And up until a week ago I was paying his bills but I am not going to let him use me anymore. I need help figuring this situation out. She divorced him so why is she coming back now???
2007-10-13 09:01:41 · 10 answers · asked by Sunny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It could very well be that the child wants to spend time with the dad. The fact that the ex. is there could just be to chaparone to see how things are going with the dad and child. I don't know the circumstances of why your bf dosen't have a job, money or transportation but I would question why you are paying his way and how long you've been doing that. He must be in heaven to sit at home and you pay his way and in his own place to boot. Your concern should be him and his circumstances and why he sits around and lets you look after him. Why would you even be concerned about the ex? If something is going on between the two of them, then she can start paying his bills. It's not a good start to your relationship...that's for sure. The fact that he signed away rights to his own child ..... do yourself a favor and find someone of better character.
2007-10-13 12:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's being honest about the daughter wanting to know her father. Maybe not. What are you doing with a deadbeat who has no job, no money and no transportation? If you're 'not going to let him use you anymore' anyway, then why do you care so much about his ex? Make a decision.
2007-10-13 16:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right by being suspicious---she is up to something and if nothing is going on now--it will be---ex's dont hang around like this for nothing--but it does sound strange since he doesnt have job, money or transportation. If he has all this going against him and now ex hanging around all the time, have you considered finding someone better?
2007-10-13 16:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by skyward 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be reaching for some connection that she had with him since it seems she's losing connections with her current husband. Something smells fishy to me, and it sounds like if there is anything going on your bf isn't going to tell you. He may be telling the truth; if so, we won't mind you telling him how much it bothers you that she is always there. Good decision to stop helping him financially; it sounds like he is really confused and maybe immature and needs to get on his own two feet before he decides what do to with his love life. I'd be tempted to remove myself from the picture and see what happens. See if he comes back after me or gravitates toward the ex. Good luck!
2007-10-13 16:11:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child is 9, she has a right to get to know her father, whether the deadbeat wants her too or not. Why are you with a man who would sign his child away like that? How long until he signs you away, or the children you have with him?
2007-10-13 16:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stupidity.
Pure, angry, horrible, useless, realistic... stupidity.
She needs help, and figures since your boyfriend did not divorce her, she can come back.
Now, you've got to understand that your boyfriend loved this person for an amount of time, and is not just going to kick her to the curb when she is in need.
Understand and respect that, and there will be no divorce papers needed. :)
2007-10-13 16:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Abby Corneto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been asking the same question so many times.
Yes, she's obviously planning something.
But, since you are paying the bills, why are you not the one living, sharing the flat with your boyfriend?
2007-10-13 16:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women only want a man when another women has him. sound like she's one of them.
2007-10-13 16:09:24 · answer #8 · answered by goldieelocks666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm sounds like you both fell for a loser... why would either of you want with him...
2007-10-13 16:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by wenwen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RUN#
2007-10-13 16:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by nhuvi j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋