a girl bein goin out wiv other girl for 3 yrs then suddnely she says listen am sorry but i cant be together and the reason is i dont want to get in any relationship,but she still wants the girl to be her friend,at the same time she would get soo jealous if she knows that anyone flirts wiv her friend (x ) she talks to her as a lover but still she call it a friendship nothin more or less
plz can anyone tell me why she would keep doin this?
2007-10-13 08:52:26 · 5 answers · asked by tara tara 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
a few things that i never understood - when in love with someone - why would you still want to maintain a close relationship - but only as friends??? i think that would hurt terribly and limit your possibility of getting into someone new. so i think a more important answer would be finding out why the girl who is still in love continues to allow this kinda thing.
also i think some people like to generate alot of drama - even tho they may seem very low keyed etc. underneath there is chaos and turmoil. i would say perhaps this person has her eye on someone else and is not sure where or if it will go anywhere and wants to keep the other person "on hold" till she sees what will happen. especially with the jealousy component.
advise: worry more for why you do what you do rather than why other people do what they do to you. i would very graciously walk away from this heartache in the making and let her find what she needs to -if it's menat to be - she'll be back. but why would you wnat her back - and 3 years is a LONG time to all of a sudden say i can't be with you!! and all of a sudden say oh BTW i can't be in any relationship right now after being in one for 3 years - somethings missing in the puzzle and my guess its someone else...
let me know what happens here - very interesting and best of luck to you!!
2007-10-13 09:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1: She's possessive;
2: Willing to bet she's got someone on the side;
3: And if three years is not a relationship, what the heck is?
4: The one that she only wants to be friends with needs to cut that nonsense in the butt. Tell her that you can be friends but if she's not willing to commit to a relationship and only wants to be friends than you're able to seek other friends yourself and she needs to get a grip on herself and her jealousy cause you're not having any part of it. Stand firm. She won't think your serious if you don't. She'll either come around or drop you.
Good luck.
2007-10-13 16:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by iuud2noitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's either confused as to what she actually wants, or she wants to have it all ie, wants to have the relationship but have the freedom to act as though she's single as well.
Talk to your friend/girlfriend. It's the only way you'll get to the bottom of this.
2007-10-13 15:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by Xai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she doesn't want the girl, but doesn't want the girl to have anyone else, either. She sounds very jealous.
2007-10-13 16:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
scared of commitment. But still likes to control.
2007-10-13 16:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mr-Kay 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋