How do get your anger undercontrol after a serious of events happening?

Question

There are alot of things that are causing my anger right now, especially this week. I am running out of solutions. I know I am taking meds and seeing a psychiatrist. Here are some examples of my anger issues: I had an head injury last year and lost half of my memory when I came back to the university, Right before I came some woman backed over me and messed my knee up after two knee surgeries so my knee is always hurting, I learned that My best friend told the guy that I like (who is also a close friend) that I like him, but she said more than what she was suppose to and didn't tell me the whole story (what I learned could of hurt people seriously), the guy that I like is telling me everything, and my sister-in-law abusing my niece ( I raised her majority of the time). I know I have alot of anger, but I feel like apart of me is messing to help control this anger. Please be serious if you give suggestions because this is a serious situtation. Thanks for listening.

Answer 1

ok you do have a lot of reasons to be angry...so first of all accept that and don't put yourself down for feeling that way - or it will just perpetuate your cycle.

now the #1 thing you must do is accept responsibility for the things that you are doing to make this anger continue. sort out what is really "yours" and what is someone elses stuff. only focus on what is yours right now!! like your health. you have to work thro all that and find ways to alleviate what you can and manage what cannot be alleviated. whether pain management, injections botox or steroids - etc. i know what chronic pain can do and it really is so hard to deal with.

as far as the friend and the guy thing - if you like the guy then you should have told him and not allow a friend to intervene in your stuff. usually it does end up miscommunicated.

neice - i'm sorry to hear all that - if you feel youc an be of assistance - speak to your sister-in -law... if nothing can be done then you must accept it andnot let in suck the life out of you so you can be available for your neice at a later date when she will need you.

2 things that i try to live by and they have helped me as i hope they help you - allow misfortune to refine you not DEFINE you. if you allow bad things to make you who you are - then you will never get beyond anything but the bad. also try to be creative in these situations vs reactive. if you react all over the place - the environment controls you versus you controlling the environment.

Answer 2

I have a lot of anger control issues too over very trivial matters and usually when that happens I do something to distract my thoughts; usually read, exercise, sometimes i just take a nap. I do yoga and the most important thing is to tell people your feelings and that will make a big difference like you're doing right now. Hop this helps.

Answer 3

Anger Management (Hmm…

When you occasionally have a really bad day, and you just need to take it out on someone, don't take it out on someone you know, take it out on someone you don't know.I was sitting at my desk when I remembered a phone call I'd forgotten to make. I found the number and dialed it.

A man answered, saying "Hello."I politely said, "This is Chris. Could I please speak with Robyn Carter?"Suddenly a manic voice yelled out in my ear "Get the right f***ing number!" and the phone was slammed down on me. I couldn't believe that anyone could be so rude .

When I tracked down Robyn's correct number to call her, I found that I had accidentally transposed the last two digits.After hanging up with her, I decided to call the 'wrong' number again.When the same guy answered the phone, I yelled "You're an asshole!" and hung up.
I wrote his number down with the word 'asshole' next to it, and put it in my desk drawer. Every couple of weeks, when I was paying bills or had a really bad day, I'd call him up and yell, "You're an asshole!" It always cheered me up.

When Caller ID was introduced, I thought my therapeutic 'asshole' calling would have to stop. So, I called his number and said, "Hi,this is John Smith from the telephone company. I'm calling to see if you're familiar with our Caller ID Program?"He yelled "NO!" and slammed down the phone. I quickly called him back and said, "That's because you're an asshole!" and hung up.

One day I was at the store, getting ready to pull into a parking Spot. Some guy in a black BMW cut me off and pulled into the spot I had patiently waited for. I hit the horn and yelled that I'd been waiting for that spot, but the idiot ignored me. I noticed a "For Sale" sign in his back window, so I wrote down his number.
A couple of days later, right after calling the first asshole (I had is number on speed dial,) I thought that I'd better call the BMW asshole, too.

I said, "Is this the man with the black BMW for sale?"He said, "Yes, it is." I asked, "Can you tell me where I can see it?" He said, "Yes, I live at 34 Oaktree Blvd, in Fairfax. It's a yellow ranch, and the car's parked right out in front."

I asked, "What's your name?" He said, "My name is Don Hansen," I asked, "When's a good time to catch you, Don?" He said, "I'm home every evening after five."

I said, "Listen, Don, can I tell you something?"

He said, "Yes?"

I said, "Don, you're an asshole!"

Then I hung up, and added his number to my speed dial, too.

Now, when I had a problem, I had two assholes to call.
Then I came up with an idea. I called asshole #1. He said, "Hello." I said, "You're an asshole!" (But I didn't hang up.) He asked, "Are you still there?" I said, "Yeah," He screamed, "Stop calling me," I said, "Make me," He asked, "Who are you?" I said, "My name is Don Hansen." He said, "Yeah? Where do you live?" I said, "Asshole, I live at 34 Oaktree Blvd, in Fairfax, a yellow ranch, I have a black Beamer parked in front." He said, "I'm coming over right now, Don. And you had better start saying your prayers." I said, "Yeah, like I'm really scared, asshole," and hung up.

Then I called Asshole #2. He said, "Hello?" I said, "Hello, asshole," He yelled, "If I ever find out who you are..." I said, "You'll what?" He exclaimed, "I'll kick your ***," I answered, "Well, asshole, here's your chance. I'm coming over right now."
Then I hung up and immediately called the police, saying that I lived at 34 Oaktree Blvd, in Fairfax, and that I was on my way over there to kill my gay lover.

Then I called Channel 9 News about the gang war going down in Oaktree Blvd. in Fairfax.

I quickly got into my car and headed over to Fairfax. I got there just in time to watch two assholes beating the crap out of each other in front of six cop cars, an overhead news helicopter and surrounded by a news crew.

NOW I feel much better. Anger management really does work.