My fiance and I are planning to get married, but we have a little disagreement. I want the legal paperwork and a marriage certificate and he doesn't. He says he will go through a wedding and ceremony, wear a wedding ring and call me his wife, however he doesn't want to deal with the legal side of it. He says he will never go through that again (he was married once before - this will be my first).
How important is the marriage certificate? What are the pros and cons of getting one or not getting one? Any personal experiences or opinions would be appreciated! Thanks!
2007-10-13 08:38:49 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That piece of paper is an important commitment to a life together. Without it, then why go through the motions of a ceremony, unless symbolism with nothing to back it up is agreeable to both of you.....but it seems to me like running 26 miles of a marathon, but then leaving the course and refusing to run the last 2/10 of a mile.
2007-10-13 08:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-16 11:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage certificate is important if you need to present legal proof of being married. Like when applying for health or life insurance, so I'd definately insist upon getting the legal paperwork in order.
2007-10-13 08:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by Coltsfan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have already read about what everyone else says about the legal stuff. PROTECT YOURSELF! You will be so sorry if you do not get legally married.
If you have no certificate then you are not married, you are just pretending to be. It gives him the chance to leave at anytime he wants to without any regard to you and gives you no security what so ever. You will be doing a great disservice to your relationship by going this route. I wouldn't expect it to last long with the way he is looking at it.
Why would you want that kind of "marriage"?
2007-10-13 08:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The legal paperwork means that you guys split everything 50/50 if you guys got divorced. Also, if one of you were to die the other would inherit the assets with out the government taking a big chunk of money.
I think there is more to this than the certificate, what happened in his last marriage that made him feel this way? Seems like he is punishing you for his ex-wife's mistakes.
2007-10-13 08:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be recognized as married under the law then a marriage certificate is VERY important. If you are not legally married you do not get tax benefits, inheritance benefits, no sort of protection should you break up, and no next of kin allowance.
Frankly, he is NOT willing to marry you but he is willing to be a child and play pretend.
2007-10-13 08:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would matter if you plan to file taxes as 'married'. If you have no legal marriage...how does he expect to do such a thing? You wouldn't legally have his last name...so if you had children, they'd have either your last name, or his...or you'd have to hyphenate and document on the birth certificate that you are NOT married. There are many things that matter when you're talking about legal, vs a commitment ceremony.
You are not his ex. You should not be punished for the baggage SHE gave him. If he says he'll 'marry' you every way but legally...that just tells me that he PLANS on it not working. You don't marry someone while planning your future divorce.
2007-10-13 08:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is very important if he dies you will not get any thing if you get a divorce you will be scewed if you live an a community property state you Will get nothing that you to buy to together it would be as if you to just were living together. The legal paper work is very important. Just to have a wedding and to say l you are husband and wife means nothing to the states ot the government. if one of you get hurts bad in a car accident or at work the Dr's. and hospital may not tell you any thing because your not legally marred.
If he dose not want the paper be aware of what you are getting into. ask him why he dose not want he paper work to got with it
good luck and congrats if you to get married
2007-10-13 09:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're living together, and calling each other husband and wife, eventually (within 5 years in most states) you'll be common law married, and the fact that he didn't sign a marriage license won't mean a darn thing anymore. If you get divorced, he'll still responsible for alimony, child support, and subject to community property laws. So he's not really saving himself from anything, and making you mad in the process.
2007-10-13 09:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by smartsassysabrina 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know where you lve but i'm from ny and we needed the marriage certificate in oder to be wed. We would not be able to get marries with out. We could still have the party but no JP. no church just a party. I would check from where you are. Maybe you two might want to set up papers saying if it dont work that you get this he gets that and whats your own stays your own. Again with out knowing where you live is hard to say google info
2007-10-13 08:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by EVANS HERE YAY!!! WHAT A BIG GUY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋