Did you divorce because you did not love him or her? Did you divorce because different religious views? Did you divorce because you did not enjoy your partner's company anymore?
You can share a story. I do not mind details. I got the time to listen.
Please do not answer if you are happily married because then this question does not apply to you. I am doing a research paper in psychology on love. So answers of "happily married for 7 years" is something I cannot use.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
2007-10-13 08:38:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am heading the same road as I cannot fix my marriage at the moment although she is figting hard to safe it. The first cause is poor communication. We discuss things what's better for us to do yet she wanted to do what pleased her to do even if its hurts me or not. When I talk about it, she completes my sentences..... to fit what she wants to here thus derailing my points and it lead to something else out ot the topic and by the time I come back to the same issues she is pissed off, catches altitude, slamming doors, don't want to hear and leave. Secondly is not doing her responsibility. I repeately request her to settle down, focus on herself and her family, reevaluate herself and know what she wants in life or to remain the same same person each day. Instead she kept of running up and downs without any benefits, and as I leave home, all dishes would be waiting for me to wash, clean the house do laundry, cook for the kids while she is just there. When she feel guilt behind it, she would pretend that she is sick and I ends up taking her to the doctor. All the lab result were negative. Third interference from her family members. She greatly learned towards what her sister were telling her against me. Basically they were jealousy that she was the only one in there family with a husband. Lack of sex. Most of the time she spend nights on the couch. I slept alone on bed. Every little things I said irritated her and all she wanted was divorce so as she can move and stay with her sisters. I was not abusive to her. I come home late evening, she is ready to go out the door to her sisters house for a night. I become pissied off behind it, do nothing but sleep comfortable. Yet she accussed me because I dont tell her "i love you". Financial responsibility. The more I earned the more we spend unncessary. If I complain about it, she didn't want to here anything that comes from my mouth. This turned to be a controlling, commanding and demanding habits. It become headache and very stressfull to me to deal with her. I requested her mother to help me out. She failed. I get a marriage counsellor for her, My wife would tell what she wants to hear while doing opposite and she turns and slap on my face " I know am not a perfect wife, I have slarked big time doing my responsibility, you know I am going through somethings but just bear with me I will get back on track" I waited for 4 years for her to get back on track, still the same same problem. I become neglected, began thinking for divorce than being a slave in my own family. As she requested to go separate way, I finally stepped up and agreed its time for divorce. One way or another, she began to realize that even her sisters were not there for her. She pictured herself back in the field of dating, what she wennt through, what she did to me, turned the wheels back and started doing all the neccessary changes on what she was doing wrong but its too late. I am not going back for the sixth time to make things work, enough was enough. Now she is fighting will all her soul to keep her marriage blocking divorce, pleading for one last chance, which I am not going to. I don't want or am not going back the same road again. I believe there are women out there who know exactly what they want in a marriage and have the same family values as I do. this are the major reason for divorcing.
2007-10-13 13:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have not lived via a divorce...or a foul marriage ....then you may also no longer thoroughly recognize why there is also irreconcilable variations....i actually needed to dossier underneath irreconcilable variations because of the court docket no longer due to the fact that VERBAL and MENTAL abuse...a variety of abuse in any respect!....my fine buddy did the equal considering that her ex could no longer cheat however used to be commonly noticeable at a gay bar in a christian the town and all people used to be tormenting her kids...its fine to depart the irreconcilable variations to those submitting for a divorce.
2016-09-05 07:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by millet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel horrible for saying this but I guess you could say I wanted better. We were good friends and had fun together, but I was in love with my first love and still am. We got married still in high school and moved away for about a year. I didn't like the way it was turning out and we came back home. I ended up running into my ex-bf and we still wanted to be together. Love just won over and me and my first husband went our seperate ways. I guess you could call what we had puppy love.
BTW: I ended up marrying my first love and we've been happily married for 11 years. (sorry about that)
2007-10-13 09:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married, but I did live with my sister when she was going through a divorce. Maybe it will help, even if its not first hand.
She was jealous and would yell at him for looking at other women (even when he didn't). He was lazy and was often unemployed. He would promise to do the dishes, three days later, they weren't done, so either she or I would start them and he would yell at us because he was going to do that.
They decided on a trial separation, which they both decided it was best, so they divorced.
They are still friends, though, 8 years later.
2007-10-13 09:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though we plit on a mutual basis I left it to my ex wife to file the divorce because even though I wanted to do it I didn't really have enough legal grounds to do so-she thought she did though.
Man she must have been smoking some crazy stuff when she dreamt up her grounds for divorce lol.
2007-10-13 10:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we used to just argue all the time, she would yell alot, i got sick of having the kids cry because we fought so i moved out, not fair to them to live in an environment like that, where the mom and dad just don't like each other
2007-10-13 08:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by swenjj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Chrissy, My then wife was a repeat cheat !!!
2007-10-13 08:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋