Why ARE INTROVERTS MISUNDERSTOOD?

Question

I don't undestand this. Why are we introverts misunderstood?

Answer 1

It is only extroverts who misunderstand us, and they do so because they have no concept of a person who doesn't need the validation of other people in order to be complete. An introvert may enjoy being other people, but they do not need those other people to feel worthy, valued, fulfilled, or anything else, and that is something an extrovert just cannot understand.

Answer 2

Please understand what I am saying because I am not trying to be rude about anyone but I dealt w/ this but I got over being shy so have been on both sides If you are really pretty, dress cute and you are an introvert then of course people are going to be saying you are rude etc If you are ugly then of course your an easy target for people to make fun of you Also, if you only speak to people when spoken to then it can come across as rude so you may want to try real hard to talk w/ people even if it takes you out of your comfort zone because it can be a lonely world out there but you can pick and choose who you do this w/ but try at least doing it with a few people who have talked w/ you before. PS sorry for all your heart ache in your past

Answer 3

Extraverts either want interaction with others, or control. They are interested in and energized by what's going on outside of themselves. They have difficulty concentrating alone, and may have no internal value system at all. The introvert's interest in his own mental life doesn't make extroverts very happy. I have a very extroverted neighbor who bolts outside every time he hears ME outside in my yard. I eventually had to install a privacy fence because he could not understand that my being outside was not about him.

Also there is a group of psychological types, some introverted and some extroverted, who love the feeling of security and stability they get from social interaction. They are the SJ types. Even the introverted ones can be suspicious of people who don't interact openly with them.

There is a lot of social pressure to be "outgoing". Introverts who experience enough criticism about it may begin to believe that introversion equals shyness and all sorts of negative personality traits. Although an introvert may be shy, unconfident, anxious, have low self-esteem -- introversion is none of those things. It is merely a preferred interest in one's own mental life.

If an extrovert makes their own decisions about you, don't take it too seriously because most of them have no internal value system anyway.

Answer 4

Unfortunately, I have learned the answer to this question the hard way. Because you are introverted, you have not giving anyone else anything to go on as far as your personality and character are concerned. So if people have nothing from which to form an opinion, they will form their own opinion of you based on whatever THEY choose to base it on.

And who is going to tell them their opinion is wrong? Certainly, not you, the introvert. My advice is come out of your shell, speak up for yourself, and live your life. Speak up for yourself when needed, but not in a harsh way. If people still misunderstand you after you have explained yourself, tell them to kiss off and find a hobby.

No weapon formed against you shall prosper and every tongue that shall rise against you in judgment you shall show to be in the wrong. -Isaiah 54:17

Answer 5

beacause they rarely express how they are feeling... so people interpret their behaviour as they like.

i have a friend who is introverted, she never tells me how she feeling so i might misinterpret her reasons...

at least thats what i think

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I'm extroverted.. but i would't say we hav no internal value system...i am actually more concerned about others than myself, but i agree its really hard to understand introverts, me an my introverted friend used to be very close, but now, not so much... it got really frustrating at times when i couldnt help her feel happier, because she wouldn't tell me what's bothering her... also sometimes i couldnt help but take it personally, as if she didnt trust me enough to tell me