Women are crueller to children than men -- no matter how feminists try to rationalize?

Question

My question is why ?

I grew up in a Third World country, and there the cruelty of women is more explicit. Among me and my schoolmates, everyone agreed that their mothers punished more severely and often in merciless fits of rage.

In school, the most feared teachers and the ones who beat the most were all female.(In my country, teachers are allowed to discipline students)

Feminists try to rationalize it by saying nonsense like "oh, women spend more time with the children than men, that's why they beat them more. But it's not about quanitity, it's about the severity of the punishment.

I've personally witnessed some rather cruel beatings by my neighbor's mothers in my childhood (beating with rope, beating with buckle end, beating with high heel shoes and other things that would make you guys cringe )

Why are people skirting the question by focusing on the name of my country? Suffice to say it was in the Caribbean, where we do use the british colonial education system (hence, the beatings in primary schools)

Answer 1

I am sorry you had to witness this. My sons would often bring home teens that were neglected/abused. I doubt if you will find anyone on this forum that condones this type of behavior.

Answer 2

I'm sorry that you grew up with these experiences. I'm certain that this has definitely colored your outlook on the subject. Not all places in the world condone physical punishment of children in schools, and not all mothers are tyrants. I grew up in a household (in the US) where my dad wasn't around a whole lot, but it was he I feared the most when it came to discipline. He was the one who would be likely to brandish a leather belt when I got in trouble. I hesitate to assume though that all fathers beat their kids with belts just because my father did so. Be careful how you generalize. We all tend to want to think that others have had the same experiences, and yet chances are, they haven't. And the country you grew up in is different in many ways than other countries. We can't assume that this is this way all over the world. There are too many social differences.

Answer 3

May I ask which country you grew up in?

All the women I grew up with in southern USA, i.e, my mother, aunts, grandmother, lady cousins, etc., were all the sweetest people I could have ever known.

As one poster above suggested, do you think these women were taking out their anger for their lot in life on helpless children? If so, I am sorry the children had to endure that.

I hope you live in a country now that does not expose you to such rampant physical abuse.

Answer 4

I don't know what country you grew up in but it seems in third world countries that women don't get treated the best by men and therefore maybe take their rage out on their children, because they can't lash out at men (women have a lower place then men). Not to mention that its socially exceptable there to do that. In the US if you beat your kids you go to jail and lose them. If thats the social norm and there are no consequences (or consequences aren't strictly enforced) that would be alot more common. I will say in the US I haven't so much witnessed women beating their children but it seems women tend to use their kids more (against the children's father and in divorce).

Answer 5

I am a Mother and I LOVE my Daughter. she does NOT have to fear me in any way. when i was growing up BOTH my Parents had taken turns beating me trying to destroy me. and they almost got away with it.

You see there are good mothers and there are good fathers. then there are the ones who have been abused and are angry at everyone. the cycle of abuse keeps going on UNLESS you choose to stop the cycle like i and many others have done. I would NEVER EVER put any child through abuse never. and yes I know a few men & women who has seen worse then i have. but it still hurts.

I am sorry you had to see that but please remember not ALL Women are bad. OK there are lots of women who are kind hard working parents just like there are LOTS of kind hard working fathers give the HUMAN race a chance God Bless

Answer 6

I agree with the sentiments of most people here; child abuse is rampant in non-western countries, but often when women are abusive to their children it is because they're enforcing the status quo created by men. Often it's to avoid punishment themselves or because they hope it will help the children to avoid punishment later as adults.

In any case, I've lived in Eastern Africa and in Central America. I have never heard natives of these regions refer to their countries as "third world." That is a "first world" term and considered to be ethnocentric in those parts of the world. I'm also surprised that you use spell like an American as the British spelling is taught almost exclusively outside of the U.S.

Interesting.

Answer 7

i think of it rather is truer to assert all of society oppressed women which contain the girls themselves because of the fact they knew no longer something. and ladies have been nevertheless earning much less pay for doing a similar activity as adult adult males up till the Nineteen Sixties(?) a lot of individuals had terrible lives interior the previous, once you need to spend 12 hours an afternoon digging ditches for a pittance or giving delivery to fifteen little ones the final element you gave a rat's approximately is vote casting for women's rights.

Answer 8

I know growing up that my mother did most of the generic disciplining, but when I was exceptionally bad I heard the phrase I feared the most...

"Go to your room until your father gets home"

That was a whole other level of discipline.

Answer 9

Sorry but I have seen child abuse and the prevalence of male and females is pretty much the same. Your generalities suggest this is just a question to try and make women appear bad. This is not the case, there are good and bad in both sexes.

Answer 10

Children should never be beaten. However it mostly is left up to the mother to discipline the children as they generally spend more time with the children.

Answer 11

People always take out their anger on whoever they perceive to be lower on the social ladder than themselves. In countries where men are traditionally considered the rulers, while women are relegated to basically a servant class, it stands to reason that the women will take out their anger upon their children. Not fair, but it's just how nature is. Oppress one group of individuals, and they're going to turn on the group below them. You see it in animals all the time. We're just educated animals. I'm not saying it's right, just that what you say does not surprise me.