How do I get my three month old to go to sleep by himself in his crib ans not in bed with me?

Question

And to just lay him down without rocking him? I rock him, he goes to sleep, I go to lie him down, he wakes up, I lie in bed with him he goes right to sleep?????

Answer 1

Put something like a sweatshirt or t-shirt that you've worn in the crib with him. It'll have your scent, so it will comfort him.

Answer 2

There is countless studies and research about the "cry it out" method. I do not believe in it at all. Your baby has only been in this world 3 months, an trust me I have a 6 month old and he is teething at moment and I'm having a similer problem. At 3 months they are having there first major growth spurt/developments and he needs you, so you have to make him feel secure, safe and loved. If you leave him to cry he will eventually fall asleep yes but he now has resigned to the fact you are not coming. What if he needed his nappy changed or a feed or something has bitin him or he is sick.
Your baby has one source of communication and thats crying. Crying it out can lead to problems in the long term. If you make him feel comfortable and loved now and making sleep time a pleasure you wont have problems in the future. See Dr Sears website he is an american Doc he has been on DR Phil. askdrsear.com. He has some great tips.
Also what another mother said to about picking up his hand and seeing if he is in a deep sleep and then putting him down gently, I just did that over an hour ago it works. Who cares if he is not awake he will learn that his crib is not that bad after all when he wakes up he will play a little. Also get out and do heaps with your bub tyre him out(not to excesive though)Just games.

Answer 3

Do what's best for you and for what you can handle! Some say to let them scream it out, others don't. Both my kids slept in their own cribs from day 1 and slept the whole night through at 7 weeks! My daughter is now 7 and my son now 14 months. Both go to bed at 8 pm and sleep until I wake them at 7pm.

What *I* did (and may not be the PERFECT solution or right for you - but worth a try): I never let them sleep with me - but everyone is different. 2nd, as tough as it was, I did let them scream it out...however, I knew their cries too. If they were turning purple, for crying out loud, no, I got them and calmed them down and tried again. I was firm with them and didn't linger (now I can and we talk before bed). I put them down after kissing them, walked out and that was it. They learn.

Babies cry and learn manipulative behavior from day 1. "If I cry, I get fed, changed, held, etc."...but they also use it to their advantages too :) Honestly, you know your child better than anyone else. Give different things a try. It is important though that once you find that 1 perfect thing that works, stick with it.

Everyone told me, "You can't get your kids on a schedule, you'll be on theres"...last time I checked, I was the adult and the parent...I'm the one in charge of the schedules...sure, I had to adjust, but I'm the one to implement it. You are too!

Good luck with it...it can be done!

Answer 4

I totally agree with mamalama first u have to have a bed routine tr y for 2 or 3 days to let him nap in the crib and then try giving him a bath, feed him well and read him a story all in his room. Kiss him goodnight, tell him u gonna put in bed and u gonna leave(i know he doesn't understand u).

Turn on night light, close the door and put the monitor on. Let him cry it out until he falls asleep.Don't feel guilty, u r doing him good. If u began the process, don't step in in the middle of it. It will take him one hour crying, one night and that's it.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

Try a book called The No-Cry Sleep Solution. If you commit to following Elizabeth Pantley's advice, you will be able to put your baby in the crib after a while.

You need to wait until he's totally out. Pick his arm up and let it drop a couple inches. If he startles, he's not ready to be put down. If he lets the arm drop like a dead weight, put him down and pat him gently. If he starts to fuss, pick him up and put him back to sleep. Repeat until one of you loses patience. The first night, it may not work, but it will start to work.

Wow, I can't believe she made Noah cry it out. Ouch.

I almost forgot to mention swaddling. You'll need big blankets. If you know someone who sews, homemade receiving blankets are the best. Some people like those pre-made swaddlers, but I always just used a plain blanket. You can buy ten for the price of one swaddler.

Answer 6

It will be tough at first but you will have to just stand your ground. Put him into his crib while he is still awake, drowsy is ok but he should still know where he is. Stand there with your hand on his chest and talk to him. Once he calms down, keep your hand there for a few minutes until he is asleep, then move away. Wait a few minutes and if he doesn't wake you can leave the room. If he wakes and starts to cry go back, hand on chest and soothe him again.

If that doesn't work you might have to be a little tougher. Put him down, get him calm and leave the room. If he fusses, let him for a few minutes then go in and calm him down, try not to pick him up but if he is hysterical pick him up until he calms down and then put him back. The first few nights my guy wound up crying himself to sleep and then cried again when put back after his feedings however after a couple nights the level of fussing dropped. It took about a week and he caught on that when he is put in his crib it is time to sleep. Now he only really fusses if he needs his sucky put back in or has a burp he can't get out.

Ya it was hard at first listening to him cry but it was for his own good and for my sanity in the long run so I could sleep in my own room without being disturbed. My guy is a sleep talker, her laughs, grunts, whines etc... and I would wake to every noise. Now with the monitor I have it set to only pick up the louder noises so I wake when he needs to feed and I can sleep through the rest. He sleeps better now too as he doesn't hear me stirring either.

Make sure he is still sort of awake when you put him down. Moving him while asleep will wake him, also going from warm arms to a cold bed will startle him awake. Plus when he wakes up he will remember where he is and not freak. I went through another couple nights of crying when he woke up for his feeds because I had rearranged his room, he'd wake and look around and nothing looked familiar and get scared. Once he got used to it though it was fine.

Answer 7

Can you move his crib into your room and let him fall asleep with you beside him, but in his own bed?

Once he can do that, slowly move the crib further and further away from your bed and towards his room. Eventually he will be sleeping in his own bed, in his own room.

You can let him cry it out as well. But most parents find that tough.

Answer 8

I put my son on my bed first and lay next to him till he sleeps,then I put him in his crib and he is fine. Most babies have a hard time falling asleep on their own,afterall they are still young. Rocking him is fine as he can bond with you.Just put him back in his crib after you rock him.

Don't have to train him to fall asleep on his own yet, he's still young.Be thankful if he stays asleep after you put him in his crib. My friend's daughter always wakes up once they took her off their bed. Training them to sleep through the night is the most important at this stage.By the end of 3 months,most babies are able to sleep through the night with fewer or no night feedings at all. wait till they are 1 and a half or older than train them to sleep on their own. By then you can read them a bedtime story and make them go to sleep after the story is done. I see many people suggusting leaving the baby to cry themselves to sleep but according to experts, making babies do that will make them feel insecure.They need to feel loved and babies only know that through touch n feel so rock your baby to sleep to make them feel secure. When they are older than change the method through telling them bedtime stories.They will be old enough to know they are loved

Answer 9

It takes about 2 wks to establish a routine. Feed him, play with him, bathe him, and put him in his crib. Walk out, do not pat him, rock him, or pick him up. Just let him learn to cry himself to sleep. At first it will be awful (lots of crying) but it will be better everyday.

Answer 10

befor putting him to bed give him a nice worm bath with that bedtime bath then when you get him out use the bedtime lotion because lavender makes them sleepy after doing this put his pjs on him and rock him to sleep while you nurse or bottle feed burp him then when he is sleep put him in his bed never put anything in the crib with him this could cause suffacation ok.......good luck