Why do I get aroused when I see videos of girls making out? And how come I felt more sexually satisfied with my ex-girlfriend (from college) than with this last guy I dated? Does anybody here have a similar experience/dilemma? You think I'm a lesbo?
2007-10-13 04:45:14 · 54 answers · asked by Pinay Backpacker 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yeah, if I may add, I still get attracted to men and like intercourse.
2007-10-13 05:00:04 · update #1
It doesnt mean you are a lesbian.Videos like the ones you mentioned are designed to arouse male and females.But you may need to get some cousnelling to understand what you feel.
God Luck
2007-10-13 04:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by Modbird 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Awhile ago i read an article where researchers took a group of men and women and put them in separate rooms, they were all deemed heterosexual, and shown first standard pornography, of them men more than 80% became aroused, of the women only about 60% responded, then they viewed homosexual movies, and even though the men werent gay, some still became aroused just due to the fact that sex was on the screen, of the women's group the number went up to 70%, and most claimed they'd feel mor comfortable with a woman because they'd never have that chance of feeling "overpowered" as they stated, they felt they'd have more control over the act, while this is a test, it's in no way all conclusive, since the human mind plays a larger role in sex than we give it credit for. You may not have been fully attracted to the last guy you dated, yes your body could respond, but it's only a limited response if the mind is not one with it, same goes for the girl you were with, you were in tune with her, so it seemed better. This does not suggest that you are a Lesbian, but maybe Bisexual. I guaruntee that if you found a guy that stimulate both mind and body, then you'd enjoy him just as much as any woman, and if you found a woman to do the same, then you'd have the best of both worlds ;)
2007-10-13 04:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by AJ T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You alone can choose. To me you sound more confused than lesbian, bisexual, or straight. This is definitely not the forum to find out. If you have not had an experience with a woman and think you would like it, try it. Then go back and try an experience with a man. Which ever is more comfortable is your answer. If you like both just as much than you might be bisexual. Remember the answers you get here from men are generally fantasy related. The answers I saw from women were more insightful. Listen to your heart, no your sexual organs.
2007-10-13 09:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that you should label yourself as a lesbian so quickly. This sounds a lot like myself, and I myself am BI.
That's right. Not a lesbian. Bisexual.
You still are attracted to men and like having sex with them, but at the same time, you are attracted to women and like having sex with women. This is a terrible problem for someone who is bi, because as much as they like someone, a lot of times, there is just something missing...because you miss it from a previous relationship. I know I feel different when I am in a relationship with the different sexes. To me, the love of a man and the love of a woman have the same mind blowing power, but feel like two very different things.
If a relationship with one sex goes bad, it does not always mean that you prefer the other sex. I myself had a terrible sex life with a man that I was going to marry (I really did love him through all the really bad sex), so after I broke it off with him, I was convinced that men weren't for me any more. I dated a few women, but then an amazing man came into my life and satisfied me more than any partner I had ever had previously.
Because your attractions obviously run towards both sexes, do not even think about gender when accessing your relationships, it probably failed because of personal differences, even in bed, just as your ex-girlfriend in college was good in bed, but you obviously aren't with her now. ^_^ Don't hold up past relationships as representatives for each sex, everybody is different. Keep an open mind. The whole world awaits you. You aren't selfish for wanting to know why you feel lost.
I have solved my problem by finding a man (who is bisexual as well), and I have been dating another bi girl at the same time. Both are very understanding, because both have the same issues. We do not get together for threesome or anything of the like, and my partners are very good friends with one another. In particular I love being in a romance with another woman, but I love the straight forward quality that comes with a hetero relationship.
This is probably not your ideal arrangement, you may not feel comfortable loving two people that way at the same time, it can be very complicated. But, I am sure that if you look hard enough, you will find someone who is your perfect compliment. Here comes that hardest part of being bisexual, you will not know where to look for people, because you can't even narrow down the sex of your soulmate, which was a very painful experience for me. But, it does get easier. I am sure that you will find the one who you are looking for. You at least have the courage to ask for help.
2007-10-13 05:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by Russanya 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you only like women sexually but like men more for dating socially. Then you're bi and I'm sure any straight bf/husband you have will let you sleep with other girls. If you just plain out like women way better, you're probably a lesbian and should break up with him now before he gets more attached to you.
2007-10-13 04:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by Josh D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible. I wonder about me sometimes. I get way more into girl on girl porn than I do hetero porn. However I am in a relationship with a man and all is well. I do wonder a lot what it would be like to be with a woman. I think you are just going to have to experiment and see. It may be the only way.
2007-10-13 04:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by Missy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
NOPE....WORST than THAT of A LESBIAN... what you're saying or describing is a double frequency modulation...in some lingo...they call it AC-DC.
Joking aside, you need to fine tune your frequency or you end up if you allow it to let just go that way, mix-up. How can you have a normal life, a clean and freeway communication lines.
Seek professional help while you still have a chance if you wish to go normal. I don't say its abnormality, but maybe a mere confusions or a cause of defensive mechanism your subconsciously not conscientiously taking action to suppressed while its still not in its acute situation, and mere acceptance and self healing mechanismstill strongly inert in you can still be tapped by you to behave more on your Lady person THAN letting your lady self claiming virtues or assets you wish you are ,are only you are after to feel for not likely prevalent in you. Accepting maybe of what who you are and what you have as a normal lady to live and offer into can be the best and simple way for you strongly resolve your unattended seriously intensifying self allowing easily solveable psychological problem. Just be more attentive to what really bothers you and knowing exactly what is right will lead you to what you determined best for your dignifying person.
People in all walks of life passes to various changes in our internal self, even affected us by hormones change, environment, and values. its us person to really fight on the internal revolutions in us to grow and mature wholesome, physical, emotional, spiritual, and psychological wholesome beings. RIGHT DECISIVE TIMELY DECISION AND AFFIRMATION WITH STRONG DETERMINATION, MAKES THE FIRM POSITION WE WANTED IN LIFE. AND ACCEPT IT, WE CAN'T DO IT ALONE, SEEK HELP, SEEK God, more than relying on our own human weak power.
2007-10-13 05:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by johnny N 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may be gay or bi. Either way, I hope you accept yourself as you are.
The last guy you dated isn't a mind reader. If he doesn't turn you on, you have to tell him what does.
Some guys just need a little instruction.
You may not have met the right guy yet either.
2007-10-13 04:50:04 · answer #8 · answered by Yam King 7 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are still attracted to men then you are probably bi--you might just be attracted to girls more so than guys.
2007-10-13 10:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by Shadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over my lifetime( 60 years) i have had many sexual relationships...many 3somes with two girls ( often the first time for one or both of them)...without exception the girls were very excited with the other girl.........i am convinced that bio/chemically/ socially..the MAJORITY of women , if they take the opportunity, enjoy sex with another woman ...they are certainly wired to be bi-at least
IT IS NORMAL
2007-10-13 04:51:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋