What should i do?

Question

I am 14 years old. me and my boyfriend Palmer had sex and i got pregnant. i told Palmer, but i havent told anyone else. what should i do???
I am 3 months! I really love Palmer!

Answer 1

If you love your boyfriend and both of you are happy about the baby, tell your family about your pregnancy. If they disapprove, tell them how much you want to have the baby. But be careful about telling your friends, because they could spread rumours. Same goes to the neighbourhood.

And remember that you still have many years of school ahead of you, and your academic achievements are an essential factor that affects your future career and life. Having a baby and taking care of it when you're 14 will be an enormous pressure for you. There is also, although I hope it won't happen, a risk that your boyfriend may abandon you especially if he is as young as you.

Think carefully about what you want to do, and please make the right choices suited to your situation.

Good luck, and take care . . .

Answer 2

Well, first I'd wait until after the legal limit for late-term abortions is passed - I'm not sure if your parents can force an abortion on you or not - you can do your own leg work looking that up online. (Especially since I don't know what country you're in).

Second, you're going to need neo-natal care. You should get to a doctor as soon as you can.

Third, you're going to need support - eventually you've GOT to tell your parents. You're probably already showing, but I'd delay as long as possible due to the first concern.

Fourth, keep the baby if you can, give it up for adoption if you must (tatoo the inside of its toe with a line - you can put out news broadcasts later to track it down when it's old enough), but for God's sake - don't kill it.

It's going to get rough. Find out what the laws are in your jurisdiction - you might be allowed to get married with parental consent.

Also, Palmer is now legally responsible to help you with bills when the child is born whether he marries you or not. At 14 (assuming he is also 14), that won't amount to much, but later on it will. Find out what you need to get to assure he'll do the right thing. "Free Consultation" under "Lawyers" in the phone book can be very helpful.

Write me if you need anything further.

Answer 3

You better tell somebody else...... at least one more person. You never know- Palmer might try to get rid of you... and no one would know why.
My father-in-law told me a story once... about his younger sis, who went swimming with her bf and her bbf at a pond. (not lake or open ocean) This was in the early 1900s. The bf and the bff came home telling everyone that she was taken by a sea monster (which was considered real by the people of this particular part of my native country- we have 17007 islands) My father-in-law's family believed it right away... never really tried to find her body. I just know the bf killed her and threatened the bff to not say anything... unless the two planned it and did it.... or she was pregnant!!! (which was a big scandal back then.... end of the world in fact) The bf left the town not long after the incident... yet no one suspected him of anything.
So, again... let somebody else you truly trust know... or at least tell bf that you told someone, but you rather keep it a secret whom you told. (because you told the person to keep it a secret... say something like that) Sounds complicated, but being pregnant is not the end of the world. In fact go to a health center... there must be something like that in your area. We live in the 21st century..... there they will give you the scoop about what you need to think about and decide. At 3 months- you have a living human being inside of you. Please do the right thing. ... and what the right thing is will be reavealed to you at such a place where they have to deal with kids becoming pregnant all the time.
Good luck to you and baby.

Answer 4

That is a really tough situation. In the end you have to do what you feel is the right thing in your heart. My cousin had an abortion at sixteen and never forgave herself. My friend put her child up for adoption at 15 and wished she had had an abortion because her child was not in her life. Another girl I knew had her baby at sixteen, finished school, and is now in college, but she had alot of help from her mom. Each situation is soooooo different. I would recomend speaking to a counselor at school or a family member you trust that will not judge you and will not force you to do anything you're not comfortable with...You need to get the pros and cons of the possible results of each possible decision before making your own. Be true to yourself. Good luck.

Answer 5

I really think, you should tell your parent. You have to make decide how to go about and do this. Your parent will tell you what should do for you. It is your fully responsible to handle in between school and take care baby. It going be very hard for you. You can not quit school. You need staying in school. Your parent will do something about your baby. They may not take care for you. There is good chance taking to foster home. I'm not saying it will. Your parent will work something out. Your parent will discuss with you about baby. They'll end-up to tell rest of your family. It's going be pretty tough for you as your young age.

Palmer's parent will find out if you are pregnancy. They will very serious problems. They may want to leave you alone, if this happen. They will talk your parent as far concern your pregnancy. They will do something out. It's going be pretty tough with your parent and Palmer's parent.

Answer 6

What country are you from? Well the best course of action would be to tell mommy and daddy pronto 'coz right now they're really the only ones who can help you. They may get a little upset but eventually they'll understand you and give you the support that you need at this delicate time in your life.

Best of luck!

Answer 7

Why would you want a kid at 14? Your life is officially over, people will never look at you the same, people will see you as the town whore. Sorry but its the truth. AT 14 YOU KNOW ENOUGH ABOUT PROTECTION. CONDOMS AND BIRTH CONTROL PILLS!!!! Your body is not developed for a child right now. Your still going through puberty, god what is wrong with you???? SEE THIS IS EXACTLY WHY THEY SAY KIDS JUST ARENT RESPONSIBLE OR MATURE ENOUGH FOR SEX THIS YOUNG!!

Answer 8

tell you parents and don't have an abortion have the baby and do the right thing. you will be surprised at the people that will help you . how old is palmer. but you are to young to be having sex anyway. you are just a kid. you should have other things on you mind. but your family might be upset to start with but i am sure they will help you out

Answer 9

Well if you wait much longer everyone will know your secret. I suggest talking with your parents/Gaurdian/School Counslor right away! If you wait too long the baby will be harmed by your decision!

This mistake of yours will effect the rest of your life! Not always in a good way either!

Answer 10

U R ONLY 14!!! wat
u really love him at 14!!! how do u know he is not going to walk out on u!
YOUR HAD SEX AT 14!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

good luck.. your 14 and so far you are pregenet.... sure u love him at 14... you are going to get a stroller as your first set of wheels and a baby crib as you first crib
raising a baby can cost OVER 10,000 a year, one night can cost you more then u thought
go to www.thcandiefoundation.org how it helps u in you life mess u p
or http://www.teenpregnancy.org/america/default.asp