HATE has become my life.?

Question

I HATE my parents, I HATE my "friends", I HATE school, I HATE my life...I've been through too much pain and misery with them to not feel Hatred.Now I hate everybody else; I pretty much HATE everybody in the world with extreme prejudice, regardless of sex,religion,race,etc.There's nothing wrong with that, is there?My hatred is justified because I've been wronged by the people whom I should trust the most...I hate ppl and wish that they would suffer as much as I did and still do.I'm pretty sure that lots of other kids can relate to me. The day I stop hating people is the day that everyone stops treating me like dirt. You'll probably respond with something like, "You're just going through a phase" or "Get over yourself, life isn't that bad" or some other crap...no, if people suck that much right now, I'm pretty sure that people will suck much more once I get to the 'real world'...I dont listen to rock, metal, emo music, I like songs like Phantom, CAMP even happy songs.Yet hate is my life

all your answers made me cry. everything you all said is so true. i expected some answers saying i suck, and of cos some offering help, but here majority of you want to help. i've been really really disappointed by things, ppl, god, to the extent i hate them. and yes i need help, but i dont want to see a therapist.... it just screams "mental problem"..

this hatred has been wiht me since i was 12

Answer 1

If you let them make you hateful you become one of them.

Is this what you truly want to be?

Love and blessings Don

Answer 2

I would suggest possibly seeing a therapist. Seriously, it could be that whatever has happened to you has left such an emotional wound that it can not heal by its self. I know how it feels to be wronged by the people you should most be able to trust, so I kow that type of pain. I can not say I know how you feel about this because I don't, I only know how I feel. Every one deals with their emotions in different ways, often times though it is what we seen our parents do. Such as I am, I hold it in so long then eventually blow up. I myself am seeing a therapist because of this. I wouldn't say you are going through a phase or that life isn't that bad. The fact is, life can be that bad and even worse for some people. Its sad and makes me angry, but its true. No one can really say anything to help you move past the hatred, it is something (and I'm sorry to say) that you have to work through yourself. But if you could talk to someone, possibly a counselor or whoever, you may could get throughit easier. It does help to talk, or if you don't want to talk, keep a jounal. You can let out so many frustrations and emotions that way. Just pick up your pen and take it all out on the paper with your words, and since it is your jounal you can say whatever you want, with little or no consequences.

I don't know exactly what your life is like, so I can't suggest much of anything. But I still think you should try to see a counselor because the can help you get to the very root of your hatred, when it started and everything. I am sorry you are having such a hard time, and I pray that it will get better. But that is all I can really do to help.

Answer 3

Wow!!! you've hit rock bottom today I feel. I know from our previous conversations etc that life is pretty tough for you most of the time. What has happened since our last conversation to make your mood plummet so much???

I'm sure you are feeling really low right now and probably think that you "hate" your friends and family. But I am sure that if you think about it you would agree that maybe you just feel severely let down and disappointed by them and its your depressive mood that has exaggerated this feeling.

As a parent I have to say that it would have to be something pretty horrendous that someone has done to make me Hate and I can't think of anything that would make me hate my kids.

With regards to hating my parents I can only say that again they would have to have done something extremely horrendous to me (abused me etc) to even possibly make me hate them and even then I couldn't be certain that hate would be the right feeling

You are definitely not going through a phase, you are, as we have discussed before, suffering from a severe depressive episode, and without the proper treatment you are going to ride a very rough rollercoaster possibly for the rest of your life.

It seems that today you have hit an extreme low and I hope that it is short lived and that by tomorrow you have picked up a little.

If you want to talk you have my contact.

Please get some proper medical help, and look after yourself.
Stay well

Answer 4

I agree with you. This is not a phase. You sound depressed. Depression is a disease. I should know. I have struggled with depression for many years. There is help, but I must admit, it is very difficult to ask for. Life can be so much better. Have you tried counseling? Many anti-depressants can offer life changing help.
You are right. You don't get over these feelings. But remember feelings can be changed or lessened. Life is bad when you are living with the torment of depression. And yes some ignorant people will say that you are just looking for attention. Myself? I guess I was looking for attention. Attention to the fact that I needed help.
I am not a kid anymore so I hope you will at least think about my advice. I am closing in on 30. From the age of at least twelve, I never thought I would make it to be this old. I look back on the darkest times, and actually cry with relief that I decided to stick around for the life I have today. No, I am not rich, or even that successful with a ton of people who adore me. I am happy, and have learned to accept myself and others for who they are and even more importantly who they are not. This is on a good day. Other days, it is hard to do. Please try to get through with this, and don't be afraid reach out for help.

Answer 5

Well as they say there is a fine line between love and hate, and it's very true.

Hate is just love wronged, or love turned into anger. You know you can spend all of your life waiting for someone to make you happy and you will probably die a very angry and miserable person if you do. You have to make yourself happy.

The world sucks. Now get used to that idea and get over it. People are going to let you down left, right, and centre. Get used to THAT idea. Now in the meantime get off your duff, and you do what you need to do to make yourself happy. You are the only one who is ever going to make that happen. Until you do, you won't attract people who are happy and others will just stay away from you and say, girl you've got issues.

You have to be a little selfish in this world to get by. Don't expect things of people that they just can't give.

Time to grow up little girl and realize the world ain't a bowl of cherries. Get out there and work and make some money and then go to some fun places, go to camp, to the fair, if you're old enough travel a bit. Volunteer to help others somewhere. You will find great satisfaction in giving. Or you can just sit there and continuing hating. After all I doubt you're alone in that state of mind.

Answer 6

Yet another example of a teen saying "boo hoo, I'm being ignored..." I sincerely hope you don't start getting as stupid as that 14 y/o kid in PA...

Life is hard... the rich get rich and poor get poor... that's the way Republicans are... so instead of giving up on life even before you can legally smoke/drink/vote or whatever, Give it a chance... who do you know right now? your parents, "friends", and people at school... Out of all of those choices... I only talk to my father today. I haven't talked with anyone from my school in over 10 years... I was the one that everyone thought would come to school with an AK-47 or something... but I never did, I knew there was something else after school... I was right... once I graduated, I saw a lot of new things, new people, saw that life didn't suck as bad as everyone was making it for me....

Hang in there, it'll get better

Answer 7

I feel your pain, and I can understand your hatred. When the people we are supposed to be able to love and trust the most are the very people who hurt us the most deeply, our natural response is anger and hatred.

I've been through a lot in my life as well, and I know how tempting it can be to simply live with the hatred. After all, if you don't love anyone, they can't hurt you, can they?

Yes, you certainly are entitled to be angry, and even to hate. It's okay to be angry with those who've hurt you. But I have a question for you: Is this really the way you want to live the rest of your life? Hating others does keep everyone at a safe distance from you. But it also prevents you from experiencing any joy in life.

Nelson Mandela once said that "Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping that it will kill your enemies." There's a lot of truth to that statement. Resentment, which is closely related to anger and hatred, is poisonous. It eats you away from the inside. It's really effective at keeping away all the people who would hurt you. But it's also really effective at keeping away everyone who would like to help you. It prevents you from finding healing.

So, the answer to your question is, "Yes, you are entitled to your anger and hatred...but is that what you really want your life to be like?" I truly hope that you can find the hope and healing that you seem to be searching for. Peace!

Answer 8

i hate to think that hate is indeed a way of life for you -- because there should be no such thing as ' hate ' .
you are not dirt or crap or going through a phase -- you just need a little bit of tlc --- ifyour wrongs are not making you feel right --- then only you can work it all out .
i went through a phase where eveeryone
and eveerthing was so uncool --- i wished i could curl up and --- get on with life lol !!!
please do not go down a desructive path
you sound like a really nice young woman,
and if you need help --- you really should seek help --- don't be embarressed --- to ask for help .
good luck .

Answer 9

I've been severely wronged by many people who were close to me, too. But I learned that hate will hurt the hater more than the hated. It feels like ****, doesn't it? You have to release the hate, or you'll internalize that emotion and end up hating yourself. I know it sounds stupid, but it's true. Learn from your experiences and release the hate, you'll be able to find people who are not out to get you. The worst thing you can do is paint everyone with the same brush. Don't take out what others did to you on innocent people.

Answer 10

are you happy.....it must take so much energy from you feeling this hatred against all and everybody.......maybe you have your reasons concerning your past but thats it.....its OVER so how about new people you got NOW your choice in finding good people to be around that would be a good start so you wont feel like dirt anymore....but what you are actually saying here is I HATE MYSELF so staet working on this first and when you can love yourself you will be ready to let the good people IN and ban the bad ones,ok.HATE is no life,it will make you wanna kill yourself 1 day so its up to you and not to your excuses and the rest of the world.......or you end up like OSAMA BIN Laden,that guy must be just 1 hateful bastard......

Answer 11

OMG , your question sounds like a ramble I was told I made when I got drunk once when I was 17 ( in au that's only one year younger than the legal drinking age) ...

I was told I went on a rant as what follows
99% of men are Ba$tards and of the 1% that aren't only 1% of them REALLY aren't...


have you ever considered that you get what you give ??? HUH ?????

YOU have been wronged by some people who should not have wronged you .. SO YOU hate EVERYTHING ?? that makes perfect sense ... NOT...

listen THIS is the BEST way to wrong those who have wronged you ... YOU GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE and you embrace it with a passion . .YOU make NEW friends and a new life and you turn around and say to the other people :
$CREW YOU... I AM WORTHY OF LOVE AND FRIENDSHIP and RETURNING IT .. AND I AM HAPPY .. DESPITE YOU .. :D

best way to get even with people who have made you unhappy and that is TO REGAIN happiness...

Oh btw .. I KNOW that it's really only 1% of men who are Ba$tards ,, the others are quite ok :D