am i doing the right thing contacting ladies from the philippines, to be my wife or are they just scamming me?

Question

im hearing mixed messages about westerners marrying philippine ladies are most of them genuine or are most of them scammers.

Answer 1

There are some truths to this when seeking a bride overseas. But it is not just from the Philippines, it happens in all the other countries, (From Asia of not), where many of their women seek husbands from "richer" nations. By the way, it happens in the U.S., too. Just for an example-in Hollywood, CA.

It works both ways, how do they know you're not scamming them? How do they know, you're not going to take advantage of them? I've also heard where men who seek wives from 3rd world countries, who treat them almost slave-like, while they (the men), do whatever they like, and have affairs with others.

Seek those who have the same belief system as you do. Continue the search for your life partner in your own country. You never know, you may find a Filipina who grew up in your country.

Answer 2

What are you looking for in a relationship? Will you two be the same age, or are you 15-20 years older then her???

Tough to say if you are being scammed - the world is full of people looking for a quick buck. I am married to a filippina women (ten years & we are the same age) - I met her here in the USA, after she had lived in this country for 5+ years. She moved here at the same time as most of her family - they are a friendly group. One caution is that they do like to send money home to help out their many other relatives (not always a bad thing).

Another thing, if you are married, and it turns out the you are not compatible - once she is a citizen then she will leave you, but this is true in any relationship. good luck

Answer 3

I am fiipina and it realy hurts when we are stereotype as scammers/users,in the first place why guys like you hunt girls from the Philippines then?maybe because of some good things you heard?I mean i would assume that foreigners are also smart enough to analyze if the person is genuine or not.
It's just unfair for us coz when a question something like this..people will use the word ''Philippine ladies'' and not the specific name of those ladies who scammed them or they heard that did.
[sigh]

Answer 4

Hi Pal, you seem to be confused about the Filipinas or it can be you, yourself who is confused.

I do not know your specific story but I may help in my own little way. It is a fact that here in this world we live in... anywhere... there is good and bad.

Filipinas, in general, are good prospects for a wife. They are thoughtful and most of them are honest. I should know, I am a Filipino. My advice is that in the end, it's still you who could decide the right thing for you after you have known well the specific Filipina whom you want to marry someday.

Good luck, Pal.

Regards

Answer 5

There are no guarantees.....all relationships are built on trust
I wont lie to you there are Filipinas who will rip you off.....but that is true of women from any country.....no matter how you meet them
But in my opinion you stand a better chance of finding a good partner in the Philippines than any other country..... and if you treat them right they are very nurturing and loving..... a bonus they are very passionate....."real" not "plastic"
I recommend you take your time and get to know the lady....be aware that her reputation is often ruined by her association with you.....so she already sacrifices a lot just to be with you.....especially if you are older than her....
Relationships across cultures are very difficult. Take the time to learn her culture.....her values.....
Filipinas are very sensitive.......nonconfrontational....proud....

I speak in generalities....there are exceptions but these traits are usually consistent because of their culture

Pinoys have a unique culture centered on the family....when you relate/marry a Filipina.....you often "marry" the entire family...

I have lived here 5 years....be glad to help if I can

Answer 6

Why is it that guys like you will go on the Internet and subscribe to magazines--ask friends and associates
to give you their input ---before buying a digital camera
or Dvd ---researching like crazy---yet when it comes
to choosing a life partner will go on the Internet ?

The Internet has become a propoganda device---used
by governments as well as individuals to lie,cheat,steal
and it also used by good ---sometimes even "holy"
individuals and organizations to do good for mankind!
You never know what you are getting !

There are organizations existing that do a fairly good job of screening both individuals who are looking for life partners!
Several I know are in Hawaii--

The USA Dept.of Immigration does a good job of screening
in the Philippines and elsewhere---requiring some proof
on both sides that individuals show some proof that they
have met one another by travel---if not show correspondence
and the Agency interviews the parties extensively before
granting priviliges ---even requiing proof of support on
the part of the American partner for the other individual !

I know of many cases--including my own---where we met
through agencies---talked on the phone---corresponded for
a year ---met each other
and the families !---before jumping into marriage--!
You have to put a little effort into it---like all good things in life--

I'm also happy with my DVD !

Answer 7

Plenty of good advice being offered to you. It is up to you to drcide on the advice to take.
No they are not all scammers, some are just as some Westerners are. Don't fall for the first one, you have to take the time to meet and to get to know each other before any committment is made.
LGG you rock

Answer 8

if you think they are scammers, why not marry a woman of the same race that you are??? i guess it's much better as you have the same culture too. whereas, women from other countries, as you said, could be scammers but some are genuine. but this not only refer to the Phil women as i know a lot of Vietnamese people also are doing fake marriages just to enter into that country and have job to earn/save to get a better life in their own country in the future. what do you think?

Answer 9

Think about it...it's a bad idea. I'm not saying that these women are inherently good or bad, but you don't know what you are getting. For sure, a lot of them just want to get to the US because the living conditions and prospects are horrible, but don't you want her to love you for who you are? If you are determined to go this route, save up some $$$$ and move to the Philippines for a year and find a wife and bring her back. I even think that sounds a little nutty, but at least you'd get to know her and her family.

Answer 10

You have to be careful. I am from this THIRD WORLD COUNTRY.. I must say Filipinas are generally good housewives. But I cannot deny the fact that there are some who would sort on this type of 'business' because they are poor. I suggest you get to know the lady first , don't search for a wife on an instant. Goodluck.