I am so depressed Im a hairy girl?

Question

Ok please dont be mean or joke, I am very depressed about this..okay I am 18 years old supposed to be having fun and enjoying my life. But i cant i feel so hairy on my face, my dad makes fun of me my brothers make fun of me my sister too, my mom does but she only does it because i make it seem like it doesnt bother me that much. I AM NATIVE AMERICAN!!
we arent supposed to be hairy, but i am i have had 1 laser hair removal appointment and it has been almost 4 weeks and none of the ahir really shed only some spots, i feel like my whole life revolves around this, I am going to join the army just so i can have 2 free plastic surgerys and get money form my tribe to get all these done i am getting 20,000 from my tribe, and 3,000 for christmas i just dont want to spend all my money on this?! :( I feellike the laser hair removal wont work i am losing faith..i just need to hear that it will be ok if anybody has had laser hair removal please tell me if it worked !! :(

Answer 1

Oh sista girl, I completely feel your pain. I'm 26 and I have hair on my face (in an extreme way) that I wax and I cannot believe I'm going to admit this but, I've been known to shave it it's so bad. I even have thick dark hair on my forearms so I completely identify with you. I have a lot of Native American blood in me so it surprised my mom that I do have this problem.

First thing is first, I think you should take yourself to the doctor and get a complete work up. Have them check your thyroid, have them check you for PCOS. Don't have any surgeries until you do this when later you could find out that you simply had a hormonal imbalance that could have been corrected with drug (or homeopathic) therapy and saved you alllll that money. So get yourself to the doctor and have them check your thyroid, check you for PCOS, hormonal imbalances and the like. If you check out fine, move to the next steps.

Wax! But if you're like me and you have hair on the sides of your face, don't wax it unless you go to a salon where they know exactly what they're doing. Ask them for tips and stuff to help minimize the pain and irritation.

Or you can try electrolysis - it's a little more expensive but way LESS expensive than any more surgeries or laser hair removals which won't always work.

As for your family, honey, you need to step up and tell them that what they're doing DOES hurt your feelings. My brother and my dad used to do the same to me when I was a teenager and I would "bleach" the hair. (Bad move, I don't recommend it) If they don't listen to you, then find something about them that embarrasses them and fight back!

I hope you're not joining the military just for the money for this problem, I hate to say it but that is a very bad decision. With the way the war and the situation is right now it's an extremely bad idea to join the military for reasons OTHER THAN fighting for your country - if the only reason is the money, is it worth risking your life for? You see what I'm saying?

By the way, you would be SURPRISED at how many girls and women shave, wax, pluck, electrolysis, thread, and have laser hair removal on their faces. You'd be absolutely stunned at how many celebrity women would have mustaches and beards if they didn't keep it under control, there's nothing to be depressed about - it's something we all have and it's something we have to figure out how to get rid of.
Good luck, hon.

Answer 2

Well, there are lots of hair removal options out there, some of them cost effective and some of them not. Since it's a small area (just your face) then you could probably do electrolysis. It's supposed to work really well and I don't think it's too expensive; at least, it isn't nearly as expensive as laser hair removal. Then like other people on here mentioned, you can wax. However, that's not permanent. Another permanent solution is laser hair removal, which you've already tried. It is very expensive, but it's supposed to work for everyone... it's just that you usually need several sessions to get all of the hair to go away. The prices vary a lot, but check back with the person who did your laser hair removal the first time and see what they recommend. (Coming back, how many more appointments, what kind of results can you expect, how much will each appointment cost, how much will you expect to pay over time, etc.)

Answer 3

A Hairy Girl

Answer 4

I am native myself and a male and I don't have much hair on my body like natives. Though I am a white boi, so I get **** for that. The thing with lasor is it works, but it takes a few treatments to get it all and once it is over you should never have hair there again in your life. There is waxing kits or go to you local beauty shop and get it waxed. Also another thing is talk to your doctor about this, there could be a hormone inbalance and he could prescribe you something to get them balanced out for tell you what you can do. Basically you getting to much testosterone being released and that is what is causing the hair growth. I would try the doctor first and try the waxing next, before lasor. Also you body is still going through puberty so everything is happing to your body right now and won't really stop until your around 25. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

try waxing your stomach (veet or nads wax strips are great) you can also shave, but it'll grow back faster try shaving your toes/fingers don't worry about the armpits, though to get a really smooth shave you have to make sure you have some body wash/soap/lubricant on your skin (not just water) and shave once in the direction of the hair growth, then give it a second go-over the opposite direction of hair growth. try plucking facial/nipple/chest hairs assuming they're more like stray hairs than patches (though I think if you have darker face fuzz you should just leave it). A lot of women have "excess" body hair, so you're not alone by any means. The older you get, the less it will bother you. Also when it comes to waxing, the longer you do it the more used to it your skin will become. you might get ingrown hairs at first, but there's a good chance you'll stop getting them after a while, or at least, not as many. Also it will sting more the first few times than it will after a while of doing it. also, it's totally not true at all that shaving will make hair grow in darker/thicker. that's bogus.

Answer 6

First and foremost: don't despair, you are not alone, you have good company. My one daughter is having a lot of facial hair so much so she has to shave occasionally and has good growth of hair on her legs.

As suggested by Wabby, you may have PCOS, which also has some more symptoms like irregular periods (both ways, not stopping for long or not having for long), obesity, low haemoglobin, anaemia etc. If you have these symptoms too then you have most certainly PCOS and you must consult a gynaecologist.

My daughter went through laser treatment for 9 sessions but there has been no improvement at all. I don't know if you will have effect.

The only solution at the moment seems to be for seeing a gynaenic to rule out PCOS.

Answer 7

Hey! Don't worry it's natural. We ALL have hair on our bodies!! We're not ment to be hair free because when humans were around in the stone age we had to keep warm some how! We didn't have heaters etc. It's normal!

Firstly, are either of your parents hairy? My Dad is Hungarian so he's quite hairy (ugh yuk!) so I've got a bit more hair than normal (like darker on my arms). But if neither of your parents are hairy then I STRONGLY recommend you visit a doctor and get yourself checked out for PCOS. It's quite common in woman. Have a look at this link.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polycystic_ovary_syndrome

I know it's getting you depressed but remember you're beautiful no matter what!

Go get checked out with the doctor before you get anymore expensive lazer hair removal, you may save yourself a lot of money!

Good luck.

Answer 8

Before, you proceed with any medical treatment; it is essential to obtain a competent diagnosis. You may have PCOS, as a number of respondents have pointed out. This condition is also known as Functional Hyperandrogenism. Other symptoms of PCOS are: acne, thinning hair, loss of hair, irregular periods, and a propensity to gain weight above the waist, rather than below the waist.

Since, this is a syndrome, and not an express condition, you may not have all of the symptoms. It is a very common disorder, affecting about six to ten percent of the female population of child bearing age. However, it very often goes undiagnosed. It is essential you see a competent endocrinologist, and treat the underlying condition, if any, before proceeding with surgical options.

I would not see a gynecologist, or a general practitioner. They are not equipped to diagnose PCOS. They tend to focus on the patient’s irregular periods, and put them on an oral contraceptive. This may, at least initially, result in regular periods. Ultimately, however, it may aggravate the condition.

Your condition, may be diagnosed as Idiopathic Hirsutism, i.e., no apparent underlying cause. Then the surgical options, may be the only option. Regardless, of diagnosis, it is essential you make an informed decision.

Making an informed decision, does not only apply to medical decisions. It applies to all life decisions, e.g., choosing to go into the military. Remember, the military recruiter, you may be dealing with, is a commissioned salesman. He has a vested interest in recruiting you. He gets credit for signing you up. He is no different than a car salesman or a realtor, i.e., they all have a vested interest in your decision.

Lastly, I thought you may appreciate, an effective remedy for PCOS or Functional Hyperandrogenism is Saw Palmetto Extract, a Native American remedy. Please see the link below, for more information regarding Saw Palmetto Extract.

P.S.

There are at least two disorders, that may underlie the symptoms of PCOS, i.e., Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia and Cushings Syndrome. PCOS symptoms may also be induced by valproic acid, brand name Valproate, a medication used to mitigate epileptic seizures.

Answer 9

Dang girl.....you know hair isnt the end of the world. Having hair doesent make you ugly in fact other than in recent times all women had hair legs and all and it was normal. Dont join military service just for money because i promise you once you join and they ship you off to iraq you wont have time to worry about your hair.

But seriously your family picks on you cause they are your family its what they do i pick on my aunt cause she has some facial hair. Its not a big deal...get some wax and get it ripped off at like a beauty parlor or have a friend help you. It could be worse....and im sure your beautiful right now and are so worried your missing it.

Answer 10

I'm sorry that your family is insensitive. My family used to refer to me as "the fat f*ck" and i still struggle with body image issues years later, and I'm not fat at all anymore.

Vigilance is your best friend. Carry a razor on you at all times, and whenever you can sneak a look at yourself, give your upper lip, or where ever you are uncomfortable having hair, a swipe.

You got the sh*t end of the genetic stick in this regard, but there are far worse crosses to bear than cosmetics.

Never forget that personality is the great equalizer. Work on becoming a proud independent considerate hard working loving woman and you'll find yourself happy sooner rather than later.
Good luck sweety