Hi everyone thanks for helping! I really dont know what to do anymore, its my bf and i one year anniversary, and he still didnt show up to our date he has been doing this a little to much now, and i talk to him about it he keeps saying he will change and doesnt. He says he is very sorry and he buys me everything i want and he tells me all stuff thats true even his family and his friends know me toghter with him forever and ever and mine does too.! But how do i get him to stop and call me more and show up to our dates more? i cant cant this anymore i love him more then life itself and he does too. it hurts a lot when he does this, i know he is busy and he gets sleepy but he keeps not calling me i tryed everything! please please any1 help me nice answers only!!!!
2007-10-12 18:20:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he knows it was today and all those other days that was important he just doesnt call me to say dont show up on the date or i will be late !
he always makes it up to me but still it hurts so much !
2007-10-12 18:26:49 · update #1
dont say are you sure hes lieing to you and he really wants to be with you, because i know he does, just how do i make him call me more !?!?
2007-10-12 18:43:42 · update #2
what can i say to him ?
2007-10-12 18:55:38 · update #3
Have a serious discussion with him, sit down with him and tell you how this makes you feel and everything..and why you want it to change. If he completely blows you off and doesn't care, maybe it's time to think where the relationship is going and whether or not it is worth it. If he agrees, make sure he changes and keep reminding him of your anniversary (not like every sec, but sparingly). I hope this helps!!
x
2007-10-13 16:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ уσυ вєℓσηg ωιтн мє ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
plain truth:
You just cant live his life for him
either you love him how he is and enjoy what you do have
or you get rid of him
or you go through your days suffering in misery about reality
think about it
if you have your own image of what he should be
and are in love with a 'boyfriend' that is your image rather than the flesh and blood person and the personality entity that lives in that body
then it is the same thing as creating a demon and worshiping that rather than actually loving the person that you are calling your boyfriend
many many men and women do what I just described
it will imprison you in a hell of your own making
good relationships create energy that makes the person loved even more of what they are
not force one to be different than who they are on their own
after one year you know well who you are with if he is making you happy, I would advise you to stop making yourself unhappy by trying to change him by force
relationships require allowing the other to grow through what they become from within and being there emotionally even if not always as the partner would desire
you need to contemplate and make choices
2007-10-13 16:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by genntri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Here's what you do... You buy him a Calender. And take ten minutes to fill in all the important dates. Birthdays, 13th anniversary, etc. This way if he says he forgot you can say "Did you look at your Calender lately?"
P.S. My Brothers Girlfriend does this for him... It works :)
2007-10-12 18:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by bookittykiss 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dump his *** for a week and go about your business as if he was never in your life. If he really cares he will walk the straight and narrow path to get you back. If not.....there are others out there that will take his place.
2007-10-13 16:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by Chris H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If getting him a calendar doesn't work, you need to consider that he is just doing some kind of passive-aggressive behavior.
Nice as all get-out, but acting out on his desires to be elsewhere.
He probably does not want to be put on a leash, and probably does not want his days planned any more than they already are.
Don't expect it to change.
2007-10-12 19:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok im gonna be straight with you, plain and simple. Drop Him! i guy that cant even remember your 1 year anniversary obviously doesnt and isnt gonna care about ur dates, leave the loser.
2007-10-13 16:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Manrae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're going to have to give him a dose of his own medicine!
i know dat its hard but u have 2 so he can feel the same way as u. then he'll ask u y you're acting dat way and explain everything to him and dont hold back
2007-10-13 16:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't like the way you're being treated by him then dump him. There's other fish in the sea. If you don't like how you're being treated now, when you're dating, I can't imagine how he'd be as a husband. Don't you deserve better?
2007-10-13 17:00:03 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your needy and he may not like needy people.
2007-10-13 16:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋