I'm 54 yr male, married 18 yrs. The last 7 with no sex or intimacy at all. There is no love in this marriage, just casual living conditions. She's pretty, sweet and caring.
She's a teacher, I'm retired due to my multiple personality disorder, MPD. I've 19 personalities, children, females, teens & adults. My psychiatrist says I'll never intergrate,(to become just one personality) due to the severity of the emotional and physical abuse I endured as a child. I know she likes me. She would leave me but feels responsible for me, like a parent. She thinks I would not be able to live alone or find someone that could become close to me and live with me. I honestly thinks she stays with me because she feels sorry for me. She could find another man easily. My abusers where all females. I was abused for 7 yrs ,birth to age 7. I worked 35 years until my illness destroyed my ability to work. I loose hours and hours of time each day. Help please? I am like Cybil, just a male.
2007-10-12 18:15:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think you just answered your own question. Why she's staying with you is (according to you) because she feels responsible for you. No one can really say unless they really knew the relationship between you and your wife. You say you need help, but with what? Do you feel trapped in your marriage because of the reason you think your wife's staying with you for? Do you think this relationship is harmful? I'm sorry but I don't understand what you need help with.
Hope it works out. :)
2007-10-12 18:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by lalu212 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God Bless her. Sorry, but don't ever let her go 'cuz she is a blessing to you. I wish I had MPD to help me with my life. An excuse. I don't so have had to forge ahead in my own way. I was abused from birth to 14. No Cybil here. I am what I am and I am pretty formidable for those who know and try to make an issue of it. I have survived the worst of the worst and I am not a poster child for it. Sounds like you are. Sorry for you. Everyone is always to blame. Life just is. For some of us, it just plain sucks. That is your strongest identity.
2007-10-12 19:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your wife, and ask her if this is true. If it is, work out a agreement that suites both of your needs and makes you both happy. I'm sure she loves you! If not, .. You'll be loved again! Have some confidence! :) Good luck.
2007-10-12 18:24:21 · answer #3 · answered by Mary Jane's Last Dance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the question you should be asking is...Why are you staying with her if you know she is with you only due to sympathy?
2007-10-12 18:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she feels- "Better the Husband she KNOWS, than the Lover she doesn't..." -And THAT "works" for her...
2007-10-12 18:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋