How do you REWARD an 11 yrs old who gets a good report card?

Question

my daughter has had some difficulties in school. she started middle school this year and i am working very faithfully with her each night. today, she got A's and B's on her report card. I am so proud of her. How do I "appropriately" reward her for her good work?

Answer 1

I give my children money to spend or save as they choose.I give $10.00 for A's,$5.00 for B's,Nothing for C's and below.If they get straight A's,I give them an extra $25.00 on top of what they have earned.Money motivates my children and works well for my family.You could consider taking her out to do her favorite activity and dinner at her favorite place.

Answer 2

Last year I served as the president of the PTA at my oldest son's school and learned that local businesses will honor a good report card with something free or some substantial discount. If you make a copy of the report card before signing and returning it then you can cash in and brag on your daughter's accomplishments quite easily. Your PTA president or school principle will likely know what businesses do this. Actually, just call and ask the secretary since it is the secretary that really runs the school anyway. The businesses here that do such a thing include McDonald's, Chic-Fil-A, Skateland, Pizza Hut, and several others. Just talk to the managers of the places you go already and see what they offer. You may be surprised.

Kudos to the hard working girl. I would offer free chess lessons myself if that were feasible.

edit: look closely at Coach T's answer. There is much truth there.

Answer 3

As much as many of the younger answerers here think that money is a valid motivator - achievement is the best motivator possible. Recognition of her achievement will mean much more than anything you buy her.

Hearing mom say "I am SO proud of you" sincerely meant is worth more money than you have to offer.

Consider too that if you make her achievement a financial consideration, what are you going to do when she does even better next semester? How about when she's in college?

Tell her how proud you are, take her out to dinner "to celebrate" and then keep doing what has been working so far. Treat this as though excellence is the expectation, not some anomaly that requires a "big deal" of it.

Material (money) motivation is a short term driver of behavior. Achievement and recognition are stronger motivators.

Some people will disagree though and think you need to give her $x for every A. That's pretty 'old school' and it didn't work in the old days - it doesn't work now.

Answer 4

Tell her how much you appreciate her hard work and effort.
Take her out to dinner just you and her at her favorite place. And if the good grades continue then start showing her that your are giving her more trust and give her a few more privaleges and maybe get her something she has wanted for a while but don't ALWAYS reward her becasue you don't want her to always expect it. If her grades begin to slip again explain to her the importance of academics and tell her why you were rewarding her good grades. Maybe if she takes advantage of it you should like take away a new privilage.


Good Luck<3

Answer 5

I am sorry, but I don't agree with giving your kid money as a reward. You can't BUY them into good grades. I think you should tell her how proud you are of her and go buy a frame for the report card and put it up where everyone can see it. Let her hear you praising her to family and friends (BRAG on her) pretend you don't "know she's listening" Invite a special friend to stay over and tell her it is special time she has earned. She needs to feel important and learn to rely on her self esteem and self respect to be her reward. Teach her how important it is to be proud of herself. Clothes, disneyland, the mall, are all ok, but they are gone and the "new feeling" is gone. Give her self-respect and it will last a lifetime.

Answer 6

I think you should tell her you are very pleased and proud and tell other people, like neighbours and family. And then give her a day that is *her* reward day. Where she spends it doing what she wants. Tell her how much money there is for it so she knows. And make it something you do together. But if she doesn't get such good ones next time don't punish her will you?

Answer 7

my mom started this in middle school if i got A's i got $10 but nothing for a's until the end of the year then the last report card A's are 10 and b's are 5

Answer 8

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Answer 9

First of all, be sure to tell her, "I'm so proud of you, honey!" I'm sure she'll be just as proud as you are.
Secondly, reward her by purchasing one thing she's always dreamed of (or wanted).
Thirdly, encourage her to try her best at all times and never give up~ She's just as talented as anybody else!

Answer 10

I've been getting all A's since I was 11(when I started getting letter grades), and my parents don't reward me, besides saying good job and things like that. It's what's expected. It's up to your eleven year old to decide wether she wants the good grades.