when my parents brought my brother and me to this country 15 years ago we came here with nothing absolutely nothing. this one family helped us out they found a home for us and took us to a lot of places, my mom knew here in our home country and they have lived here for over 30 years. anyways today my dad is a doctor we haven't really kept in touch with them and havent' talked to them in like 5 years long story. today the son of that family comes over my dad's office from a car accident he got into with his wife his mother called my dad if he can come and my dad ssaid sure without even an appointment. he came and today that family is very wealthy they have a few jewelry stores. so my dad does a few xrays and so other stuff on the girl and him and for 15 minutes of work he offers my dad $300 and my dad doesn't take it. he says because they helped us out so much it's the least he could do. i would have taken it why didn't he take it? $300 in 15 minutes? that's a lot.
2007-10-12 16:48:29 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you calling him poor?!?!?!?!
2007-10-12 16:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
$300 for 15 minutes work is a lot.
I believe your father feels help offered by these people was priceless. Imagine how difficult it would be to bring a family to a country which is strange. Very daunting.
Also there is a question of dignity. After all, they only offered money and your dad, in declining it made a fine gesture of appreciation for their assistance.
You think now you would have taken it. In time, when you have plenty of your own money, I think you may see you too would prefer to show deference and be grateful to be able to return a small service to benefactors.
It's only money. I'm sure your dad feels very good about declining. That is a feeling money can't buy.
2007-10-12 17:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by chooesy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOur dad is an honest man, which is a characteristic trait that most individuals lack now a days. If your dad chose not to take the money, he must have his reasons.
Remember.. these things sometimes brings consequences. How do you know that there is no catch added to the money? He's only being cautious, that's all. I wouldn't have offered any money to your dad. Instead, I would invite him for dinner. I could've at least kept in touch, but to come in so suddenly with $300, is simply an insult to me.
2007-10-12 16:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by Poe L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because your dad is an eternally righteous and honorable person who shows his gratitude for past favors that were given to him and his family during a time of need. Since you were inclined to take the money, you could learn much from such selfless behavior and could use a lesson in integrity which, hopefully, will be bestowed on you. Three hundred dollars is nothing compared to how truly "rich" your Father really is and fifteen minutes of work will be remembered for a lifetime.
2007-10-12 17:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't take it because your father has integrity, something more people need. He is appreciative of what this family did for him when he was new to this country. He knew no one and nothing of this country. This family with a kind and open heart and expecting nothing in return showed him what kind of people really live here in spite what other countries think and feel. I bet if they offered him 10,000 he wouldn't have taken it. I think your father feels he could have done more for them than just 15 minutes of work.
Be more like your Father, as a matter of fact everyone who reads this should be more like him. He is an asset to this country.
2007-10-12 17:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by fisheyesrgood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad didn't take it because that was the right thing t do. When someone opens there doors to you when you have nothing, they give you hope, help and support.... the least you can do is return the favor in any way possible and in your dads case, he had a chance to help them. It does not matter how rich they are. Its the value of friendship.
2007-10-12 16:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by lolabunny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, your dad should be doing so, he's a good man, anyway it would not seem good to him to take those $300 per 15 minutes, and it would not seem good for the other guy to not offer anything. I think you understand what I mean.
2007-10-12 17:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by thepalestinian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the phrase "what goes around comes around" comes into play. What that family did for your dad and your family 15 years ago was worth thousands of dollars. It was a nice gesture for your dad not to charge for his services. He still came out ahead in his eyes... also, he recieved a huge kindness in the past and wanted to begin returning the favor.
2007-10-12 16:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by dasielady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your father is a good person who appreciates the kindness of others and because he is grateful for what the other family had done for him he probably felt the least he could do was return the favor. in normal situations anybody probably would have taken the money but there are very few people who would do what your dad did, you should be proud.
2007-10-12 16:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by charmaine24 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your dad was showing gratitude for the people's kindness when he was in need. He was returning the favor. If he was to have excepted the money he would have ended a circle of kindness. Now the people will continue to be kind to someone else and so will your dad. And hopefully you will too, maybe even see something in life are more precious than money.
2007-10-12 16:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a custum to do that. It is showing your respect for the other person. My dad does it all the time with other people, but not business wise. I guess this was a close friend of his and $300 really doesn't matter to your father.
2007-10-12 16:53:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋