i just had sex for the first time and it really hurt. is it suppot to hurt that much? and i didint enjoy it at all. and my boyfriend said he didint feel anything. and we did use protection. did we do something wrong?
but i sure did feel it..
thank you sooo much
2007-10-12 16:25:56 · 10 answers · asked by tefy18 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
The first time sucks for alot of people, especially girls. The pain factor (despite some people not having it) is quite prevalent during the first time as firstly you're not used to that kind of penetration and because most virgins still have intact hymens. Hymen is a bit of skin around you're vagina, it usually tears during a girl's first sexual experience (hence there may be some blood and pain) and can also tear from things like horse riding etc as their is alot of force in that area. For some people it takes a little while to find a comfort zone when it comes to sex, so don't worry if the first couple of times aren't the greatest experiences in your life. The best bit of advice anyone can give you is definetly spend some time on the foreplay as this will get both of you in the mood and comfortable (if you're not comfy you're muscles won't be relaxed so there will be resistance) and helps stimulate you're body so it can produce it's own natural lubricant. And until you can get the foreplay down to the way you like it, water-based lubricants are a godsend. And just practice, it'll all work itself out and both of you will get heaps better at making each other feel good.
Hope this helped.
2007-10-12 16:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not suppose to. You probably weren't well lubricated and by the sound of it I don't think that your boyfriend is very experienced with the matter. While it is great that you used protection, I don't think that the protection was the problem. The problem was that you didn't take long enough to get well lubricated and your bf didn't feel anything because he isn't experienced and it's hard for a guy to really get into it when the girl is in pain or is inexperienced as well. Don't worry though the pain will go away and as you do it more you will find it more enjoyable because you guys will learn as you go.
2007-10-12 16:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by chillycat69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first time is rarely the magical, wonderful experience they make it out to be on TV or in the movies. Your body is not used to having a penis inside, so it is going to take a few times for it to adapt to the new experience. You were probably nervous, which didn't help because your muscles were probably clenched and you probably weren't lubricated enough. Next time make sure you have lots of foreplay ahead of time. Get some lube just in case you don't get lubricated enough naturally.
2007-10-13 00:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by aqx99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 03:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many possible reasons for the discomfort. Lubrication is very important. And if your bf is "big" that may cause a lot of discomfort until you get used to each other. If he "came" he felt something. I hope you are old enough and love each other. Communication is very important.
2007-10-12 16:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does hurts alot dont worry u didnt do anything wrong. You should start feeling complete pleasure by the third time.
2007-10-12 16:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts alot the first time, the girl really does not enjoy it much.
2007-10-12 16:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by jamier_62386 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worry girl give it a couple of more times and you'll be begging for it. don't be scared. he is hurting just like you. try ky sexual lubricant next time. it will go in smoother. same thing with anal sex. first couple of time its the pits, but then..hubba hubba. enjoy girl
2007-10-12 16:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by The One 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
THE ONE......your an idiot! It probably hurt because mentally, emotionally YOU werent ready to have sex and you were all tense and tight not relaxed....thats why it hurt. Wait till the right person comes along and HE will be more gentle and understanding and would never do anything that would hurt you....sex should NOT hurt!
2007-10-12 16:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by grassneedscutting 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It's normal to feel discomfort on your first time.
2007-10-12 16:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋