I want to stop feeling bad and despressed :(?

Question

Im Nicole im 17 and have alot of problems.Ive tried to commit suicide 3 times.....ive suffered from bulimia and anorexia..I really dont feel good about how i look..i dont think anyone understands me..i hate my family..i used to see a psychologist daily ive stopped going but my parents dont know.I am really sick of living i just want to die there is nothing in life that i really care about...I want to feel good about myself i want to stop thinking about terrible things..What can i do to stop thinking this and feeling this way? besides going to therapy

Answer 1

You may not want to hear this, but it is the truth. You may need to seek help with a therapist. I was also in your shoes before, and I never believed that the terapy helped me. After a while with my therapist, and daily anti-depressants (Lexapro), I realised that things could be seen from a whole different perspective. If you really don't want to speak with a therapist, try speaking to your doctor. Suggest anti-depressants, and try being completely honest about NOT seeing your therapist. It is very important to prove yourself to the world - prove the world wrong. Instead of letting people belive that you will fail, be the best that you can possibly be. I don't know about you, but I love making people jealous. Show them that you are beautiful, smart, and fun. Try not to think of the horrible things happening, because after a while, especially when you're out on your own, life changes completely. At least experience life, before you take your own away. It's beautiful when you find your place - and you will.

Answer 2

You have to believe in yourself. Yes, you had some really bad moments, but it can all get better, it's true.

You need to be positive, try to find happiness in the little things. You're happy to be alive. We all have problems, sometimes we think that the best and easiest thing would be to just die, but you're better that that, I'm sure.

I understand you, you're gonna have to try really hard to overcome this. Don't give up because you cannot get better over night. Be a better person, try to do some good in the world, it will make you feel worthy and once you achieve something it will boost up your confidence. Don't worry about your physical look, it's the last thing that needs to be fixed. It's more important to be a strong person in the inside. Learn to love your body, love yourself. Nobody is perfect, some are heavy, some look like models, but some people are also sad, not confident and that can consume your soul.

I read one very motivating quote these days. It says that everything turns out OK in the end, and if it's not OK, then it's not the end. Don't give up, because you're young, and the whole future is in front of you. You can choose between living your life in misery or you can fight and achieve something. Appreciate everything you have. Don't hate your parents, some children would do anything to have them, and you rejected yours. I'm sure they love you very much and that their heart breaks when they see you so depressed.

You can change, and when you do (which is definitely going to happen, just be persistent) you'll be happy, your parents will be happy. Don't think about suicide anymore. Think about all the things you'll miss tomorrow if you die today. Life is full of beautiful things for you, you just have to find them. Convince yourself that you are a wonderful person, a good person, a beautiful young girl. When you do, everyone will start seeing you that way. Go back to your therapist, too. Listen to some motivating music, enjoy the sun, enjoy the fact that you are alive. You tried to commit suicide 3 times, I don't know what stopped you from that, but you stayed here. You're alive and you should appreciate that.

Answer 3

Hello Nicole: Snap out of it, Get over it...
This is ONE lifetime, and this one didn't give you the looks, or your looks are gone due to fat, etc., you are not alone in the world, which is as bad as it gets, being too alone I mean to say is bad to be alone with this big problem. Big problems come from big ideas gone bad. I think in order to look good there have to be some reference people who don't look good, how else would we know the difference? What's so hard about not having it all? So you don't like yourself? Well, you just don't know yourself. There are most certainly things you have that good looking people can never get. It's ALWAYS a trade off. It's true there is no free lunch. That's the way it really is. My daughter doesn't look good. I was a beauty queen. You can see me on www.myspace.com/ouivalerie 35 years ago. The grass is not greener on the other side. You can bank on that. Looks don't last anyway. Get used to it get over it. Your life it about diet and nutrition, at least a sizable portion of it. The entire country needs to learn to eat better and be less polluted. That usually sounds boring to a teenager who wants to be a movie star. They are having terribly rough times in Hollywood, I live close, it's all illusion in the movies and magazines to make money. Consider this, your parents or one of them may be in dire straights and don't want to go on either. It could be because they have peaked out. Sometimes teenagers want to move on and grow up so soon, their own parents haven't had enough time with them yet. Your parent's need the help too. It's dominating to think your own child needs to see a psyche unless...they have to go also. And you agree to put up with each other until the family doesn't need to be a unit anymore. I'm sure your problem isn't all your own. I can tell just by the way you are overwhelmed and you think it's all your fault. Well that's so seldom the case.

Answer 4

Do you have any support system at all? Friends, things you enjoy doing? Have you used social sites and groups to attempt to find people who might feel like you do? It's hard when you feel alone and misunderstood but to be honest, I bet there are a lot of people who feel similarly. Maybe you can bond with some of those people. I'd also suggest going back to the psychologist. If that was helping before, why did you stop going? One more thing. Nobody can be sad forever, and nobody can be happy forever. Life cycles. Think ahead... if you choose not to be here, think about what you will miss. Good luck.

Answer 5

Hi Nicole,
I honestly feel very bad for you and the thousands of others that are caught in the state of depression that you are in right now. It`s true that most people don`t understand, but it`s not because they don`t want to, or don`t care how you feel, it`s just that they can`t understand what they can`t see. If you had a broken arm, or a broken leg, or were bleeding from an open wound, they would be there to help you in an instant, because they would have a visual and could "see" what the problem is, but with depression, it`s hard to really see how much a person is hurting, unless you`ve been down that road yourself.
In your note you mentioned that you have tried to commit suicide three times already. That is not the answer for you Nicole, not at your age, or at any age, for that matter, and should not be considered as an option right now. Depression
is rough at any age, but it`s worse when you`re young, maybe because of the peer pressure that is inevitabally put upon you.
However, that pressure will weaken with time, but you have to hang tough and stick around to see that for yourself. I don`t think there is much comfort in the cold, cold ground, my dear, so don`t allow those thoughts to come into your head.

You mentioned that you`ve stopped seeing your psychologist.
That`s OK if you don`t feel comfortable with whom you`re seeing, but please try to find one that you do feel OK with. If you feel like you can`t talk to your parents, then take your problem to a member of the social services in your area, or even to your minister, or preist. You need someone to lean on right now, so don`t try to go it alone. The relief that you are looking for is out there, and it`s in the form of a tiny pill called an anti-depressant. The battle is finding the one that`s right for you. There are many that you will try, and many that will fail, but there is one thing that you can be absolutely sure of - - there is one that has "you`re" name on it. In the meantime, try to be strong and keep up the fight. Don`t forget that "anyone can die with a problem, but it takes a real winner to live with one."
Take care of yourself, Nichole, and please don`t think badly of your parents, or your friends. I`m sure they feel your pain, but I`m equally as sure that you just don`t have the capacity to see that right now. From your note, you seem to be a bright young girl, so use that wisdom to try and understand those that you think don`t understand you. This is not a life and death situation, Nichole, so PLEASE ....... don`t take the coward`s way out. Time will find a way, and you`ve got lots to spare.

Answer 6

God loves you. He's real, he's out there, and he's helped me more then you could ever know. Seek him out and find what he wants for your life. Repent of your sins and follow him. Your life won't automatically be perfect if you become a Christian, but you'll find hardships easier to bear if God is by your side, helping you when you stumble and picking you up when you fall. The best advice I could give you is to find a Bible and start reading. The book of John is a good place to start. Remember that no matter what happens, no matter how bad mess up or how terrible the things around you seem, God loves you enough to have his only son die a horrible death on a cross just so that you could have life. That kind of love will never leave you. Never.

Answer 7

I have been where you are. I REALLY have. It feels as if you DO NOT BELONG IN THIS WORLD AND WHY AM I HERE?
I know. Well, you ARE here for a reason. The first thing I must tell you is to "stop the killing"....you cannot /will not/should not KILL YOURSELF. God put you here to help someone . It is YOUR responsibility to find out the "who, what ,when,where, HOW".
YOU R NOT an Accident. You have Many gifts, and if you let your mind just "relax", without drugs....or anything, it will come to you.
I suggest that you look up the prayer line for TBN. It is 24/7 and it is FREE. GOD DOES NOT CHARGE FOR HIS SERVICE.
I am NOT a holy rolling religious fanatic freak. I am a cool, funny,hot girl who loves GOD for delivering me out of my misery.
Sometimes, things happen in our lives that we have no control over- and God sends special people to help those....to help themselves. EVERYTHING you have gone through was for a higher PURPOSE.

Answer 8

ok well iM young too, IM 16, but I think I can help u. u feel bad cuz u feel lonely, ur bored and u keep on thinking that ur depressed. what u have to do is get busy like get a job (get a busy job like work at mcdonalds or sumthn where its busy and u dont have time to think about ur problems) , exercise (exercise is great! specially when ur depressed cuz if ur mad juz go run and sprint until ur tired and until u cant nemore), get someone to talk to (ur a girl so get someone to gossip with and laugh with!), be nice and count the good deeds that you do everyday even simple ones cuz with that ull feel awesome after knowing that you made heaps of ppl happy and uv done a lot of good deeds and lastly be close to GOD (this is the most imprtant thing, Ive noticed that my friends that always feel depressd are the ones that dont believe in GOD. so yea always pray to GOD and believe and its very nice when you talk to him and pray at least every night before you go to bed. Just talk to Him about everything l ikeall that happend to u that day, how you feel and what you want. "Just ask and He will give it to u"). So just do everything I told you and ull be back on ur feet and smiling. and btw u can add mE to ur contact list so I can be ur friend and u can talk to mE about nethn ok? I really wanna helP!

Answer 9

You dont need medication or therapist just find the thing you love the most, drawing reading, music, singing anything that will give you peace while your doing it.

Go to a nice quiet area, I like to go hiking and camping. It allows me to go and relaxe and not worry about how i look or need to act in front of other people. No stressful relationships. Just you and a feeling of lightness where you dont have to bear all those stresses.

Answer 10

most of these people are right....but you need to find what will work for you...
i've been in a bad place like this before...i was told not to make a permanent decision in a temporary situation...things can always get better
what helped me alot was that i had a friend going through the same thing at the same time...i worried about leaving her behind the most and caring for her- thats what got me through it and now we're both sooo much better b/c we had each other