I am curious, how do men act or carry themselves while having a secret bisexual lifestyle while married? What our some signs, anyone know?
2007-10-12 15:35:52 · 16 answers · asked by curiousme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i cant talk to any friends or family about this because if he isnt doing this activity then it would be horrible to be talking to close people about it. he just has changed, his sex drive, he enjoys anal play, he is very sensitive about me asking questions about spots in underwear, the way his anal opening seems large, etc. i have confronted him and asked him before, and to my suprise he wasn't furious he just had possible reasons why his underwear has marks and why possibly his anal opening is stretched. i feel horrible even thinking about this, but what other reasons are there for having real long streak marks in underwear and having a stretched opening, not to be gross, but he doesn't even have loud farts anymore, they are just soft. AM I CRAZY? i feel i am to blame because we use to get into fantansies earlier in this year and they were pretty kinky. i am ashamed. i dont know what to do....i love him......i hope he is not doing this....it will destroy us!!!!
2007-10-13 02:02:47 · update #1
Probably the same evidence as cheating with a woman.
Cheating is cheating. Does it really matter if its with a man or a woman? All of the same signs will be there, and if he's cheating with anyone of either sex, dump the pig. If your suspicion is because you found gay porn on his computer or somthing of the like, don't let that be all of the proof, since an suprising number of straight men have viewed gay porn "out of curiosity" (no joke, look up the statistics online).
2007-10-12 15:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Learning Conformity 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I can only go by how I am. I am bisexual and my bisexuality is no secret. I have been in a committed monogamous relationship for nearly 4 years and my partner and I plan to marry soon. It doesn't need to be a problem unless your partner is seeing people behind your back. Your partners sexuality isn't what makes them cheat as straight and gay people cheat also. If your partner says that he can't just be with one gender because of bisexuality, then that's a cop out! He is using his bisexuality as an excuse to justify cheating. If your partner wants to behave like a single man and traipse around with men and women behind your back then he doesn't deserve you.
If someone is cheating on you some signs are staying out late and continuously having stupid excuses for doing it, suddenly buying you more gifts because of guilt. Just notice how he behaves and if it is very different, just ask why? You know your partner better than we do so just look out for changes but don't be obvious because he may not be cheating.
2007-10-12 15:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by sydney77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are cheaters , same as a man who cheats with a woman without his wife knowing or a woman who cheats with a man without her husband knowing.
Try discussing your sexual appetite's with your wife , unless she is a major prude in the sack , you might be surprised at the suggestions she could come up with to help you enjoy both sides of life.
2007-10-12 16:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol i think hanging out with a certain male friend ALOT is one and catching them while they are out somewhere involving alot of men like a club or something and see how they flirt with men and women but that's spying but i think its the most easiest thing to be a bisexual being because you can say "oh no I'm just hanging out with my best friend "while really aren't but if you have your doubts ask them or around
2007-10-12 15:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 9 years and tried to keep it from my wife the fact i'm bi the way I talked about some of my friends ,the life style changed and my attitude for sex had changed i wasn't as involved she finialy figured it out and as long as you are honest with eachother thats all you need
2007-10-12 15:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You need to go to your local library and check out a book called "Down Low Brother" or "On The Down Low". Its a book written by a guy that was married but living a double life. He loved men but he wasn't ready to come out to his family and friends so he tried living the all american dream with a wife and kids until his desires got him caught. His wife caught him sleeping with the pastor from their church and thats when he got a wakeup call. She divorced him and he decided to write a book about down low brothers who live secret lives and the signs that you can pick up on. These men are very crafty because they don't want to believe that they are gay and they are not ready to come public with it so they do all that they can to hide it.
2007-10-12 15:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by concernone 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
are you certain he is bisexual or questioning whether he is having an affair. Two different answers depending on your answer. If he was honest enough with you to tell you that he is bisexual then he trusts you in which case you should ask him
2007-10-12 15:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by Vicki l 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just like anyone hiding something... you can be good at it or you can not be as good at it.. but either way i hope your protecting yourself and your spouse..maybe you should come out to the spouse so you can move on to what you really want.. its not healthy to lead a double life and in the end it will all come out.. but wouldnt you want it to come from you then someone else? good luck
2007-10-12 15:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if they are hanging with men nonstop or talking to them all the time and its like they are more important than wife. If they come home and look at gay porn and if their butt is bleeding that may indicate something.
2007-10-12 15:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
What are you talking about? If a bisexual person gets married, he/she chooses one person (whichever gender one has) to live for the rest of their lives with. Just because a person likes both genders, it doesn't make one constantly wanting other people outside their marriage.
2007-10-12 15:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by terliuke 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋