Wat is this ? My ex, who I love very much, has this other guy, inwhich she has left me for....well, she broke up with me(stress), and met another guy. Off and on she and I have been seeing eachother, then finally broke up about a month ago. She's still with this guy, and she NOW calls him her boyfriend!!!! Anyway, my ex knows how I feel about her. She know that I love her very much, and that I havent gotten over her. Even though Ive made my share of mistakes, I love her. She has called the cops on about 2-3times, because she wanted me to leave her alone.....now about 4 days ago I send her a boucet of roses with a poem, a letter, and a CD with certain songs. Her "boyfriend" obviously didnt like the idea, but she did....anyway, she and I are now and have been for 4 days seeing eachother secretly. We spend time together, secretly, and have sex. But yet she wants to be with this other guy. She knows my intentions. But she says she still loves me. HELP please!!! wat going on????
2007-10-12 15:30:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Im not trying to be a dick, but she sounds like bad news bro. When you think of a good person you want to be with who would treat you good, the way you want to be treated, would you ever imagine a situation like this? Seriously this sounds like a Jerry Springer show waiting to happen. If she would do this to some guy she is currently acting in the role of bf/gf, then she would do the same to you & basically is because she is not treating you right by what she is doing, she is being very selfish by how she is treating both of you. The fact that she has a bf & is having sex with someone else (regardless of your past relationship no matter how recent) throws up a red flag, you need to just leave her regardless of how much it hurts cause the situation your in sounds very unhealthy & painful anyway & I wouldnt be too optimistic about having a loving healthy relationship with this person. I wish you the best.
2007-10-12 15:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. The best thing you can do is cut your loss and move on. There is a reason your ex left you in the first place. Try to recall what it was. I know that in some instances there have been good reconnects, but not in a triangle. You will just get you hopes up and in the long run you will be the one who gets hurt the most. One of the best ways to figure out who you are and what may be going on is to look for a Codependents Anonymous meeting. Believe me it works.
2007-10-12 16:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a girl, and I speak from previous experience, the three top reasons why she hasn't said yes 1) Maybe she's not sure if she wants a relationship yet 2) Has had a previous heartbreak and not sure if she could deal with another one again 3) Maybe is not sure if you're her type or if you will be time consuming That's about it dude if u have more questions I'd be more than happy to answer them Email me!!!!! Hope this Helps
2016-05-22 04:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by freeda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look closely at your needs in this situation. Be strong in you knowing,not in your weaknesses. Don't get caught in a cycle of co-depenecy. Express your intentions from your heart. Ask her for her to make a decision on her own, in her own time. Anything that you have to force with this type of manipulation has either some things that need to be worked out first or is just not meant to be. Do not throw yourself away being attached to an outcome. Feel peace in you ability to love someone, and wait for them to decide.
2007-10-12 15:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by ong.kar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading your problem reminded me of a similar relationship, or I should say addition I had with a person for about 4 years. He would tell me he wanted to be with me then go be with someone else every time. I would be devastated. If I started seeing someone else was usually when he would decide to come back to me. I dropped a few nice guys for this idiot who kept hurting me. I finally figured out if he keeps hurting me it's not real love. Real love is reciprocated. You have to move on. Find someone else who loves you for real. Good luck to you. Don't be her victim anymore take back your life.
2007-10-12 15:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by didderjiddit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this type of girl. If you truly love her, then ask your self why. Weigh the pros and cons and see whether you want to be with someone who doesnt love you. She wasnt concerned about you when she called the cops? Why be with someone like that. I would reveal the secret and then see what she does when the man bails
2007-10-12 15:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by Vicki l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get away from this situation, it is unhealthy for YOU. for her to call the cops on you then go and sleep with you (while she has her new boyfriend) is rude and cruel to your feelings.
for you to have such an obsession is also unhealthy, maybe you should go on a holiday? I am not very good at articulating myself but this can not be good for you. sure you love her there is no doubt, but it is a desperate love, not a co dependant love. you should try move on, for her and you.
2007-10-12 15:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by chipped finger nails 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she will call the cops on you then I don't think it's worth the effort. Find someone who loves you for you and would never consider being with anyone else.
2007-10-12 15:42:58 · answer #8 · answered by Kelsey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, baby if you were my son, I'd be telling you to run and run fast.
Please remember, she cheated on you once and is now cheating to be with you. She is the proverbial "the grass is always greener on the other side" kind of person.
Besides you don't know what kind of diseases you may be exposing yourself to.
2007-10-12 15:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm shure you both have strong feelings for oneanother yet it seems as if she only loves you for the lifestyle and sex take it slow and don't waste your money on her
2007-10-12 15:38:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋