wen every1 was aganist her cause she bragged, sucked up to teachers, talked fake about ppl, i stood up for her and hung out with her. now, we are in high school and she's ok with every1. but she's being so btchy to me. we are in the same jrotc class, (jrotc is a program that has a set up kinda like the army expect it's junior and in hs) and she's sucking up like crazy to our leader and doing the meanest things to me. and she talks to my friends and gets them to act weird around me. she thinks she knows everything. my sister is the second highest person in the whole program so ppl are expecting so much of me. but i'm shy and quiet and that girl is so loud. even my sister said she can make it to the top and she doesn't think i can cause i'm reallyyyy shy and quiet. i can't stand up for myself.
2007-10-12 14:57:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Girl, I'm sorry that that happened to you! It sounds to me like this girl is jealous and intimidated by you. You may not believe it, but that's why she is try to upstage you. Don't worry, everything comes out in the wash. You can be shy, and still be a strong person. You obviously have some sort of strength because you're in that program in the first place. ( unless your in it because your big sister is. In that case I say get in where you fit in). You gave this girl a lot of your energy when she needed, it will come back to you. If your "friends" are acting weird around you because of this girl, I'd question their loyalty. You don't need to be rude, or loud to be strong, and because you helped this girl when she needed it, positivity is on your side. Just wait it out, and be strong from the inside! In time everything will work it self out. She will get what she deserves.
Good luck, and...keep yourt head up!!
2007-10-12 15:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply speak the truth. Just calm her down and look her straight in the eye. And tell her nicely " Karen i would really appreciate it if you would stop tying to get a hold of me. I'm sorry i don't feel the same way about you . i would like to be friends with you but you actually have to listen to what i say or don't come around me. When you bug me it makes me not want to be around you. do you understand?" and then work something out. Simply tell everyone politely that you are not with Karen. and Remember someday you may be the one head over heels and the girl might think your a freak.
2016-05-22 04:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First,you should no longer consider this girl a friend,if you still do. She has no loyalty or conception of real friendship. If she's
doing mean things,it's because she thinks you will let her.
I know you're very quiet and shy,but you have to force yourself
to stand up to her or she'll continue to walk all over you.
Get loud yourself and make it clear you're fed up with her,
and why. You may find you have more allies than you think
if she's really that obnoxious.People like that are often their
own worst enemies,since others can usually see through
them,and then karma comes into it. What goes around comes around.
2007-10-12 15:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just doesn't appreciate all that you did for her. You need to do something to build up your self confidence. I have included a link to a **** as a man thinketh which is excellent, you can order the book think and grow rich if that interests you but you can also just sign up for the inspirational messages there and more. We had one friend who was very shy and in a shell and she came out of that by talking to us online so perhaps you may find a site where you can find friends, perhaps Pogo games in one of the teen rooms. good luck to you!!
2007-10-12 15:14:58 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry thats happening to u. I'm also a shy and quiet type person maybe jr rotc and the military is not something that fits ur personality and this is a devine message to let u know that now and ur will be happier down the road
2007-10-12 15:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kinda went through the same thing.
but my mother told me that i needed to speak up for myself even though i was afraid too. she told told me to not let people walk over me. i took her advice and confronted the girl i was having problems with. it took guts and i was shaking the whole time from being nervous, but after doing so i grew some confidence. sometimes you just need to call people out on their ****.
it might give you the confidence you need to make it to the top.
2007-10-12 15:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by tiffani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? I think you're in the wrong place girl. Find the things you LOVE to do, and learning how to kill people doesn't seem your style. I wish you well.
2007-10-12 15:05:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats why I got out of NJROTC people expect alot from you.
2007-10-12 15:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by Becca 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋