You may have been reading my recent questions about concerning my sexuality. I have been confused for awhile and now I have to accept who I am. I do not like girls sexually and there is nothing I can do about it. I am a Roman Catholic and If my some of my family members don't accept me so be it. I am who I am. How can I not go back in denial. It can't be a phase because this has been going on for over a year. Please support for who I am because I am gay?
2007-10-12 14:55:22 · 16 answers · asked by A Journey 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Do not go into denial again. You have a right to be happy and you do not have to conform to what other people think is right. Your family is suppose to love you unconditionally. I hope that they will do this. A lot of families don't. It is not a phase. I think that you are just afraid of the rejection of your family. You are right, you are who you are and you cannot change it. Do not let people try to do that to you. Make yourself happy and if they cannot accept it, let them be. No matter how hard you try they might never come around. Live your life for you. Keep your chin up and good luck to you.
2007-10-12 15:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All of us, deep down inside, know who we are. Denial can only last for so long and the internal struggle to be who you are not takes too much of a toll on your mind, body and spirit. When you are young, or when you first realize that being gay is indeed a possibility, it's very confusing and very frightening.
All we've ever wanted is to be accepted for who we are and that is the hardest thing to accomplish...especially with those we love and who are supposed to love us! We face rejection at every intersection of our lives and it wears some people down. Don't let that happen to you, Daniel. Being Roman Catholic will be the heaviest cross you will have to bear, but do not allow the fears to overcome you. You haven't changed! You're still the same person you were yesterday.
I cannot tell you how NOT to go back into denial but I can tell you to gather support within the gay community, be strong, perhaps get some outside help and weather this storm. No matter how many people will want you back the way you were, stand tall and do not take one step backward. Understand their fears and their ignorance on a topic which is far from their norm. I support you and would do so for anyone who is in your position. Hang tough, my friend!
2007-10-12 22:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by Chris B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not sure that u will fall back into a state of denial if u seriously accept that this is u. Hopefully Ur family & friends can accept u 4 u. Good luck!!!
2007-10-12 22:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mz.Cunfuzd*n*luv 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for all of those who will belittle and degrade you for who you are. First you have to accept yourself before you can expect others to accept you for who you are. Put it out in the open talk to those who you know will understand first then slowly work on those who will have a hard time dealing with the fact that you are gay. There is no easy way to go about it sorry to say. I had a friend once who married a transexual Gina had already had the surgery before they met and when he met her he was addicted to drugs she helped him through it and when she finally told him she used to be a man he didn't care because he had already fallen in love with her for who she was then not who she was before. It was sweet. I cried when they told me the story.
Good Luck
2007-10-12 22:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude theirs nothing wrong with being gay besides I'm also Catholic. if you don't want to go back into denial then just accept your self for who you are. yeah most people will criticize you but you should stand up in what you believe, no one should tell you how you should live your life.
Good luck dude
2007-10-12 22:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by D.J. Corona 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Another Catholic here.
You have evolved more in your life than the Church, so it is time to demand of the Church and your relatives and friends who support it to evolve and support you.
I will not support the Church until they drop the GLBT hate.
2007-10-12 22:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only way I guess would be to allow gradual acceptance to grow within you along with a feeling of it being ok.
2007-10-12 22:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well sit down with your parents and let them know your gay not by choice but by instinct.Maybe its time to go to a more rescptive church .Maybe its time to go get some supportive friends have you joined any groups ? you need a support system to live your life and be happy.
2007-10-12 22:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-10-13 05:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
start eduacting yourself about homosexuality... find a support group in your area... google "gay teen" and your area to find something... i'll help you if you have trouble... you need to talk to other people... face to face... who are going through what you are going through... and as far as religion... I'll give you a link to something i think you should read... written by a guy who did a LOT of research.. please take the time... and keep me posted...
2007-10-12 22:16:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋