Need motivation to keep on going?

Question

Hello,
lately I've been a bit depressed and frustrated with the fact that ,no matter how hard i try, i don't seem to be able to change and make the progress i want to make in my life. I am turning 17 pretty soon and I am not the person who i wanted to be at that age and i am certianly not satisfied with my life. I think i might have self-esteem problems and that's why i get easily discouraged. I don't want to give up, I want to be strong and change but I don't feel the strenght or motivation to keep on going. I can't help this feeling of frustration. Any advice or help please?
I would really appreciate it.

Answer 1

Make this day the start of the rest of your life. What i mean by this is start today working to become the person you wanted to be ...sure you not be the person you wanted to be at 17 but its a hell of a lot better realizing it now vrs when you are sitting alone in an apartment at 30. Just start becoming to be the person you want to and don't lose that focus man you can do it

Answer 2

Sure that age is a pain in the butt. I suggest you get some really top grade fish oil like from Zone. It helps with depression. You can also go to the drugstore or health food store and buy some St. John's Wort. In Europe that prescribe that for 90% of the depressed patients over there, even though they can get these expensive SSRIs, like Prozac, Effexsor for little of nothing.

If you feel irritable on the stuff then you know you don't have a serotonin problem.

ONe thing I think about is what I have t be thankful for. You know I have freinds in wheel chairs and stuff like that, so it is great that I can walk, see, enjoy life. As far as your situatin, you have acomputer, you could live in a area where you couldn't go out at night without getting robbed or worse.

If you don['t have an expository Bible I suggest you go to jsm.org. They had a 2,500 page expository bible on sale for only $30. Most sell for $120-200 so this is a good deal. Once you get it read it. It is the King James Version, with the Elizabethen pronouns changed so it's easier to read and it explains all verses. Wish I had had one before now.

Trust me this thing you are going through should pass. If you think it will help see ashrink, but talk to your friends and family. Work it out. jjtake care.

Answer 3

You may not want to hear this, but you are ONLY 17. There are so many people who are not where they want to be when they're 35, 55, etc.. 17 is a bit early to get too discouraged. Soon you will be graduating from high school, going to college, and having so many new experiences. You will have the opportunity to really blossum. Even if college isn't in your plans, you will soon be independent. You have so much time left to become who you want to be. Set some goals. Make a specific plan for how you will reach those goals. Make a list of things you want to accomplish in the next year, 5 years, 10 years, etc. and work on achieving those things.

Answer 4

first step is to forget where you are
it doesn't matter that you are not the person you want to be right now; there's always more time; there's always second chances
and if you believe you have failed miserably, look man
every failure can bring the seed of a future success... it's true!!

now...calm down a bit and look around.... Where do you want to be? What do you want to do when you grow up? What would you love to do? Ask yourself what your talents, skills, and interests and align those with that which you would love to do? Maybe you want to be a doctor, a businessman, an engineer, a writer... etc... whatever it is, set your sights on it

STOP dissipating your energy on things that seem to matter to you right now (such as social issues, friends, girls, games, tv shows, anything else, etc) - just focus most of your energy in one direction because sooner or later you'll realize if you do so, friends will come into your life, happiness will come into your life, girls will come into your life
as you work for your dream, you'll realize everything you want will come... just be patient

fuel your desire to go after what you truly want and forget the rest
i assure you what you truly want will encompass the rest along the way

Answer 5

Take a day to sit down and look at everything. Grab some pieces of paper and seperate them into two categories. One being the things you have that make you happy and the things that you would most want to look forward to. Perhaps marriage, a good job, a Porche or something. Then, the other side, make the category that makes you so depressed and the things that bring you down. Jot these things down and begin analyzing them. It doesn't matter if one side is bigger than the other. Just analyze each one. The goods and the bads and just ask yourself why they make you happy or sad. Don't go into huge answers with them. Just anwer very simply in your head. Like: Why do I like Ice Cream? Because it's delicious. That simple. Once you've analyzed these goods and bads, begin reflecting on them and try to build yourself upon the goods and try to make the bads INTO goods. Think about reasons and motivate yourself to make the bads into goods and determine yourself to try and strive for the goods and make them BETTER! And then just tell yourself that you will not go quietly into the night like a whimper in the dark! You will not vanish without a fight and stand up to these problems and strive for the future! You're going to live on and survive! and go into tomorrow as if you were born again and see each day as a whole new day to continue your motivation to fix yourself and rid yourself from these problems!

Answer 6

Don't feel hopeless or depressed, you are only 17 years old and have your whole life ahead of you and you will do a lot of changing in that time. You have plenty of time to become the kind of person you want to be. You are so young and you need to just relax, and you will eventually find yourself and discover who you are in this life. Just don't give up, I know that life can be pretty frustrating at times but that doesn't mean you have to give up...just keep going and good things will come to you.

Answer 7

Look, i'm over 17 and probably still going through the same problems...but who the hell gives a **** really? Thats what you have to say to your self. Not everyone is looking deeply into you and if they don't like it they can screw off. Find a way to slowly improv yourself. I'm taking various Martial Arts which helps DRASTICALLY with self-esteem!! No kidding. Just set goals for YOURSELF and don't worry about everyone else. Everyones different you know

Answer 8

You are still so young! I know most, if not all of us have expectations and set out life goals to which we feel we must reach at a certain point (age)... but of course, it's never that easy. Not to mention that our expectations of what we want in the future now may not be the same when we get there. Anyways, don't give up. Your still so young and you have plenty of time to become who you want to be.

Answer 9

At your age this maybe a hormonal (psychical) condition if this is not the case then one might consider or at least have a look at the way one thinks and about what .....make notes to yourself , ask why was I thinking that, if it's a thought thats not in your best interest,... dismiss it (after all it's your brain you can choose what you think about ) think whats in your best interest, ...ex' if you think oh I can't do that... STOP ask yourself why not ....you are smart young man, if you have not already found a mentor go find someone who YOU know has the goods and learn from them self improvement is a admirable ambition,,..good for you .you'l get there .

Answer 10

You may just need some direction. Try setting goals, preferably ones that are attainable. If you set your goals too high you will be setting yourself up for disappointment. I want to recommend a book to you that has been helpful for me when I feel a little down. It's called, "Feeling Good" by David Burns, M.D. I think I'll read it again now.