say you have been married for 3 and a half years and he has threatened you many times but has yet to do so......do you still think he will?
2007-10-12 14:10:28 · 20 answers · asked by naomihank 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ex threatened to hit me once. I told him go ahead, I'll get my gun. As you notice, he's my ex. No one hits me, no one!!
2007-10-12 14:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that I will say, is that you are getting the warning signs that so many people ignore. You always hear of so many women that have endured so much over the years. The ones that survive, they all say that it started out with verbal threates, they thought that it would get better, or that maybe they deserve it. The truth is no one deserves to be treated like dirt. couples do have there share of disagreements,but when your spouse threatenes physical harm, it's time to get out. You have to understand that he is mentally breaking you down and the longer you stay in ,IT WILL BECOME VIOLENT!!! There is no doubt about that.. Love yourself more that that.
2007-10-12 15:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by mamachellwood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a kickboxing class, and if he ever tries to hit you, kick the crap out of him. And don't look back after you divorce him, and possibly call the cops on him and press charges. The find a REAL man who won't lay a hand on you or threaten you. I think he threatens because he is a coward and he wants to control you and this is his only way. I don't know you but I know you are better than this. Maybe look into counseling. But maybe on the down low you could seriously think about taking a self defense class if you think you are in danger. It never hurts to be able to protect yourself.
2007-10-12 17:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends. It sounds like he is cryig out for help. Try to get him to talk with someone. Maybe you both could do it together. If he refuses, you may be setting yourself up for trouble. Remember, never let anyone determine your worth. If you are feeling threatened, you have to taek care of yourself. If you don't respect yourself by doing the right thing, he definitely won't respect you. Sometimes serious actions have to be taken for there to be change. Hope all goes well for you and hang tight. But most of all......take care of you !
2007-10-12 14:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Shirley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to control you..........I think you need to get out of that relationship, or set some ground rules. Many men want to know how far they can go with their spouses....If he knows he can run over you, he will. The fact that he keeps threatening to hit or hurt you shows he has some serious anger issues, and you may need to get out before it gets too late.
2007-10-12 14:18:25 · answer #5 · answered by biancabass83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps if she stopped being afraid of just the threats he would take it up another notch an hit or harm her. On the other hand, this is domestic violence whether physical or not because it could become physical very easy. she should contact a domestic violence group in her area to learn more, and then divorce the guy!!
2007-10-12 14:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stupid, dung-mongering riffraff! What kind of cave man hits a woman? It's the same as running over someone in a car; It will haunt your conscience for the rest of your life!
2007-10-12 15:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by nitemareslayer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man who threatens to hurt his wife, who he's supposed to love, honor, treasure and protect, doesn't deserve a wife. The threat of violence is just as horrible as the actual act and yes, he will act upon his word if you continue to hang around with him.
Hell no, I wouldn't stay with that jerk!!!
2007-10-12 14:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you do not stay....
Threatening to hit you is to keep you under his thumb. If you stay compliant he'll keep on threatening....if you stand up to him he'll probably go to the next level and hit you....
GET OUT NOW.
2007-10-12 14:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Living in fear that one day he might would make me go.
I lived through the threats which eventually turned into physical it did take me awhile to go I kept thinking I could change him that one day he would love me for staying, that day never came and I left in a ambulance.
2007-10-12 14:20:35 · answer #10 · answered by lucidwillow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, you may not believe this because of everything you have been through your whole intire life BUT that man DOES NOT,
and I repeat DOES NOT love you. He may think he does and you may think he does but this is deffinetly NOT love. He has serious control issues. You need to leave this man "YESTERDAY" Get out of there NOW before he makes good on his threats. there is something terribly wrong. You need to get out of there and come home immediatly! I am serious. PLEASE come home to your family and the people who love you unconditionally. STOP THE MADNESS before its to late.
2007-10-12 15:01:10 · answer #11 · answered by rocky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋