Do You Subscribe to This Philosophy?

Question

A REASON, A SEASON, A LIFETIME

People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason, you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.

LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life.....

Answer 1

I believe that folks are drawn to certain people at different times in our lives, depending on where we are at the time. They'll be friends as long as both people contribute to the friendship. When one person does all the giving and the other all the taking, it's no longer a friendship. Life is like chapters of a book, some characters make it to the next chapter and some are left behind. Whatever the case, we go on, we meet new people, and we know that the next person, might just be our next friend. I feel that many of the people on here are friends I've just never met.

Gosh, I'm not very deep, so you sure are making me think tonite. lol

Answer 2

I certainly do. I wish I had learned this when I was young or
even as old as middle aged. It would have helped me to
understand why some things happen as they do. Learning to
accept lifes' disappointments so often is not an easy chore.
And since I learned this philosophy a few years ago,when I
first saw in on the internet, it all makes sense to me now. I have had friendships that I assumed would last my lifetime. And was so often disappointed when they didn't.
And yet, I have met people for say a few minutes, that made
a definate impact on how I was feeling that day, and thought
of them for days after.
And yet, I am thankful to have one long lasting relationship
that has brought me satisfaction and affection, as if she was the sister, I should have had. We've been supportive of
each other for all our lives and expect to be til the last.
I see another relationship that began when we were
in 6th grade when she basically became my 'shadow'. We
were really like sisters back then. And that all changed when
I introduced her to a boy, she'd later marry, and our friendship
would start to drift further and further apart over the years. To the extent that now I see her once or twice perhaps in any given year. If it weren't for my frequent contact by emailing, she might possibly call only during the holidays to see if I'm still alive.
Another relationship I find is already severing as she has
so many irons in the fire since she retired, that she's a very busy lady. I find I'm getting some sarcasm in her emails, which seems so unlike her friendly Christian nature. So I am willing to let her go, even tho, I don't understand what her issue might be with me.
But you know one of the strangest things happened once
when I began working at a dept store for some Christmas
cash. And the first dept. manager I had as my supervisor,
struck me as someone I had known a long time ago and I
couldn't place where I knew her. She in turn, said she
thought that when she saw me also. And she couldn't remem-
ber where. We asked a few questions about possible places
we might have known one another. And never could come up
with any answers. So that is one of lifes' mysteries I suppose.
But strange, we both felt like we knew each other from somewhere in our more youthful past.
I wonder why it is, that you can meet someone you enjoy
being with, right from your very first introduction. Maybe
just during a pause of an hour or even less during
your day. And they can make an impact on your heart and
mind. While there are others who grate on your nerves like
squeaky chaulk on a blackboard and you can't wait to get
away from them?
When I look back over the years of my life, I can't begin to
remember names, that go to faces I recall knowing or caring
about. I tend to wonder about them, more now than before. Curious to know who's still alive, and who isn't. Who became successful and who remained just run of the mill. It's too bad we can't have the option of having a life reunion one day as the elderly people we now are, and meet once again all of those friendly faces that we enjoyed having the pleasure of knowing. If only for a moment, or for a season, or a definate reason. It's easy now, to put them into the different categories to explain matters.
And I wonder now, do they think to remember me?

Answer 3

This is part of my belief in life....relationships form and end in life, one way or another, but while they are viable, they are there for a reason...it is me who does the choosing for whatever reason at that time, conscience or un. We are all like this. There have been a few times in my life when I have met someone new, I knew them, period. (Past life experience) There are those who walk into my life I do not/have not known and we learn from each other, at least until we are of no use to each other any longer...that is ok. And in my life, I have found a few life-long relationships that are of two types...past life experience, or this life only experience...either way, it is mutually beneficial. That is ok too.
I don't question why another comes into my life, I welcome all who make an effort, and I have certainly been welcomed into many other's lives when I make an effort. Let's face it...friendship requires energy and effort at all times. As we move through life, our energies and directions change, as do our friendships....it seems to be ok with everyone.
I know I have not learned all the lessons I came to learn in this lifetime, for I am still alive. Simple as that. Love and peace, Goldwing (Phil)

Answer 4

I JUST GOT A "FORWARD" ABOUT THIS VERY SAME THING THIS WEEK. DID YOU GET THE SAME ONE??? It had pictures with it. Wonder if I saved it in my folders..but would probably be too much to put on here. They probably copied it from that magazine..this philosophy. Weird.
EDIT..I found it..it had a baby at the end of it. That was so good. I sent it to some friends that haven't written me back in awhile...because I felt like it applied to the situation.(our needs for each other had been met and maybe it was time for us to move on) (sad)

Answer 5

A Reason, Season or Lifetime, you don't know with each person you meet into which category they will fall. Everyone has a potential to be in your life forever

Answer 6

I agree with that philosophy. I've had people enter my life and change it forever.
What we have to remember is that sometimes we are put in places that make us uncomfortable. There is a lesson there too. Sometimes WE are the "Godsend" designed to help someone through a rough patch in THEIR life. In the process, we change and become different people too. It's an intriguing cycle.

Answer 7

I truly believe this. Exactly as you put it. Only, I don't like good byes. The trouble is, that a lot of people miss that opportunity, when someone crosses their path for a season or a reason.

Answer 8

No I don't really. Please don't take offence but all that sounds like some airy fairy nonsense.
People come and go, situations come and go, circumstances are always changing. What happens happens.

I agree with what the bible says at Ecc 9: 11 "time and unforeseen occurrence befall us all"

Answer 9

that's brilliant, I have always felt like that.So many people have moved through my life over the years.Some were gone fast,some stayed a longer time,some are still there.Even the ones who caused me terrible pain brought something to me...each person has been a gift.(with some of them it takes longer for me to say "thank you",though!)

Answer 10

When I think about it, think it's a very valid observation. It truly puts more depth to the living experience.