Is it understandable? Opinions please.
2007-10-12 13:16:19 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i recently talked about this with a my cousin and we both (women) said it is acceptable.
2007-10-12 13:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by not this way 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The answer to your question is NO, it is NOT ACCEPTABLE. No man should lay a hand on any women. Take your anger to the gym and when it's out of your system, then return and talk to your spouse.
When you are angry things can happen that are not in your control.
As much as it hurts...you have to put it on the scales. Does the good out weigh the bad? If it does than there is room for forgiveness. You can get through it, yes you would have to build the trust again and she should be fine with that if she truly loves you.
When tragic events happen like this...it takes time to heal and it shouldn't be rushed. Talk to one another, find out what she is missing, find out how you can help the relationship to grow better. Do things that you wouldn't normally do...put some excitement back into your lives. Go into different rooms and chat though IM's. This is good therapy, she would love you for it later.
Build the bond you had from the beginning and stay optimistic it will work out in the end.
2007-10-12 15:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by Big Chief 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what the word rule of thumb means?? Its means you can hit your wife with anything that is as wide as your thumb or smaller. So if your hand is wider than your thumb.... by the rule of thumb... you may have acted a little hasty. Next time, you need to discipline your wife use a fireplace poker. That would be more acceptable. And if that doesn't work... try rubbing her eye with a pickle.
2007-10-12 16:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by hermies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating isn't acceptable, but neither is violence. You punishing her lack of self control with your own doesn't make you the bigger person. What she did was wrong, and it is understandable to want to act on your anger, but in all reality you should have handled it differently. You are hurt. I am sorry for your pain. I hope you can get through it. If not, I hope you find someone else who can love you and respect you for who you are without straying.
2007-10-12 17:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, what an immoral and irrational thing of you to do!!
She needs much more than a simple "Love Tap", at least throw her clothes & belongings outside (in Flames is a good option) and lock the door. Tell her that this act resembles the Love that once was and never will be... tossed aside and up in smoke!
2007-10-12 14:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable, but not acceptable. You should just walk away until you cool off enough to talk to your wife in a civil manner. It's not easy, but it's the best way. Good luck.
2007-10-12 13:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by ♥sick n tired♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't lower your standards to her level.Sometimes this is what the guilty party wants to happen. This gets the guilt off of them , call law enforcement and then you are arrested. Then you have another problem. Just get away from her to clear your thoughts , and think positive about what needs to be done as far as the marriage. Talk to see what the problem is and try couseling. Never resort to violence , that really doesn't solve anything.
2007-10-12 14:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by Thunder 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your rage, anger, hurt and humiliation, but hitting is never the answer. Get yourself a good lawyer and knock her socks off in court. Beat her that way. I'm sorry once a cheater always a cheater. You deserve better... been thru that its tough but later you'll come out ok.
2007-10-12 14:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a BIG NO NO.
Domestic violence is domestic violence no matter how you try to justify it.
It is never acceptable to hit your spose. Not female and not male.
If you feel you have to resort to that kind of behavior then you need to set yourself away from whatever is causing you anger and teach yourself some self control.
2007-10-13 04:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by KE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable, but it's not acceptable. Apologize for what you did and resolve to never have it happen again. There's no sense in stooping to her level. Work through it as adults. Best of luck.
2007-10-12 17:15:58 · answer #10 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha! how acceptable would be for me to punch you in the nuts? Understandable that someone could lose control yes. Acceptable no.
2007-10-12 14:13:07 · answer #11 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋