....ok my boyfriends parents found out we had sex.... and now his moms making us 2 break up... but hes telling them hes breaking up with me but hes really not.... but i just cant believe his mom is trying to take him away from me... i dont know what to do... our 1 year anniversary is coming up nov 8... and she just split us up.... and i cant talk to him on the phone or see him outside of school... and his birthday is 2 weeks after our 1 year anniversary.... im so heart broken.... and his mom says she "doesnt hate me"... then why would she do this when she knows were in love?? (Please dont say anything like i dont know what love is i am 17 and my boyfriend is 15.. 16 in nov...)..... but his mom would want me over their house when were allowed by her rule to get back together in her eyes... but i CANNOT be around her after this.... so can some one answer all the questions.... sorry its so long.... thank you....
2007-10-12 12:50:17 · 30 answers · asked by ♫♪Expecting #1!! ♫♪ :} ♥june 15, 2011♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
For one thing, sex makes babies, and apparently she is a caring mother who doesn't want grandchildren from a teenage daughter.
You can be in love, but you are VERY young. Are you ready to be a parent? Are you willing to stay home and nurture a baby until the year 2025? Do you think having a baby will change your boyfriend? What if he can't handle it? Can you work and raise a baby right now?
The answer to why your boyfriend's mom is reacting this way is in the answers to these questions.
2007-10-12 13:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to hear it, but- YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT LOVE IS. There I said it. What you do know is what's called infatuation. Love starts about 2-3 years after that first kiss.
Parents get mad, because they don't want you to become pregnant. And guess what? It's their right! He's their child.
Were you guys using protection? Even if so, it's not full-proof.
Are you ready to become a mom, get married, get a full time job, raise a baby to the best of your ability? You have no idea how hard it is. Live your life, be young, go to college, have fun. Don't make the same mistakes that so many before you have. It's much easier if you get all that out of the way before you become a mom.
I became a father at 19, and that was still too young!
I know it's hard to understand, but now, at 31, I'm just starting to feel grown up.
Look, if it's true love, nothing will separate you. So relax, time apart will only make it stronger. You will change your mind about 89 different times about 50 different important things in your life in the next 10 years. So don't rush it.
2007-10-12 20:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Marc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always tough to be young. Unfortunatly some of us parents forget what it was like to be in love when they were young or maybe the problem is they remember too much what it was like and fear that their children will do the things they wish they did and have regrets. Try to understand that they love you and are concerned for your well being or at least I hope that would be the reason. Now I have not gotten to that stage with my children yet because they are much younger then you but it is something that I will have to be ready to address when they start to become curious about love and sex. I will try to enforce the idea of protection rather the prevension. Even I know that kids and young adults will do what they want when you are not around. Try to talk to her with your boyfriend and express your love for each other and that you are taking the necessary precausions when making love. Love know no age. Just be careful okay.
2007-10-12 20:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by Bradley R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to choose the answer u want. Be open to receive advice from ppl who definitely are more mature, more experienced than u are. Parents understand things u can never understand at 17. Ppl engage in sexual relationships at 17, even below, but that's not the best thing to do. No parent will encourage ttheir children to begin to have sex at this stage in their lives. Even legally, u are not permitted to be self-responsible at 17. What to do now? Respect the boy's parents' wish - that must also correspond with the wishes of your own parents. You can continue to be friends, but u must take sex off the relationship for now. When the time is ripe for sex, u will experience normal feeling of independence, which will make u arrange to have sex safely and privately, without your parents getting to know about it. So get right back to your school work while u get more mature.
2007-10-12 20:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by Nolly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off his parents probably got upset because he is 15 years old sex is not just all fun and games you have to be smart about it maybe she is just being a mom and doesn't think the two of you are responsible enough to be having sex..and i know you asked not to say this but at 17 and 15 you really dont know what love is especially a 15 year old boy are you on birth control? and using protection? as a young mother of two i can tell you its a lot of work to have kids at a young age maybe if you can show her how mature you two can be about the situation she will reconsider...maybe..
2007-10-13 01:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by bellababi44 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His parents are mad because at your ages you arent prepared to deal with the possible consequences of sex, and no matter how careful you are ther can be consequences. At 15 yrs old do you honestly think that he is prepared to be a father or that you are prepared to be a mother? Of course not because at your ages you have no idea of that really means. I don't want to sound like i am insulting or judging you, I did the same things at your age and i was extremely lucky, some of my friends weren't and were parents before they were out of high school and ALL of them have had to struggle ever since. There are plenty of ways the two of you can be intimate and even sexual without having sex.
What you need to do is tell his mom that you realize the ramifications of your actions and that you made a mistake. And you have to understand that its not just your relationship that is at stake it is your entire futures.
2007-10-12 20:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by Bishop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say so dear, but you ARE only 17, you only THINK you know what love is. Chances are you still won't know at 30. People constantly change and very few romances make it past high school...most high school relationships barely make it past a few months.
Chances are you won't stop having sex, but maybe you should think about why you are having sex to begin with. If you can't face his mother now because she found out, then you are probably lacking the maturity that should be present when sex is involved. Same goes for being able to talk about sex, if you can't talk about it, then you shouldn't be doing it.
So, what is sex doing for you at your age anyway? Please make sure you are you using protection. Against pregnancy and STD's. Have you talked to your boyfriend about STD's? They are very real and do not discriminate.
Do you want kids now? If your birth control fails are you prepared to spend 9 months pregnant? To push an 8lb child out? Are you ready to possibly have your vagina or belly cut open? Are you ready to have streach marks and saggy breasts? Are you financially able to support a child? If not, then are you prepared to have an abortion or ready to give up a baby for adoption?
Your boyfriend's mother...maybe she knows more about your boyfriend than you do...maybe he isn't quite as in love with you as you think. Or she may not want her son to regret what comes with sex. (Unwanted babies, STD's, bad reputations, heartbreak) She is trying to protect her child, maybe she has seen what can happen, and doesn't want the same for either of you.
Good luck & please, be careful...
2007-10-15 16:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found this rather interesting website for you after reading your question. You are rather fortunate his Mom doesn't hate you. http://www.avert.org/aofconsent.htm Please read and look at the site. You could be charged with statutory rape in some states or countries. At least wait until he's 16. Respect his Mothers wishes and the law. Apologize to his Mother and agree to respect her decision to protect her son until he is of age to decide for himself. Assure her that you made a mistake and love her son and would never wish him harm. She sounds cool. She may get over it sooner than you think. Stand up and do the right thing. I understand how you feel. My first boyfriend was over age and I was underage. The law did make us make think and make our decision maturely. No regrets. Move forward. I'm sorry you have been going through this pain.
Take care,
Jen
2007-10-12 20:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a once teenager (who felt the same way)- its your parents job to protect their children. IT is their job to make sure nothing bad happens to them, and they learn how to be a responsible adult. If you guys love each other (which I am sure you really do), you will have a long time to "make love" to each other. There is no need to rush all that now. Coming from some one who had a child at a pretty young age, you have your whole life ahead of you! Rushing things in life (not just physical things), takes the meaning out of it.
2007-10-12 19:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by Amber H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she is worried about her son-sorry, but both of you are very young to make a committment. Teenagers are notorious for not always thinking about responsibility-this is why teen pregnancy is so high-not to mention STDs. She is just trying to protect her son.
If you truly care for each other you should be willing to wait-if you show that you are serious she will probably relent to some extent. But if you insist that sex be a part of the relationship, I have to wonder which organ you are thinking with.
2007-10-12 19:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by barbara 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋