My wife have been flirting with a female friend and now they have agreed to have a threesome. It sounds fine to me, however, and as it would be the first time for all; I would like some advise how to handle better the session in bed to come. Just want to make sure I secure pleasure for all of us and I have to admit that all XXX films that deal with that kind of situation would not be the right model to follow as there are no nerves involved and they are not first timers, are they? ;-)
-please only serious answers, I need all the advise-
2007-10-12 12:40:00 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-10-12 12:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 4⤋
Well first, if SHE'S experimenting, at first don't be physically involved. Let her explore with the other lady. Might not even be there the first time. Because she's going to be uncomfortable so that could make it a bad experience. Second, make sure your wife knows and understands (and you stand by your words) that regardless of what happens, you are not leaving her for some other woman. Usually in a MFM or a FMF situation, the odd person out (the one in the middle) is there to be pleased. Now if your wife and this lady are going to have sexual interaction with each other, then I would say that FOREPLAY is your friend. So to please both of them, before you ever get yours, you and the other lady lick, kiss, use toys, or whatever it is you do to your wife first. Then you and your wife do it to the other lady. Then it's your turn. LOTS of foreplay. Prabably going to get lock jaw. haha.
I would also advise that, most especially the first time, that after everyone is satisfied, then the third person has to go. This is the time that you cuddle with your wife and do all those things that women like to do when it's just you two and you just finished. This keeps her special to you and assures that you're not going to be doing something behind your back.
Oh, I forgot some important stuff. First, you and your wife have to have rules. Ones I've had in the past were things like, Have to have condoms, no doing her in my g-f favorite positions, she had to leave when we were done. The MOST important one that all should have (especially starting) that the only time you stick your D**K in another P***Y is when she is present and participating with. And the same goes for her. This way it's never any sex out side off the relationship. That really isn't limited to male to female.. That's female to female too. Because if one or the other isn't involved and with out permission it's called cheating.
That should get you started. There are a lot of swinging sites on the net that give ideas, rules, experiences, etc.
stories I write of this nature are on my 360 profile and http://xxtazy.kicks-***.net/links.htm to get an idea of my experiences. But know that my woman is number one and if she says she doesn't want to ever do that again that is fine by me.
Oh, btw, I don't know if you wear the pants or not, but in this situation, she's in control, because if she's not comfortable and you force it, she'll hate it and never do it again AND it will cause problems at home.
2007-10-12 13:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by phukme69style 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Two Women In Bed
2016-09-28 05:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys are crazy. I know some people are really into this, but I think most people go into the marriage into this sort of thing. In that case, it works. But to start this new thing after the "I do's", I think you are asking for trouble.
You need to seriously ask your wife if she will be able to look at YOU in the morning and still respect you for what you did the night before. You need to ask her if she can live with the fact that you gave yourself to another woman. I personally, could not live with that. And me and my husband toyed around with the idea of 3some for years, and I am so glad I came to my senses and it never happened. It would make me sick to see my husband boink another woman, to have to realize every day for the rest of my live that my friend knows how my husband is in bed and how big he is, etc. No way, not for me. I hope you two really understand just how big of a step you are taking and the odds are against you both that this marriage will last much longer after your 3some. Think about it a little more and may you make the best choice.
2007-10-12 13:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well first off - I wouldn't advise doing it - you're heading for trouble in your relationship - but it sounds like your mind is made up......
If you ARE going to do this:
1) Discuss any limits that you all three have BEFORE the action starts. Some women might be fine with you having sex with her friend, but get jealous if you kiss her friend. Is your spouse going to be up for oral (or even regular) AFTER you've been in another gal, or does she get to go first because she's YOUR wife? These are details that need to be considered. You need to consider this and KNOW any limits going in.
2) Make sure you prime your pump (so to speak) and take a little blue pill (get the Rx from your doc). I would bet that with the excitement of two gals at once - you are likely to get "over-stimulated" and you might be finished before they even get started. Then noone (especially the ladies) would be satisfied and will not likely be willing to repeat the act. (at least not with YOU involved)
You're going to need to be a stud in the sack - so make sure you don't go off 1/2 ****** and that you can last as long as BOTH partners need you to to satisfy them both.
Good luck - I think you're going to need it :)
2007-10-12 12:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by aa889d 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The issue should not be forced. Invite the friend over, have a few drinks relax and go with the flow. I got the feeling your wife is more interested in the other woman then you, but is including you so she does not feel guilty for cheating. Just remember, from that moment on your marriage will never be the same and not for the best either.
2007-10-12 12:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Well it's funny the same thing happened to my friend and he asked me about the same thing . You know what happened, they had there little threesome and he said it was good. they had about 2 or 3 more then he was phased out . turns out the two women were Bi curious, then after some trial runs with a man in bed they decided they didn't need him any more, now my friend is with someone else. and his EX and the third are legal partners. Just a thought for you.
2007-10-12 12:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by Drake Deth 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Well, first I would take viagra! Watch some X rated movies for some hints. However, you will be surprised at how natural all this will turn out once you get going. Also, have a couple of drinks (all of you) to loosen up for the event.
2007-10-12 13:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by dearly23 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It can be pleased by licking pussy of a women n massaging other women by hand n then the same should be done to anotheri think that both ll be satisfied
2015-12-06 14:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by raj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with the flow if you like to drink. Have a few drinks and relax. I'm sure by the end of the night everything will come together. Hope you have a blast. It can be alot of fun.
2007-10-12 18:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by rene1695 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go slow and ensure that you don't ignore your wife. In fact, make sure you pay extra attention to her. Let the women start and follow their lead. If you remember that the ladies run the show, you won't have any problems.
I made the mistake of thinking we were going to spoil the other woman and didn't give equal attention to my wife. She let me know that I screwed up. We should have talked about it before it ever happened but we didn't. Now we discuss everything before anything ever happens. Good Luck and enjoy it!!!
2007-10-12 13:06:06 · answer #11 · answered by M M 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋