I'm not wanting a baby shower - this is my second pregnancy and with my first I had two thrown for me. I just want to do something intimate, like with only family - no friends - where I cook dinner and serve desert and they bring little baby item gifts (like lotions, and babywash, diapers.. not clothes or more expensive things) Another reason I want to do this is because, in my son's scrapbook, with the two baby showers, it looks like people were WAY excited that he was coming - if we don't do anything for this baby, I'm afraid that when he/she is older, like 5 or 6, he/she will wonder why everyone was excited about older brother, but not him/her. I don't want one feeling less important than the other...
Here's the thing: No one in my family has mentioned a thing about this. Is it okay for me to send out email invites to them for this, if I cook and everything, or will it seem rude of me since I'm the pregnant one?
2007-10-12 12:32:35 · 17 answers · asked by shellj_foxy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
P.S. I'm 7 months pregnant - we didn't find out the sex on purpose.
2007-10-12 12:40:17 · update #1
Well I would just tell family it is an intimate get together to celebrate not only this new life but to celebrate your son becoming a big brother (because it is a fun important job) But I would not mention anything about gifts if they choose to bring something that should be left up to them. Good Luck!!
2007-10-12 12:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy of Two 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a family get-together to celebrate the baby's coming is a great idea, but unless it's called a "baby shower" you can't expect people to bring gifts, and I certainly wouldn't ask them for presents in your dinner invitation.
If you are all together and enjoying yourselves, take photos of the evening and that will be your memento. If you make a neat cake or dessert, photograph that too, as well as some pics of your pregnant tummy.
I'm sure after people get the invites, some will ask if they can bring something or help out, and some may even surprise you with a gift.
Have fun!
2007-10-12 19:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by Veritas 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your saying about the kids feelings but they have to understand that one doesnt always get what the other does. I have three girls and i had a huge shower for the first one and nothing for the other two. Most of the time when you have a baby the people that mean the most to you are going to buy something for the baby anyways. Just make sure to write it down in the book. As for the dinner ... it sounds great but wouldnt it be rude to say "you have to bring a small gift"?
2007-10-12 19:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by beanodom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pregnant with my first and had the same feeling about throwing my own baby shower. It seemed selfish, but if your going to do something small go ahead, but put on your invite no expensive gifts are needed something like that and maybe mention that its an intimate celebration of new life. Good luck with the new baby.
2007-10-12 19:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by JESSICA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why it would be rude. They are the rude ones for not having planned anything for you yet. If it is dinner with close family and friends they should all understand. Maybe you can include them in the plans and have them bring stuff like a potluck. Include your gift specifications in the invites. And make sure to take pics and stuff for the baby's book.
Congrats and have fun!!
2007-10-12 19:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It absolutley is not rude! No matter haw many babies you have, its still a huge deal. There is nothing wrong with you wanting to celebrate this addition to your life. Go for it. I think you'll be suprised with how many people would think it was a fantastic idea. I Threw myself my second baby shower and it was a great time. I did the decorations and the food and came up with games and im proud of it.
2007-10-12 19:39:26 · answer #6 · answered by iuse2becool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no..enjoy your family before the big day..every birth is a blessing and you just want your family there and give you advice/support ect..so go ahead with the intimate family dinner party..I think its more rude of people who have baby showers one their 2 or 3 child it just seems greedy..but who am i to judge.. Good luck..
2007-10-12 19:40:22 · answer #7 · answered by D's Gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's what you want, go for it. Your the pregnant one.
You should try dropping hints or they may be planning a surprise party (I did for my wife) you never know.
I'm also sure people will be excited and happy for the occasion.
But is that what's the most important or is it that your children grow up in a loving and caring enviroment. Which I think he/she will be seeing as you're worried over this.
Take care and don't worry too much.
2007-10-12 19:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by eshelby_dunn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think most of your family & friends will want to throw you a baby shower. However if you let them know that you really don't want anything elaborate they will probally insist on atleast helping you cook for a small gathering at your house.
2007-10-12 19:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Jae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do as you please. It sounds like a great idea to me. I agree, you need to be showered with gifts for your new baby. After all, this baby is speical too. You're thinking ahead about your new baby & I applaud you for that. Not everyone stops to think about throwing a shower for the second child. All the best to you & your new baby.
2007-10-12 19:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋